Episode Spoiler - 2 July 2021 - Page 28

Originally posted by: aye-masakalii

God, I really want these spoilers to stop, but this week has been less, so I hope they keep it this way.

Hope so

If there’s any way to convey this to team , please ask them not to give away major spoilers

Few random BTS to engage audience is fine 👍🏼

Originally posted by: Shri_12

@bold: I hate it soo much 🤢

Seriously, it just comes across as coercive and kinda creepy. I'd much rather have a healthy depiction of mutual, enthusiastic consent!

Originally posted by: aye-masakalii

Not to forget, other son missing :(

I'm glad she, Milind and Amrutha have formed an alliance of sorts. Let them have regular 'bhajia' dates till they're still stuck in that house with that horrible man.

I liked that the show acknowledged what we all have been saying- Pallavi had been tearing herself apart to keep that house together, and it's collapsing in on itself in her absence. Sharda and Milind, unfortunately, have become collateral damage in that collapse in a sense, but it's also a consequence of their inability to take stands for her when she most needed them, or rather their passiveness in the past. The experience has made them a lot more defiant, and they'll not be passive again I think.

For Sharda, seeing Pallavi thrown out of the house was the wakeup call. For Milind, threats of the same to his family.

I think it was more of Vijay being an emotional abuser to everyone in the house. Only Sharda stood up to him when he threw Pallavi out middle of night. I feel all his life Vijay was like - it is either my way or the highway with his family be it his brother, his wife or his sons. None of them opposed him because he was head of family. Aayi genuinely opposed him during the abortion track and throwing out scene but Vijay brushed it off. I guess Vijay demanding Raghav wash his feet totally showed these people his obsessive emotional abuse. It was then Milind started to stand up to Vijay and so did Amrutha and Sharda. Even Pallavi broke off her ties after seeing his ghathiya harkat.

Originally posted by: aye-masakalii

Seriously, it just comes across as coercive and kinda creepy. I'd much rather have a healthy depiction of mutual, enthusiastic consent!

Exactly. It seems creepy like she doesn’t want to but uska husband hai toh she didn’t say anything types.

I love IPKKND the one with Arshi because they showed what you said healthy depiction of mutual consent despite the female lead being shy.

They showed both of them one night before their remarriage getting intimate for the first time where the ML stops and says we can stop I am sorry I know you’re not comfortable with physical intimacy before marriage and though FL was shy she responds yes and and say ki I trust you and I trust our love and our relationship and how much respect and love you have for me and our relationship.

And this show is 10 years old, recently celebrated its 10th anniversary but still makers some shows are stuck up on “aap yeh kya kar rahe hain” but makers ki bhi kya fault jab audience hi open minded nhi Hona chahti by which I mean majority of the aunties. Audience needs to start be more progressive in their thinking according to recent times.

Originally posted by: aye-masakalii

Not to forget, other son missing :(

I'm glad she, Milind and Amrutha have formed an alliance of sorts. Let them have regular 'bhajia' dates till they're still stuck in that house with that horrible man.

I liked that the show acknowledged what we all have been saying- Pallavi had been tearing herself apart to keep that house together, and it's collapsing in on itself in her absence. Sharda and Milind, unfortunately, have become collateral damage in that collapse in a sense, but it's also a consequence of their inability to take stands for her when she most needed them, or rather their passiveness in the past. The experience has made them a lot more defiant, and they'll not be passive again I think.

For Sharda, seeing Pallavi thrown out of the house was the wakeup call. For Milind, threats of the same to his family.

yes Nikhil's disappearance Im sure has a reason like he is off to college related trip or work etc..but he is alive and he is still part of the family.. but if Vijay has got anything to do with Mandhar's disappearance, even remotely then that'l make two out of the three children, Sharda lost because of Vijay's toxic ego..

Milind and Sharda have always acknowledged Pallavi's role in being the binding factor who keeps the family together.. I think their inability to support her more affirmatively or effectively in the past is not because of lack of will or intention but because they themselves have been victims of years oppression and dominance.. when you cannot muster enough courage to stand for yourself, there's no way you can do it for others, no matter how strongly you feel about the injustice happening right infront of your eyes..glad Sharda and Milind both had their '' enough is enough'' moments.. Together they are quite a force against Vijay haha

Originally posted by: MistyDawn

yes Nikhil's disappearance Im sure has a reason like he is off to college related trip or work etc..but he is alive and he is still part of the family.. but if Vijay has got anything to do with Mandhar's disappearance, even remotely then that'l make two out of the three children, Sharda lost because of Vijay's toxic ego..

Milind and Sharda have always acknowledged Pallavi's role in being the binding factor who keeps the family together.. I think their inability to support her more affirmatively or effectively in the past is not because of lack of will or intention but because they themselves have been victims of years oppression and dominance.. when you cannot muster enough courage to stand for yourself, there's no way you can do it for others, no matter how strongly you feel about the injustice happening right infront of your eyes..glad Sharda and Milind both had their '' enough is enough'' moments.. Together they are quite a force against Vijay haha

Yes, I know Nikhil is part of the family, but he's not there for Sharda to take comfort in his presence. Like, she can't have a cup of tea with him, he can't join these bhajia dates, he can't make a failed attempt at cooking to cheer her up like he did when Vijay was hospitalized. That makes me feel worse for her. None of her kids are there for her to just hug.

I agree on Milind and Sharda, their affection and intention has been unquestionable from day one, and they absolutely were victims of Vijay's abusive nature. When I say they weren't able to help her, it's not in the sense of putting blame, more of a statement of fact.

Yahaan par sabka khoon kissi aur ke saath nainsaafi hote hue hi khaula hai waise. Sharda did it for Pallavi, Pallavi could do it for Raghav, and Milind, yes for himself but also his family.

@bold- absolutely! Let's hope they make his life miserable! And I'm sure Amrutha will be a complete wildcard on their team.

Originally posted by: aye-masakalii

It is! Duniya bohot aage nikal chuki hai from where our TV shows are stuck. And what's more attractive than a woman who knows what she wants?

I've felt a slight overdose of giggliness in a couple of episodes, I'll be honest, but I can see where that's coming from too.

But I've loved how they've depicted Pallavi's attraction, and what's to dislike about her initiating physical intimacy?! It's so much nicer than the same old cliched trope of the man wanting action, and the woman shying away with 'aap kya kar rahe ho?' and then 'giving in'...as if there's no pleasure in it for her

Seriously people have problem with Pallavi initiating physical intimacy ?? Yeh sab ghatiyapan abhi bhi chal rahi hai!! Kya problem kya hai? Hum ladkiya kya putla hai kya? Hamara koi feelings, emotions kuch nahi hai!! Aise hi kuch criticism NBT days mai bhi huya tha jab megha ne mohan ko khud bulayi thi apni ghar rat ko shadi k bad!! Kya kaha kuch likhi hai ki sirf mard hi physical intimacy initiate karenge? kya bakwas soch!! 😡

Originally posted by: Medha0609

Also why is everyone teasing poor pallu on showing physical desires. 😕

She isn’t doing it on purpose in fact I don’t think she even realises she is doing it, the change in her gait and all when she saw Raghav looking at her, it wasn’t intentional.

Koi uske POV se socho she was a very young naive girl when she got married with no knowledge of her physical needs and before she could have a chance to understand them she got widowed and then everyone literally told her she can’t have a life now and though she ignored it but subconsciously she did kill all of her wants especially the physical ones which we saw when Raghav asked her what she wants for herself and she was unable to answer him.

Now suddenly this girl has been put next to a guy who is really hot and her husband to top it off so she is bound to have physical desires without realising because she has never known what they are.

Even the morning bathroom scene proved that she is unaware of physical desires for Raghav and is only beginning to scratch the surface which is evident by the way she blushing and behaving the way a teenage school girl does when she has a crush.

Who are those people teasing her?? I find it quite refreshing to see her getting attracted and aware of her growing feelings... It's common for a newly Wed bride...

Originally posted by: MistyDawn

Exactly. He is not only a goal oriented person, he is also the biggest critique of himself as we have seen so far..He doesnt see himself like Pallavi sees him.. I remember when they came back from D house after the big tamasha, he was like "why did you have to interfere? Mein aisa karta to aisa ho jata..tumhe tumhara family mil jata" that's how he functions.. he clearly had a blueprint in mind of how he is gonna go about completing the "one month challenge" and he was ready to do whatever it takes..But he was let off the hook rather easily in his eyes..not because he did anything out of the ordinary but because she is an extra ordinary human being who forgives easy even when he doesn't deserve it.. I guess that's why he hasn't had that closure yet..

Closure... that's what all this is about isn't it, for both of them? Neither has Raghav been able to tie loose ends and move ahead nor has she. This is probably what will happen during the Mandaar track, where Raghav will not only see the D-fam dynamics better but also realize that Pallavi genuinely is happier without them, hopefully with her articulating it.

He still hasn't absorbed the true meaning of what she meant when she chose him over them. It wasn't a sacrifice or the honorable thing to do, but it's because her heart wanted that. We as the audience see these two from 360 degrees, but they only see bits and pieces of each other. On top of that, they never truly tell each other how they feel. For example, when Pallavi returned from the Ds, sure she was angry with him, she told him she prioritized him, but in all this there was no mention of what she was feeling after severing those ties. She didn't go into the anger or hurt that she was feeling for her own self, even though it was clearly there. Her walking out of the house was as much for herself as for him, and to sever ties with a family who less than a month ago was the basis for her existence isn't something trivial. She just never talked to him about how she feels, and even if she did, he'd wallow in further guilt.

I believe Raghav's conscience is a heavyweight and his self-flagellation can cloud his judgement where his personal life is concerned. Farhad telling him that he was indeed as bad as people made him out to be can't have been easy but it was necessary for him to take drastic action.

While he needs Pallavi to forgive him, he also has to learn to forgive himself. That's the biggest challenge, actually.

Originally posted by: subbuappu

Who are those people teasing her?? I find it quite refreshing to see her getting attracted and aware of her growing feelings... It's common for a newly Wed bride...

Either people aren't happy about her self-control around a hot guy like Raghav or they have an issue with her wanting her husband?

Jeez.