Originally posted by: jojo_mojo
I am not sure anymore if this was because she respected others independence or because she did not have the power to compel others according to her whims. From what is shown, since realized her hold over Aditya, she had been constantly trying to compel him to stay with Malini even when he said usko ghutan horaha hai. She was even happy flirting with him behind her didi's back. Was this for didi's khushi as she claimed or was it for her own khushi because she was not ready to face her feelings of guilt?
Even now she is not forcing her views on Malini. She is keeping her relation with Adi on indefinite hold because she has power to do so. Again is this because she wants Malini didi happy as she claims or is it to assuage her guilt and because she is not yet ready to reveal to the family that she is Aditya's wife?
Sorry what? Flirting with Adi behind Didi's back? Is that how you saw it?š We'll have to disagree on that point then. You make her sound so calculative when that wasn't what she was doing.
She was always shown holding on to her faith on her own level and never compelling others to think like her.....this was obvious the most in the case of the whole believing Adi to be her husband situation where she told him he has the right to believe what he does while she will stick to her beliefs....she never compelled or forced him to accept anything.....she stuck to her own unconventional beliefs even if someone pointed out the impracticality of them. That is what I meant by her independent streak.
The difference in her now is that she has started keeping conditions in front of people which she didn't do before.....so yes, part of that does involve her realizing that she has some leverage with Adi now since he is always professing love for her and wanting her to be with him.....Adi does zidd so she does her own zidd in turn....that ends up being more of a back and forth rather than some grand overarching plan to compel him. She is not keeping anything on indefinite hold....lol her stance is basically that if Malini can't be happy, we are also over and that's that......lol she is ready to walk away at a moment's notice from Adi....so that's not even coercion.....that's a total lack of ability to think for her own relationships or herself....she is ready to finish everything in her life on a moment's notice without thought....that doesn't show any sense of real calculation but more a complete lack of self-preservation or regard for self.
But she is absolutely trying to force her views on Malini right now out of her own sense of guilt....In Adi's case, she atleast has that sense of knowing she matters in his life for her to try to leverage.....lol Malini has long since dropped even the token behenchara facade but Imlie is acting like she has some made up right over Malini's life to dictate terms to her......that's why it's looking more disconnected.
It's all very poorly written right now but underscoring all this is a self-worth issue for Imlie where she is not fully ready to own her status as Adi's wife or the bahu of T family.....but that isn't being addressed dhang se since it's all just getting diverted into Didi bhakti discussions or Adi also just being fixated on immediate fixes rather than trying to understand the underlying causes of what's driving Imlie's stances.