Men can be Victims too!

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Although all the grievances are said and done, I have always believed that Pandya Store certainly gives some fascinating messages.

In that dismal Haveli track, they did very gracefully touch upon accepting gender neutrality, silent support and acceptance of the LGBTQ community in average households through Krish. Though the track was supposed to be comical, it did leave a profound impact when everybody who believed Krish to be gay sympathised with his state. They also gave the message of ‘love is love.’

The second exciting message about gender inclusivity was when the masculine Shiva was being cross dressed in a sari. It initiated a lovely moment between the man and the woman, reaffirming gender fluidity and the changing world order.


They touched upon another susceptible subject where in our society which is so obsessed with procreation, men are often seen as victims of verbal abuse.

As much as we would like to state otherwise, men are sometimes victims of patriarchy, bigotry and always have toxic standards of masculinity to live up to.

Gautam was pushed to the edge today with the taunts of Janardan calling him impotent because he failed to procreate.

Male infertility is still a taboo subject given the toxic standards of masculinity which men have to live up to each day.


Pandya Store today won my heart again with such a sensitive portrayal of a realistic male.

This male figure, Gautam, is not the typical businessman who does a revenge marriage to prove his masculinity. He is not the toxic lead who stands as a fool while the entire family gives grief to his wife.

He is sensitive, tries to bring the family together. At the same time, he is hugely dissapointed of his choices that made him the butt of jokes from the society today.

He was driven to the edge today, given Hardik‘s brutal reminder of how incapable he was to take care of his sister, and then with Janardhan reminding of his childless state. He returns home as a broken man only to be frustrated and vulnerable.

I love the bond between Gautam and Dhara. She was broken, and she knew she had to hold him. What chemistry of comfort. Honestly, the show takes me back to the early 80s, and 90s when there were serials about multiple characters and various issues. I went back to watching an X show from the 80’s based on partition, which was such an incredible saga of numerous stories woven into one.

Pandya Store has its shortcomings, but certain scenes do touch my heart a lot. Today was one of them.❤️

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He is shattered! He regrets his decision given the caustic remarks

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In his most vulnerable moment, Dhara knew that she had to hold him with all her love.

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Reassurance can heal and how! She doesn't regret her decision even for a single second!


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The best way to take away someone’s hopelessness is to give him a spark of warmth. There's a certain reference to Tara as well!


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Uff Dhara

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I love the way Dhara holds his cheeks always 🔥


The last few clips are sheer bliss! ❤️ They hold onto each other, extending their cocoon of comfort. They both may not be frothing blue, gasping for breath when they are with each other! Instead, they bring peace, breaths and comfort to each other!!

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Kissing away the pain of the past, trying to manage their present and lighting a lamp for their future! It reminded me of the song!

Thoda Hai Thode

Ki Zaroorat Hai

Zindagi Phir Bhi

Yahan Khoobsurat Hai


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Tera saath hai to mujhe kya kami hai Andhero se bhi mil rahi roshani hai Kuchh bhi nahin hai to koi gam nahin hai Har ek bebasi ban gayi chaandani hai

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पूरा-अधुरा हर अरमान हो एक दुसरे से जो बांधे हमें बाहों में नन्ही सी इक जान हो आबाद हो छोटा सा घर लग ना सके किसी की नज़र


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A montage of love, care and affection!


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Posted: 4 years ago
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Lovely post ❤️❤️

I always loved the bond between Gaumbie and Dhara, but today both of them were amazing! The way they share there feelings, how they comfort each other, the way they touch, just love ❤️

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Posted: 4 years ago
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This is so beautiful Piu. I loved the subtle messages given❤️ And you put them forward in such a beautiful way too

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Posted: 4 years ago
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This post is magic❤️

Will come back in the morning to comment in detail❤️

Gaura scene has my heart today

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Posted: 4 years ago
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This one made it to my list of favorite GauRa scenes ❤️ There was tenderness, warmth, support, honesty, grief, comfort, love, affection, togetherness, and so much more. Thank you for this post and for capturing all the wonderful moments!

This scene reminded me of the initial days of Pandya Store and I simply loved the simplicity and beauty ❤️ The entire scene touched my heart and both Kinshuk & Shiny proved once again that they are also strong pillars of this show! GauRa had my heart and some tears as well!


I love Gaumbi for being so vulnerable, honest & a man of character! He is sensitive and doesn’t use toxicity to hide his insecurities. Very rare of find on ITV!! I’m so glad that characters like him are appearing on ITV. Another similar ML I am slowly loving is Raghav from LGA on Star Bharat. I love that these two aren’t afraid to show their fears and don’t conform to the typical standards of masculinity. Gaumbi is truly special!

My heart went out to the man who is so loving and attentive! To his wife, family, SIL’s and everyone else around him! Society loves to exploit and put down such men because they are afraid. Afraid of their honesty and their ability to cause in a shift in the balance set up by age old standards. Often times people overlook or forget to mention the injustice and suffering of some wonderful human beings, simply because of their gender (further flaming gender stereotypes). So glad PS brings up these points in a very subtle but impactful way.


The way Dhara and Gaumbi hold each other when the other is down wins me over each time! The way she touches his cheek and reassures him. We have seen both of them comfort each other! I would love to see much more of them! So glad to see them getting the screen space they deserve!


These two fill my heart with warmth ❤️ Thanks again Piu 🤗

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Posted: 4 years ago
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A very beautiful post T.

I loved that scene.

It showed their essence. They are the calm but deep lake, waveless but still strong enough to pull you in. I love how she leans back on him in the face of her troubles and mistakes so he could sort them out for her. And I love how he accepts her care and encouragement when he comes home defeated and beaten down.

The life may push him down, the world may taunt him, his own best friend may not even understand him, but Gaumbi will always have Dhara to lean back on just like she has him.

On an icy night full of hail, Gaura for each other are shelters, that shield the other without fail. They are the fire that is used for warmth. They are also the clothes that the other wear, intimate and yet so normal.

Today’s episode stood out to me for Gaura and their obvious love and care for each other.

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Another beautiful post from you. smiley27

Your each and every post is so good. smiley27 Mnn krta h padhte he jao... smiley42

This is one of the best scenes of Gaura. smiley27Today my heart cried for Gautam.smiley19 I actually had tears in my eyes when he said " Why did I allow you to take those medicines 10 years ago". smiley19He was clearly regretting the choices they made 10 years ago. He was so disheartened today. Gautam's helplessness & disappointment was very well depicted by Kinshuk. smiley20

Both Kinshuk and Shiny were fantastic today. smiley20smiley27

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Beautiful Post dear❤️ heart warming. Today i felt so bad for Gaumbi.💔

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Piu, what a lovely post!

PS has always been special for the way they have dealt certain issues as you said, acceptance of LGBTQ, cross dressing and today it was about men also being victims of taunts by the society be it for being childless or for unable to support their family and take care of their needs.

Gautam's trials and tribulations started 10 years ago when his father died leaving behind a sick mother, 3 young brothers and a debt ridden business. He has been working non-stop ever since, Dhara joined him few days later and after many sacrifices, he still continues to work hard for the family and the business.

In this current situation, he has been shown to be vulnerable, almost accepting defeat, expresses his fears and his self respect has been shaken, shown to bear the taunts of being childless and unable to provide or take care of some basic needs of his wife.

This is what I wrote about Gautam after the episode in the EDT

"In our Indian society we always see women taunted for being childless and men are not held responsible to fairly a large extent. But there are few times even men are subjected to taunts and that's what we got to see. It is difficult for ITV to touch upon this perspective. I am glad PS team had the courage to show it. All along we talked about Dhara's sacrifices, taunts and so on, I sympathize with her fully , but today we saw how Gautam was equally affected by all of it and more so the pressure/ stress of running a joint family. business and has been working non-stop for 10 years without any break, I am surprised he is not burned out yet. I really felt for Gautam today."

Finally when he got home and shared his grievances with Dhara, "tere ye Gaumbi na, zindagi se maat kaa raha hai" 😕 he regretted letting her take those pills for many years but she with assurance and support, lifted his spirits and that's the beautiful bond GauRa share.

Except for the dismal haveli track where I could not connect with Dhara, she has been on point, pillar of support for Gautam, through and through and he has reciprocated the same way.

I can totally relate to their relationship, bonding, support for each other very well and trials they are going through as a couple in these difficult times really touched my heart and I felt for them❤️

I just to want to end by saying that GauRa has my full support in this track.


P.S: I did not want the pregnancy track to start this early as they barely completed 6 months of the show (in the original the track started after 1.5-2 years into the show) but now that they have started, I would like the makers to show positive effect and not complicate it further.

Edited by mpks1 - 4 years ago
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Posted: 4 years ago
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I am reserving this post for now

Will come back later to unreserve with a very detailed comment

This post has my heart and u have really touched upon some sensitive topics which I am fascinated to talk about

Coming soon

Piu girl

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