Originally posted by: rumi_dee
It’s one thing to accept the name change and a whole another thing to have it legally changed in all the documents. One might feel like its erasing their previous identity. They might relate themselves strongly with their name. Just like Anokhi.. when she says “ Mein Anokhi hoon”! Her Bhalla surname might not be something she is proud of given the history with her dad, but she’s come to accept that if not for her dad’s insistence on getting her married, she wouldn’t have maybe rebelled and come this far.
Like you mentioned it’s totally a personal choice. She can choose to be addressed as Anokhi Shaurya Sabherwal but is the legal name change necessary? Nope. Not unless she wants to! It should never be something forced upon , be it man or a woman.
I didn’t change my last name as well after marriage but I use my husband’s last name for all informal / non-legal purposes.
Men are never put thru this, and why is that? At the end of it all, we need to realize that all of us are humans sharing the same feelings and emotions before the genders come into picture. These notions of society need to be questioned or at the least discussed.
Very true! We have a man dominated society and that is so. Surname is also a family name. Since after marriage, both males and females become part of a new family, it makes sense to adopt to same family name. Now this could be either husband adopting wife's last name or wife adopting husband's name or both select a different family name altogether. But I feel it does give a sense of belonging to have same last name. One can argue that giving up both families last name would be not ideal and hence may be both can adopt both families name. Than what happens to kids? Why should they adopt only father's last name? They adopt both families name too? If so, what happens when they get married? 😳
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