Talking to your kids about sex. - Page 3

Originally posted by: Mahisa_22

I don't need that link. 😆Everyone knows that infatuation is not love. But people sometimes date simply out of mutual attraction and infatuation. It happens with adults too. Nothing wrong in it.

Adults do understand infatuation is not love but do children understand that.

I remember my dad's words when I started 10th.

He said, "I would prefer you date, experience crushes romantic love etc and then eventually marry the man you think you can spend the life with. However I would really be proud of you if you do that when you are financially independent and prioritize this time you have to become financially independent

A date is worth going to only if you have the money in your wallet that you have earned yourself."

I plan to tell the same to my son. And pray and hope he understands that I say that with a concern for him and not money. Just like my dad did.

Now question to members who have kids below 13 years of age or don't have kids :

1. Would you talk to your kids about topics related to sex in future?

Yes I absolutely will.

2. If yes, then how would you do it and at what age would you consider it appropriate? Again explain in detail.

I'd start from explaining good touch and bad touch, when they are younger, its become important in today's times.

Looking at what I have observed about the current generation of kids, they are already aware of sex by the time they are 10. Maybe when I have kids, the awareness age is younger or remains the same...so that's when I'll talk to them about it. As they grow older, I'll be like a human FAQ for them, to ask anything regard this topic.

In today's times, its not safe to easily trust people. I'd rather my children know it from me rather than getting wrong information on the internet, via their "friends", or think p*rn depicts real sex life. Besides, in our society, sex is used as a tool to malign a person's image. So whatever it is, I would want my kids to trust me and their father. Even if its with regards to pre-marital sex, I would prefer them coming to me than going to their friends. I am the last person to judge, but of course everything has a correct age. That awareness can only be given by parents or counsellors.

Originally posted by: AwaamKiJaan

Now question to members who have kids below 13 years of age or don't have kids :

1. Would you talk to your kids about topics related to sex in future?

2. If yes, then how would you do it and at what age would you consider it appropriate? Again explain in detail.

3. If not, then again why not?

1.yes, however doubt he would need any help.

2.15 , if it was a girl child it would be 26

Originally posted by: Lalakhun1

how are you sure they would heal from an immature relationship ? Maybe he / she would have trust issue and can never trust another ? Then what, oh yea, this person is toxic ? Maybe they became one because of how they were treated in their last relationship and how it ended.

Mature people can go anywhere they want, I wasnt even making that point. It is not about money it is how much they are willing to impress you. It is same thing as serving proper foods vs heating last night food for your date.

Anyway as I have mention, my house my rules.

Teen relationships are no big deal, people move on easily.

Zaroorat hi nahi padi. Turns out they are faster than that. Taught about good touch and bad touch when they were really young. Isse zyaada batane se pehle found youtube searches for what what and what not before the age of 13. Her school peers and internet beat me to it and now have resorted to constantly reminding her how old she is, what raging hormones are, will put her in the college across from home to keep watchful eye on her all the time, my daughters eye rolling has reached eternity and back 🤣🤣

Originally posted by: Lalakhun1

If you come back home pregnant, then you are not allowed in my house, i will disown you, and anyone who supports "kya kehna" type of nonsense, asked them to keep you in the house and feed you and your baby.

Also not mixing school is preferable for me as well.

My house my rule. Discipline, breakfast on time, come back home in time and sleep on time.

Are you related to Amrish Puri?

The only information I got on this topic was from Aamir Khan's Satyamev Jayate.

But that was only on how to teach toddlers about good touch vs bad touch.

Bade bachchon ka yaa toh bataaya nahin or I missed. Good to know!

I would rather not give them thousands of classes and lectures and let them learn on their own experience or from their mistakes. For me, In this criteria, Practical education > bunch of teachers and useless counselors. If i'll find something wrong, i will be there to give my suggestion/advice as dad/friend.

1. Would you talk to your kids about topics related to sex in future?

Yes. If it's a boy

2. If yes, then how would you do it and at what age would you consider it appropriate? Again explain in detail.

12. Gotta train them young. I would not repeat the same mistake my parents did with me.

My mom did not explain it to me when I was a kid but after I was 12. I was smart enough at 5-6 to know that a men shouldn't get close to me from movies. Al those movies I watched taught me that when a man touches you and you don't want it, say No and get away.

So probably I'll do the same to my future kid to know what's good and bad touch. Not today's movies but the old ones help to explain such things.