Originally posted by: funny_fubar
Thank you for this post! I was boggled with the backlash against Hardik.
Having a safety net, even if it is never used, is such a tremendous strength for a married woman. No woman should think that she has no way out or no place to go if she has trouble in her married life.
Dhara and Raavi are extremely lucky in that sense- both Hardik and Miami staunchly state their support.
Rishitha is in a pitiful state- which makes her frustration understandable
Absolutely yes!
Do I do believe in safety nets for women? Yes.
But, I also very strongly believe that every woman needs to have a financial backup. The government is now taking significant steps into monetising the hard work done by homemakers by compensating them for their labour hours. I am looking forward to this bill being drafted and passed through the relevant authorities. There has to be a monthly repository of a female’s financial investments.
Though most women are cushioned in safe environments amongst family and in-laws, life can throw curveballs at any given point. I believe whether it’s a man or a woman, he or she should be capable enough to function as an independent unit without anyone’s support.
I often come across as emotionally unavailable when I talk about such matters. Still, everyone can practice to progressively cut down on their emotional, physical, financial and any form of dependability on any other human being. It’s okay to be vulnerable and seek the company of people around you. Companionship, completion and love should be a part of the life. But, it’s not okay to be looking lost if there is a time when you need to take the lead.
I am closely related to a lot of women empowerment activities in the CSR domain! Trust me; my anger stems from the sheer fact that how little women know about the importance of financial control and not being dependent on the men in their life. A massive campaign was done by one of the leading Brands where they realise that even working women have little knowledge about financial control and independence. Finance has always been seen as a male-dominated sector, and women have little say in the finances of the houses.
I would rather see Rishita start up this initiative by taking up a job and not merely waiting for Dev or her parents to fulfil her needs. Women don’t deserve special treatment; what we all need are respect and an egalitarian society.
I am yet to see a TV show where a high earning woman who doesn’t want to cook food is being appreciated. I want to see a TV show where a highly professional woman who earns more than her husband is respected.
I would love the women of Pandya house to become a beacon of financial independence, and voice their own opinions rather than only making food and taking care of the home.
I believe homemakers are the most hard-working lot. It’s a highly underpaid self and sacrifices that they make. I have massive respect for them because of the numerous things they do, which are taken for granted.
That’s why I said it’s not the man’s responsibility to take care of the woman's financial needs ONLY, and it’s not the woman’s responsibility to take care of the man’s emotional needs ONLY.
They both are co-sanguineous relationships. Both need to be treated equally, loved equally, and nurtured equally.
We need a world Where we all can function independently but come together out of choice, respect, love and care.
An influential mentor of mine had once told me, “ You will always be a victim if you are not strong enough.”
Circumstances will always be unfavourable for a woman trapped in a patriarchal society. Instead of waiting for a saviour to come on bail you out, one should always look at strengthening our skills and finding a way out.
Even Shiva says to Raavi, “There won't be a chowkidar with you forever.”
The gender roles are stark when it comes to Indian Television
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