The kind of love you relate to - Page 9

Originally posted by: Unique.Sheep

I have always been fascinated with the idea of arranged marriages, where strangers turn into friends and then slowly fall in love. Even in my own family, sab ki arranged marriage hi hui hai. But never have I seen a hate filled marriage or even a forced marriage in real life, the idea itself is scary and only looks good on TV. 😆 Nor have I seen someone being in love or attracted to one guy and end up marrying his brother.

Even if it does happen in real, I cant relate because my marriage is nothing like that.

Even my marriage is full of fights now and even before marriage but we still never denied that we loved each other from the beginning, hence I relate those fights more with DevTa

Hehe

Hatred to mujhe kabhi nahin thi

Forced marriage ka system humare community mein nahin hai

If the girl or guy refuses then thats it😆

Originally posted by: Coleus

I have seen both arranged and love marriages in my family and have seen all these three couples in them. The beauty of gaura is their communication and thats what I think is the most important thing in any relationship.Gautam is a doting husband❤️

If I talk about myself I would want to have something like shivi. Thier passion is❤️. Gaura is thoda thanda thanda for me although they are the most relatable in real life. Shiva chahiye with better communication skills😆

Haan gaura are actually the comfort that comes after years.

Shivi is passion.

Hope they get Shivi on track in the show!

Originally posted by: _charu_

What I relate to and what I want for myself..gautam dhara..but I am not like dhara 😆 I don't want to be like her..women like her are crushed under expectations and pressures.

As a couple, I like the way they understand each other..and stand by each other..

Haan Dhara to nahin hona chahiye. I feel u should be a mix of all the three...

Originally posted by: ValleyOfPeace

May u get the best of all the three🖤🌹🌹

Also shivi wala childhood thing will never be possible for me😆

Hai he nai koi waisa zindagi mein.

Still hoping for that passion

Went with DevTa- seen a lot of cases like them. I am so disappointed with the show writers for not developing them properly- they are the closest to reality and many people would actually connect to them if handled properly.

GauRa and ShiVi are pretty alien to me as I have never seen childhood friends or frenemies getting married.

Of the two, GauRa is definitely more relatable- I have seen responsible calm husbands with strong supporting wives, minus the romance.

Can anyone be like ShiVi? 😆 Not sure I have seen so much passion or angst in real life

Though I have opted shivi i dont know what I want...I have never gone through this feeling🤔...Aur jithna iske baare mein jaanthi hun thats through the books and shows/films...i wish for passion☺️ but i admire men who are level headed and calm aur wise...i have felt infatuations par woh bhi pheeka sa....So till now i found none and no one found me...😭

Originally posted by: ValleyOfPeace

Hehe

Hatred to mujhe kabhi nahin thi

Forced marriage ka system humare community mein nahin hai

If the girl or guy refuses then thats it😆

I would be so pissed to see a hate marriage in real

But in TV serials and movies, hell yeah!!!

I voted for other

I think I can relate to all three couples.

But I think I can relate to shivi more specially with the Name callings - we call each other bandar bandri moti etc.

Different personalities - our likes and dislikes are totally different, I am born and brought up in Canada but I am totally Desi I love hindi and Punjabi movies and music. He came to Canada when he was 17 he loves English music and Hollywood movies. I am so family oriented and he is more close to his friends. I love to dress up all the time and he is more like Shiva doesn't care how he looks and the list goes on....

Fights- We fight like siblings, always pushing and pulling each other

I met my husband in college, we became friends then started dating (even though I always wanted to have a arranged marriage and he hardly ticked 2or3 items from my future husband list ...lol but I guess once you fall in love nothing else matters ) and then got married.

Don't wanna bore you with my long story but now when I look at dobi raavi I can totally relate to her. I was like Raavi in college was stuck at just friends thing, completely in denial about my feelings, would go with the flow and next day will pretend nothing happened

Gaura - only thing I can relate to their relation is me and my husband were friends in college. We don't have their maturity and deepth 😔 hopefully in future 🙏 only been married for 3.5 years

Interesting poll ,Maahi and it's lovely and inspiring to read so many real life stories here .

Here goes my take :

I personally relate to all the 3 ( gaura ,rishita-dev and Shivi ) since almost all marriages I have seen including mine are a combination of all of them in bits n peices.my marriage is almost like evey day we are one couple and we change aise hee , abruptly to the other in matter of minutes😆

I relate to the adjusting with family and how the spouse becomes a different person when he is with his family vs with me alone bit of DevTa.Ours was an arranged marriage and we both come from absolutely different ideologies and finding a middle ground is tough as none of us believe we are wrong in our place and the other's idea seems absolutely rubbish. So it's a lot of compromise , been happening for past 10 years and I am sure will happen in future too as life happens.Adding in meddling elders makes it all the more messy.

Ab now that we know we are different , we try to communicate but end up misunderstanding each other and fight like the current Shivi 😆. I am a bit of a dobi like Raavi ( bahut bolti hoon - my lamba post is a proof 😭) and not articulate like Rishita. He is a total Shiva including bhabhi ( here parivaar) jaap aspect excluding insecurities ( that's my forte ) .But we are so used to each other that if we don't fight for long lagta hai kuch gadbad to nahi 😳- that's the shivi relatability here .

But all this is on one side , our core values about family etc are similar or atleast we try to understand each other's view ( eg :finances ) . So kabhi kabhi we do behave like Gaura - I myself feel surprised ki kya baat hai 😆

I do wish we grow as people and understand , respect and communicate with each other effectively like Gaura without blowing up the roof or cutting off others throats like DevTa and Shivi do , have some percentage of passion that shivi have for each other . all this while managing to not become a dhara or a Dev

Realistically speaking, I guess I can't relate to any as I haven't been in love (only with celebs and that doesn't count 😆)

Wishful thinking, but I would love to have a story like ShiVi's (which would be passionate minus the excessive hatred and majboori ki shaadi). I would definitely want a life full of nok jhoks with stolen romantic moments. I think this would add some excitement to my very unadventurous life. Otherwise, life would get too dull for me. This is why I wouldn't want GauRa's relationship because as much as they are wholesome, I feel like, in real life, a relationship like theirs could possibly lose its spark (just my opinion). However, I do feel that their communication is out of this world and that is something every relationship requires otherwise things can get quite chaotic.

DevTa are probably the closest to reality, especially with their post-marriage issues but they also lack communication imo (mostly from Dev's side as Rishita is very vocal). There's not much I admire about their relationship tbh lol

On another note, reading about everyone's personal experiences with marriage and love was beautiful and heartwarming. It makes me hopeful that one day, I might get what I wish for, but until then, I am happy with my ships 😉