Shivangi/Pallavi AT #12- Sunshine Mixed With A Little Hurricane 🌀 - Page 70

Originally posted by: aye-masakalii

Lol, same. There's a lot of nonsense I'll put up with but memory loss is too much 😂😂

Then I'll just assume ki show ended with yesterday's wonderful episode!

You are like me, creating your own versions of ending 😊

Originally posted by: aye-masakalii

I completely agree with you. This is why I've been so conflicted over her- at the end of the day, she is most certainly a woman who is the victim of an abusive partner. I've spoken before why that's a matter close to my heart, so I understand why she acts the way she does. She's been gaslit by this smooth operating, misogynistic, repulsive asshole for two years, she's in deep. Calling her dumb for not seeing through it feels an awful lot like victim blaming, which is something I've been complaining about for weeks here.

She's had a terrible life- father and brother killed in extremely traumatic ways, other brother estranged, mom spewing constant venom at last living relative, the financial burden of providing for an old, ailing mother- she'd have been barely 14 when the mob incident happened, and her life turned upside down, and it's a miserable world for 2 single women to live alone in. Plus, Raghav has been stifling her with his overprotectiveness, and has crossed lines time and time again. It was inappropriate to send Harish after her, inappropriate to beat up Akash, inappropriate beyond belief to try to pay Sunny off. I understand why Sunny was the perfect escape.

I am deeply sympathetic towards her for the way Sunny treats her. It infuriates me that this bright, capable, young woman can have her boyfriend tell her 'tu hoor pari nahi hai, teri jaisi chattis aayengi aur chattis jaayengi' and still stay with him. Mera dil jalta hai, to see her smiling and blushing after he yells at her anf calls her worthless and useless. But I get it. When I see those scenes, I don't get angry at her, my heart shatters for her, and I hope that she gets the help, support and therapy she needs to break out of this.

But, ultimately, she's also an adult, who does need to be held accountable for her actions.

I have never liked TV shows justifying abusive MLs by giving them a dark traumatic past, a trope all of us have seen again and again- same rules apply. Mental health is not an excuse to be despicable, and in the last couple of weeks, Kirti has been vile. Sunny may have turned her against Pallavi, but her words were her own- calling Pallavi 'ehsaan faramosh', telling Sunny to 'handle' her, leveraging her brother's love to let him take the fall for Sunny, trying to frame Farhad, the absolutely disgusting things she's said to Pallavi today- blaming her for Mandaar's death, and Raghav's injury. Not only is she remorseless about a man's death, she is taunting his widow about how she's going to get away with it. Doing all this, it's her choice.

So, a sentence that I've said time and again for Raghav, applies to his sister too- the behaviour, it makes sense and is understandable, but it's not justifiable. She has made her choices, and bad ones, and choices have consequences. She needs to face the music, in the form of coldness from her mother and Pallavi, and frankly, Farhad would be well within his right to never speak. to her again.

I don't want all her mistakes to be brushed aside as 'Sunny's fault', so yes, I want consequences for her- but ultimately, yes, I hope the consequences she faces are rehabilitative and not punitive.

Tbh, the one thing that narcissists look for in their victims is a low self-esteem, something that Keerti never seemed to have. If there was one thing running common among the three Raos, it was their boldness, their strong opinions and their high confidence. I'd definitely expect Keerti to see the warning signs with Sunny and stay away from him. But I also understand that he's smooth and cunning, and abusers take care to show themselves as Prince charming initially, only to change form later. By the time the victim starts feeling that change, they are well within the trap and alienated from their family, and it's a suffocating world with little escape. But Keerti never seems the tiniest bit affected with Sunny's behaviour, it's like she's used to him demeaning her. And I don't understand why she never thinks about it, or why it never hurts her. Even if she accepts it and doesn't fight, the words should have an impact on her previously strong self-esteem, something which they've not shown. Also, an abuse victim would not be able to bring up the topic of breakup so easily over a botched tattoo, the way she did.

Tbh, if makers intended to take the victim route through SunKe, they should've shown it better. This is a sensitive matter and they had full potential at their disposal to portray it — like you and Inu pointed out, her childhood gives her the perfect checklist of falling prey to Sunny. But they intended to show Sunny as a positive grey, good bonding with both Raghav and Pallavi, then suddenly changed track later. So right now it's all a botched up mess that can't be rooted for in any way

Originally posted by: SexyPotato

Unfortunately that is what our society thinks, police chor, doctor chor.

Police, docs and lawyers... sab bas paise khaane ko baithe hai. Koi bhi imandaar nahi

Originally posted by: Inese_20

This one. You have posted your comments here ❤️

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/mehndi-hai-rachne-wali/5237049/what-are-the-dynamics-of-raghavi-relationship

Accha 😅

Ab main kya hi bolu, I'm still flattered 😆🙈 Topic change 🤪🤣

Originally posted by: aye-masakalii

Lol, same. There's a lot of nonsense I'll put up with but memory loss is too much 😂😂

Then I'll just assume ki show ended with yesterday's wonderful episode!

Kiska memory loss? Raghav ka ya Mandaar ka?

I'm so confused 🤣

Originally posted by: Radiant_Eyes_

Here 🙋‍♀️

Are we talking about Mandaar and Raghav ?

I low-key shipped Sunny and Raghav in starting

But that didn’t end well

Wanted Ved and Raghav reunion but lion toh gayab hi rehta hai uska AT bhi bana tha but 🤧😂

Mandaar is my next umeed ki kiran

Btw Mandaar looks so cute 🤣

But hasn't he become more leaner here?

Originally posted by: Bee222

Police, docs and lawyers... sab bas paise khaane ko baithe hai. Koi bhi imandaar nahi

Originally posted by: Bee222

Kiska memory loss? Raghav ka ya Mandaar ka?

I'm so confused 🤣

Originally posted by: Bee222

Kiska memory loss? Raghav ka ya Mandaar ka?

I'm so confused 🤣

Dono ka 🤣

Lol, way too much theorizing ki Raghav is also losing his memory----which will be far too much for me. Amnesia na ho gaya, Pallavi ke har pati ko de diya. I don't think that's the path they're taking, because lol, but if they do, mujhe nahi dekhna.

Bee phir se poora thread padne mein lag gayi??