The kind of love you relate to - Page 10

Hate to say this, but my love life is like Anita-Hardik (one-sided), but I'm not a psycho like Anita. Have been running after him for 5 years and still no luck. At this speed RIP to my future😭

I have a totally different kind of love story. We both were neighbours, of same age and same school, grew up together, did almost everything together in life, bff's to each other, knew that we loved being together but also gave equal importance to families. Mine would be happiest but his family would have surely objected, we belonged to different communities. We never confessed and are still very good friends to an extent that he shares his personal deepest secrets with me. He got married an year ago, to a girl of his parents choice and is happy. I'm still waiting to get my someone special. Our story could have been different if our priorities were different.

Originally posted by: firsttimehere

Interesting poll ,Maahi and it's lovely and inspiring to read so many real life stories here .

Here goes my take :

I personally relate to all the 3 ( gaura ,rishita-dev and Shivi ) since almost all marriages I have seen including mine are a combination of all of them in bits n peices.my marriage is almost like evey day we are one couple and we change aise hee , abruptly to the other in matter of minutes😆

I relate to the adjusting with family and how the spouse becomes a different person when he is with his family vs with me alone bit of DevTa.Ours was an arranged marriage and we both come from absolutely different ideologies and finding a middle ground is tough as none of us believe we are wrong in our place and the other's idea seems absolutely rubbish. So it's a lot of compromise , been happening for past 10 years and I am sure will happen in future too as life happens.Adding in meddling elders makes it all the more messy.

Ab now that we know we are different , we try to communicate but end up misunderstanding each other and fight like the current Shivi 😆. I am a bit of a dobi like Raavi ( bahut bolti hoon - my lamba post is a proof 😭) and not articulate like Rishita. He is a total Shiva including bhabhi ( here parivaar) jaap aspect excluding insecurities ( that's my forte ) .But we are so used to each other that if we don't fight for long lagta hai kuch gadbad to nahi 😳- that's the shivi relatability here .

But all this is on one side , our core values about family etc are similar or atleast we try to understand each other's view ( eg :finances ) . So kabhi kabhi we do behave like Gaura - I myself feel surprised ki kya baat hai 😆

I do wish we grow as people and understand , respect and communicate with each other effectively like Gaura without blowing up the roof or cutting off others throats like DevTa and Shivi do , have some percentage of passion that shivi have for each other . all this while managing to not become a dhara or a Dev

This is like literally what I would write about my parents story, I guess few couples have similar stories

A beautiful story dear.

I am sure aage chal kar gauta understanding bhi aa jayegi.

Filhaal ka phase enjoy karo👍👍👍🌺

Me married for Seven years and still fighting with him🤣

I am happy for u

I personally believe love is different at different stages. So reading u I find ua story quite relatable. Ek tarah ka to pyaar nahin hota hai na. It keeps changing🖤

Those shipssss😆 everyone I know are on ships.

Meanwhile I am very happy with my neutral ships.

Glad to see everyone unmarried having clear picture of what they want.

And hoping that u get what u desire🌹🌹

I personally adore and relate to both Shivi and Gaura . I am not married so cannot relate to that aspect of the relationship ( lots of compromises required I believe )and frankly scared of the marriage bit and as usual parents piche padhe hai because I am 27🙈

Reasons I love and adore Shivi is their Tom and Jerry fights but yet the care and concern for each other is rock solid , defending each other is rock solid . Me and my boyfriend didn't fight like Shivi but yeah he did make fun of me so there was teasing and bits here and there and I had tad bit crush on him and due to frequent chatting even he developed similar feelings . The care and concern he shows towards me is sorta like Shiva , he can get really possesive .But like Gaura we became friends first , had heart to hearts, relied on each other entirely and then I confronted him one day and he accepted he liked me .

Things were difficult on family not being onboard and we were on and off constant . I was trying like Dhara to sacrifice the love because didn't want him to choose between his family and me . However he stood strong and held his ground and after two or three years family was on board .

For me both Gaura and Shivi are relatable . Gaura because of the understanding that the couple has , being the mature one at times . I feel my boyfriend has Shiva and Gombi traits infused , he is the younger child but the decision maker( wise ones like Gombi ) , however doesnt fear to call out whatever is wrong and will stand against every wrong that happens like Shiva . However like Shiva when he's hurt he pushes everyone and everything that has hurt him and gives the cold war vibes .I on the other hand feel Im a mix of Raavi and Dhara very diplomatic and get swayed easily with my decision .Definitely naive like Raavi and rely on my partner for decisions most of the time. But like Dhara when am poked can get real mad ( not dhanda wala) but enough to get the other person to hear me out for good . At times I don't have filter like Raavi which is so bad , I try to think and speak but do something stupid like Raavi . 6 Years of relationship have definitely helped though to understand each other and try to mould as per each other's requirement.

This went on too long .

Hoping to not become a Devta in future 🙈

I think I can relate to Devta a little bit but mine is arrange marriage. 😳 I can relate to adjustment issues faced by Rishita in new family and environment. I can also relate to how she feel insecure whenever Dev chooses his family over her. Though my husband is not like Dev, he sometimes takes my side as well.😊 We both communicate whenever our ideologies dont match and even raise our voices too but that only when we are in our room. In front of everyone we are perfect goody goody couple. 😆

I guess that is because I am in same phase of life, had only got married early months of last year. Also we are in long distance relationship so the communication gap and insecurities. 😔

I love Shivi as couple but that only on screen. I have lots of patience but still I think can not handle a temper like Shiva. I can take some passion from Shivi. ❤️ Thats it.

In future I would like to have relationship like Gaura.They have love, comfort, devotion, respect, maturity, friendship, transparency and trust. Simply I can say they have everything which is required for a healthy relationship. ❤️

By the way nice post. ❤️