Originally posted by: rubys07
This is one thing in particular which I could never come to terms with. Gul shows usually try to romanticize emotional and physical abuse. Especially IPK and Ishqbaaaz both were so problematic they legit pissed me off with the threats and manhandling despite the fact that I enjoyed watching both of these back in the time. Abusive relationships are a deal-breaker for me and I get so mad when it's shown over and over again on TV as passionate and romantic, and makers try to justify such actions. There is this episode in IB (forced marriage) where the ML Shivaay threatens Anika that he will make her wear the bridal dress if she didn't do it herself and comply to his demands. That whole track was so problematic imo, I could never truly forgive Shivaay as a character after that.
I've been observing Ahaan's character very closely and so far he doesn't seem to cross that line where it becomes unacceptable. The last few episodes pre and post-leap make sense because he hasn't actually tried hurting her. Overall too, his character has been slightly different from previous Gul MLs (which is so refreshing) and I'm really hoping the manhandling thing doesn't become an issue here.
Never watched IB so can't comment.
Ahaan is not physically abusive - but he goes out of the way to make Ishqi's life miserable for a decision she took for HER own life. He is harsh with her for her life choices, which is something unacceptable.
Arnav was angry with her Khushi because he saw her asking Shyam to divorce his sister - which is something huge. It doesn't excuse or justify his behaviour towards her but explains his hatred. Also he remained ASR till the very end for the world - that he considered ruthless. Ahaan's anger isn't something I can fathom in that sense, which is why I think Ishqi's acceptance of his proposal isn't right at this point. The only reason he has softened towards her is because of her sacrifice for Sonu, he doesn't understand that even if she had no reason, or it was her feelings due to which she walked out of the wedding. She had full right over her life and he had no right to question or judge her.