I actually never lost faith on her. The one time I didn't like her was when she confronted Pallu for her sangeet nightout and the first thing she said was "Kya tu Raghav Rao ke saath thi?"
Not asking if she was safe, not a single hug, not a motherly daant about how worried she got her... but whether she was with RR. I was really, really disappointed by that, bcz I had alot of faith in aai's character before that. I made a full-blown rant on MF, and some ppl told me to calm down 😂😂
But I realised that maybe she was just frustrated that VD was spewing nonsense about her daughter and she had no answers to shut him up (she hadn't developed a spine back then, she couldn't speak up for Pallu without a solid defense). That's why she just wanted to clear it out first. As for the marriage naraazgi, I could understand that too. She'd offered to leave everything for her daughter, start a new life with her, but the daughter chose to stay on with the Devil. She could understand what a blunder Pallu was making, but unless Pallu allowed it, aai couldn't do anything about it. She was worried and frustrated and upset. It was a completely understandable reaction from a mother. And then she saw Raghav mouth off everyone at D house, saying they don't deserve her, and she realised maybe this marriage wasn't a bad thing for Pallu. But she was still upset that her daughter had chosen to keep her out of it.
But I also will say this, Aai could never really make Pallu feel secure in her support, not the way amma can. Well, maybe support is the wrong word here. Pallu knows Aai supports her always, just that her support never meant a thing in D house. Amma's support meant that Raghav's actions would be in firm control, but could anyone control VD? Could anyone make Pallu feel secure that way? "As long as I'm here, no one can touch a hair on your head" kind of way?
That's the one thing Aai lacked, and I'm glad she's been growing stronger and stronger against VD. The vat savitri epi, the way she told him off? I lived for that ❤️
So mera Ayi ke saath kaafi on-the-fence raha hai. Shuru mein, I was a bit miffed at her insistence on getting Pallavi married, despite her obvious discomfort, but I was okay with it because it came from a good place. But her constant "Pallu, tu sambhal legi na" used to annoy me a lot, and it built up considerably until the dam burst when she interrupted the wedding with her lines of "tell me what he's holding on you, I'll deal with it, I'm here for you"- because it's the parent's job to make the child feel secure. Throughout she relied so heavily on Pallavi, that Pallavi never got the sense of security ki she can share her burdens. Toh abhi overnight kahaan se aati woh feeling? Then the whole silent treatment she gave Pallavi rubbed me wrong, because it wasn't because of her marrying Raghav, that truth has already come out, she was angry ki mujhe bataaya kyun nahi. No introspection on how she contributed to this dynamic.
And also, for the longest time, she would be super expressive of her love, but never act in a way to support her, toh pyaar genuine to tha, but empty bhi lagta tha. The sangeet night, I was also bugged- 100% agree on what you said, nothing to add. As you said,
@bold- exactly. Remember the day of the haldi, when she spoke about always being stuck between Vijay and Mandaar, but never being able to support Mandaar, and wanting to support Pallavi this time around? She said it, yes- but she couldn't do anything about it. But ever since we've learned more and more about how abusive Vijay is, I've warmed up considerably- actually, I'm fully in love with her. I think Pallavi being thrown out was a wake up call for her on her own passivity. She stayed quiet a lot longer still, mindful of Vijay's health, par tab se sixer pe sixer maar rahi hain. Vat savitri day was epic. Even this past week, be it Vijay, Sulochana or Mandaar, she's staying firm.
Itna speculation tha yahaan ki Ayi paltegi when Mandaar comes, and I was so sure she wouldn't- I'm glad she did us proud! Both her and Pallavi suffer from being judged pre-emptively, and both constantly rise above.
Veer Hanuman
Kumkum Bhagya
