Originally posted by: aye-masakalii
I completely agree with you. This is why I've been so conflicted over her- at the end of the day, she is most certainly a woman who is the victim of an abusive partner. I've spoken before why that's a matter close to my heart, so I understand why she acts the way she does. She's been gaslit by this smooth operating, misogynistic, repulsive asshole for two years, she's in deep. Calling her dumb for not seeing through it feels an awful lot like victim blaming, which is something I've been complaining about for weeks here.
She's had a terrible life- father and brother killed in extremely traumatic ways, other brother estranged, mom spewing constant venom at last living relative, the financial burden of providing for an old, ailing mother- she'd have been barely 14 when the mob incident happened, and her life turned upside down, and it's a miserable world for 2 single women to live alone in. Plus, Raghav has been stifling her with his overprotectiveness, and has crossed lines time and time again. It was inappropriate to send Harish after her, inappropriate to beat up Akash, inappropriate beyond belief to try to pay Sunny off. I understand why Sunny was the perfect escape.
I am deeply sympathetic towards her for the way Sunny treats her. It infuriates me that this bright, capable, young woman can have her boyfriend tell her 'tu hoor pari nahi hai, teri jaisi chattis aayengi aur chattis jaayengi' and still stay with him. Mera dil jalta hai, to see her smiling and blushing after he yells at her anf calls her worthless and useless. But I get it. When I see those scenes, I don't get angry at her, my heart shatters for her, and I hope that she gets the help, support and therapy she needs to break out of this.
But, ultimately, she's also an adult, who does need to be held accountable for her actions.
I have never liked TV shows justifying abusive MLs by giving them a dark traumatic past, a trope all of us have seen again and again- same rules apply. Mental health is not an excuse to be despicable, and in the last couple of weeks, Kirti has been vile. Sunny may have turned her against Pallavi, but her words were her own- calling Pallavi 'ehsaan faramosh', telling Sunny to 'handle' her, leveraging her brother's love to let him take the fall for Sunny, trying to frame Farhad, the absolutely disgusting things she's said to Pallavi today- blaming her for Mandaar's death, and Raghav's injury. Not only is she remorseless about a man's death, she is taunting his widow about how she's going to get away with it. Doing all this, it's her choice.
So, a sentence that I've said time and again for Raghav, applies to his sister too- the behaviour, it makes sense and is understandable, but it's not justifiable. She has made her choices, and bad ones, and choices have consequences. She needs to face the music, in the form of coldness from her mother and Pallavi, and frankly, Farhad would be well within his right to never speak. to her again.
I don't want all her mistakes to be brushed aside as 'Sunny's fault', so yes, I want consequences for her- but ultimately, yes, I hope the consequences she faces are rehabilitative and not punitive.