A take on extra marital affairs: What should a woman do?

A lot of debate is happening in the forum regarding whether to consider Aditya Imlie's relationship an extra marital affair. Keeping aside those debates on fictional characters, I am curious to know what most of you think about extra-marital affairs? What would you do if your spouse falls for another woman? What advice would you give to a friend whose spouse is longer interested in the marriage?

For me personally, a marriage that has fallen apart doesn't deserve to be "saved". Will there be heartbreak? yes. Will I be shock, anger, denial, devastation? Yes. But would I want to carry on with the man (provided I am economically independent)? NO. However, I have seen different people react in different ways to such a situation, so it would be interesting to hear what people think.

P.S: Lets avoid character bashing. Films and visual media are often reflections of our real world, so lets discuss the many perspectives of this issue in the real world.

If my spouse falls for another person, I should hope they have the strength to tell me before anything happens.

I'd be able to appreciate and respect, I can't fault them for their feelings, it's not in their control but their actions are definitely within their control.

Will I be heartbroken, sad and maybe even angry? Probably.

But I wish them well provided they haven't cheated on me. Feelings and emotion are outside of human control.

I will move on, no matter how long it takes, and this is why I say never give up your job (provided you have the opportunity), you don't know what tomorrow will bring and you can never 100% rely on others.

Also once trust is broken, you can never repair it, it's like a mirror, once shattered, you'll always see the cracks.

You move on for your own well being and mental health.

In the case of this show, I personally don't see Adilie as extra-marital affair per say, the extra-marital affair would probably be Adini for me.

Adi should have annulled his marriage with Imlie before marrying Malini.

Also looking at Serial history, forced marriages are the norm so I don't understand why suddenly some people are invalidating their marriage. Atleast this one wasn't the male lead forcing or blackmailing the female lead into a marriage but the outside world forcing them into it.

Originally posted by: woman11

A lot of debate is happening in the forum regarding whether to consider Aditya Imlie's relationship an extra marital affair. Keeping aside those debates on fictional characters, I am curious to know what most of you think about extra-marital affairs? What would you do if your spouse falls for another woman? What advice would you give to a friend whose spouse is longer interested in the marriage?

For me personally, a marriage that has fallen apart doesn't deserve to be "saved". Will there be heartbreak? yes. Will I be shock, anger, denial, devastation? Yes. But would I want to carry on with the man (provided I am economically independent)? NO. However, I have seen different people react in different ways to such a situation, so it would be interesting to hear what people think.

P.S: Lets avoid character bashing. Films and visual media are often reflections of our real world, so lets discuss the many perspectives of this issue in the real world.

I agree with you .. for me too a marriage that has fallen apart need not to be saved.. if I were in malin’s place .. I will let adi go away for sure.. if he is not interested in me .. I also not want ..and parents should not interfere in this .. let them decide.. what is gud for them .. in this case only marriage happens ( no baggage of kids ) .. don’t know about any physical intimacy between the couples.. so malini can lead a happy married life with other person..

Join some coaching centre in Rajinder Nagar Delhi !

Marriage is mainly based on understanding & compatibility

Physical attraction , looks etc will fade away after a while

It’s mainly on compatibility whether emotionally or intellectually to some extent physically too

If one of the spouses falls out of love and finds interest elsewhere Maybe such a marriage is not needed to be saved

There are people who stay in such marriages for the sake of their kids , parents , society , lack of security blah blah 🤓

But it only leads to toxicity in that relationship 😭

Extra marital affair - if my hubby had an EMA usko laat maarke bhaag jati 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️

My self respect and self worth is much more than to cry on a man who seems to be crying for another woman 😆

Chadd yaar 😉

Duniya mein aur bhi gham hain shaadi ke alavaa🤣

Personally I would do the same .....walk out of a marriage where my spouse has cheated or moved on wid someone else. Atleast I hope that I would be able to do so.

Having said that I have seen people in real life who have stayed in the marriage even after discovering their spouse has cheated on them and I am not talking abt girls who are dependent on their spouse. I am talking about financially independent strong girls. Also it's not about trapping or punishing your husband. Bcz I personally know someone who is one of the best persons you will ever come across and not at all fake. So yeah people like dt do exist .

Money and children are a huge deciding factors in braking a marriage.
Once a cheater always a cheater. Leaving and wanting to leave that cheating marriage vs what is possible. if a person is not financially independent it’s very difficult to survive in the cruel world. It’s individual decision after looking at everything. Cheating partner is not only emotionally toxic but he can be a high risk physically for STD as well. Horrible horrible situation for anyone but makes easy break if one has money and support after walking away.

If I found out my spouse is cheating on me, I’d make his life hell. I’d divorce him or stretch it out depending on what is more difficult for him. Cheating is not something I’ll tolerate at any cost. And why should I just “move on” simply and let him off the hook easy? He made a fool out of me, broke my trust, disrespected me and our vows.
I am not the kind of person who will cheat in a relationship without ending it fully and I expect the same loyalty from my SO.

He can fall out of love with me - that’s human but he has to let me know/have the talk before romancing someone else. I’ll be hurt/angry/in pain but that is one situation that I’ll understand.

Originally posted by: Ahlaam5

In the case of this show, I personally don't see Adilie as extra-marital affair per say, the extra-marital affair would probably be Adini for me.

Adi should have annulled his marriage with Imlie before marrying Malini.

Also looking at Serial history, forced marriages are the norm so I don't understand why suddenly some people are invalidating their marriage. Atleast this one wasn't the male lead forcing or blackmailing the female lead into a marriage but the outside world forcing them into it.

He should have done ✅ a lot of things to set it right he is not uneducated he seems to be a journalist to fight for right and wrong seems he is a rangeela babu Malini ki bhoot toh imli ko Maro goli and then imliya imliya toh Malini toh seif dost Hein I am just waiting for his divorce with Malini jake imilya ko le kar jo chahe kare