What would have Ani done?

DISCLAIMER - The writing below consists of spoilers of today's episode.

The episode was hard-hitting. Even though I thought I had no more feelings left for the show, all of it resurfaced when I watched the episode. I felt angry, hurt and sad. Hence decided to pen down whatever angst and questions I felt within myself.

The episode starts with Manorama serving the cake Bon made for Ani to Rani Sahiba. Bon sees it and starts questioning Manorama as to why she is accepting praises for no work of hers? Ani comes there and asks Bon to stop it. Bon insists that she won't support a lie because he was the one who taught her that and raise voice against the wrong. Ani shouts and shuts her up saying he won't tolerate the insult of Manorama further in front of the Queen, when in reality it was him and Manorama who insulted her. (But it obviously has become a habit of Ani to shout at Bon publicly and insult her, so nothing to say about it)

Bon's handmade cake was served by Manorama to the Queen. Well ARC proudly said a few days back "Bondita ke har badhe huye kadam sirf Barrister Babu banne ke taraf hona chahiye, naki rasoi ki taraf." What would he have done if Bon did not made the cake? How would he have then helped Manorama in her muhim?

Bon gets angry but does not show it. She goes to her room. Ani comes there and bends to talk to Bon when she starts undoing her shoes and stands in the bed. Ani comes to her room for the first time after he brought a second wife, and she is 'sensible enough to not give him peeth-ka-dard anymore', remembering the words of Ani "Bondita ne mujhe peeth ka dard aur naak mei dum karne ke alava aur kuch nahi diya hai". The scene very clearly points it out that Bon not showing her pain all along does not means she did not feel it 💔. Ani is at a loss of words for this.

Then Ani starts explaining about how he chose to support the lie because at that moment the lie was greater than the truth and that Manorama needs to go to the welcoming ceremony of the Viceroy General. When Bon enquires him the reason, he covers up saying it was for the reputation of the RCs. To quote his words,"Chahe lakh manmutav kyun na ho aapno ke saath, kisi bahaar se aaye mehmaan ke samne ghar ke aapne ke jhagde samne laana sahi hai? Kya sochenge wo hamare baare mei? Kya izzat reh jayegi hamari? Galat hai na Bondita." 👏

The man who has publicly humiliated his wife, not for once, but twice and even to some extent today is asking to not speak about internal matters in the open, to the girl who has never ever brought up her personal problems in front of the public. Starting from openly criticizing their relationship to calling their marriage a swang publicly, he has done it all. Hypocrisy never loomed larger than this.

Bon could have easily questioned him about the marriage revelation day but she didn't. That's the extent of her love and trust for her patibabu that prevented her from doing so. Had there been someone else she could have easily pointed out to him/her. But her morals and conscience are always in combat with the love she has for Ani and the latter ends having a upper hand. But I hope someday the former wins and she choses her principles and her self-worth, even if Ani is involved. I guess the day is close.❤️

But what's heartbreaking was the fact that Bon, immediately after listening to the explanation went to accept a fault that she was never at. Just by listening to an explanation by Ani and that too for ONCE. Just because he said it was the question of the family's izzat, that it was his izzat which was involved. Not only that, she even manages to persuade the Queen for inviting the RCs to the welcoming ceremony even when she knew Thakur, the person who tried taking advantage of her, was a close contact of the Queen.

Won't the girl who resorted to a lie, accepted an accusation that was never hers in front of the Queen and others just because her patibabu explained it to her conveniently for once, WOULD NOT have gotten back to studies (if she really was out of it) and stop those actions if Ani had explained to her, for once just like today? Wouldn't have the girl, who kept aside her life-scarring incident and managed to get an invitation from the person with whom her molester was involved just because her patibabu said it, had given up the adamance of being a dutiful wife and come back to her normal self if her patibabu had given her an assurance on their relationship?

All of the 'supposed' tricks she used on Manorama to oust her from Ani's life and make her 'lose' gave way today. The previous selfless Bon emerged out, victoriously. But when I introspected as to how Bon became that way, I remembered Ani's words -"uske masoomiyat ko maarke usse sahi raste pe laungi"- and he succeeded to a large extent. In the process of making her jealous so that he can bring her on the right track, ARC indirectly made Bon a self-conscious girl who thinks twice before praising and helping others. ARC in this track snatched Bon's innocence. But today somehow, even if it is little, she got back her own selfless soul.

Bon did not accepted those ways and treaded on the path shown by Kaka and the society because of her teenage issues, but because she lacked assurance and had the fear of losing out on the relationship that meant the world to her. Till when Ani was there with her, she never allowed anyone to intrude in her relationship - it was evident when Sampoorna tries to speak ill of her relation and her patibabu but she gives it back to her. But the moment Ani leaves her side, she gets really really insecure and starts choosing ways that she might have never chosen in the first place.

This exact assurance was what she only needed. She kept her self-esteem aside today and listened to what Ani said. Wouldn't she have listened THEN too if Ani made her understand the depths of their relationship? Wouldn't have just a SINGLE ASSURANCE from Ani worked?

Bon stood there pained, after the queen made an exit. Ani SAW IT but he went after Manorama to escort the Queen and her companions 🤢. I can't fathom the pain the little girl must have felt to accept a wrong allegation in front of everyone, to accept a humiliation which she never deserved. She felt so lonely 💔.

The episode ends with Manorama thanking Bon to which she replies "Maine ye sab sirf aapne parivaar ke izzat ke liye kiya hai. Ye jhoot apne patibabu ke liye bola hai. Kyunki mere liye mere patibabu ki aatma-samman se barkar aur kuch bhi nahi hai". And at one point of time, Ani wanted Bon to place her self-respect above everything else. I wonder what would he have done if Bon really chose her self- respect today and did not accepted those accusations? How would he have managed to persuade the Queen? How would he have made Bon listen to him if she really placed herself above anything else? Just hearing Barrister Babu instead of Birristra Babu made him numb, what would he have done if Bon gave it back to him, all of it, by choosing her self-respect at that time? What would he have done if Bon chose neither Dalhousie hostel nor Manorama as choti patni and have instead chosen her self-respect? What would have Ani done if Bon chose her self respect the day he accepted of her being a bojh to to him? Would he have found her in the house after coming back? Because he apparently went after Azadi Express's letter conveniently forgetting about how Bon must be feeling with all the harsh words and truth of her marriage. Came back and asked for a faint apology. What if Bon really went away? WHAT WOULD HE HAVE DONE?

Phew! That's all. I now feel a little comfort. 😆 Sorry if I have given you sar dard. 😒

I did not mean to offend anyone. It's purely my take on the episode. All of your agreements/disagreements are welcome.😳

Originally posted by: Indira12

DISCLAIMER - The writing below consists of spoilers of today's episode.

The episode was hard-hitting. Even though I thought I had no more feelings left for the show, all of it resurfaced when I watched the episode. I felt angry, hurt and sad. Hence decided to pen down whatever angst and questions I felt within myself.

The episode starts with Manorama serving the cake Bon made for Ani to Rani Sahiba. Bon sees it and starts questioning Manorama as to why she is accepting praises for no work of hers? Ani comes there and asks Bon to stop it. Bon insists that she won't support a lie because he was the one who taught her that and raise voice against the wrong. Ani shouts and shuts her up saying he won't tolerate the insult of Manorama further in front of the Queen, when in reality it was him and Manorama who insulted her. (But it obviously has become a habit of Ani to shout at Bon publicly and insult her, so nothing to say about it)

Bon's handmade cake was served by Manorama to the Queen. Well ARC proudly said a few days back "Bondita ke har badhe huye kadam sirf Barrister Babu banne ke taraf hona chahiye, naki rasoi ki taraf." What would he have done if Bon did not made the cake? How would he have then helped Manorama in her muhim?

Bon gets angry but does not show it. She goes to her room. Ani comes there and bends to talk to Bon when she starts undoing her shoes and stands in the bed. Ani comes to her room for the first time after he brought a second wife, and she is 'sensible enough to not give him peeth-ka-dard anymore', remembering the words of Ani "Bondita ne mujhe peeth ka dard aur naak mei dum karne ke alava aur kuch nahi diya hai". The scene very clearly points it out that Bon not showing her pain all along does not means she did not feel it 💔. Ani is at a loss of words for this.

Then Ani starts explaining about how he chose to support the lie because at that moment the lie was greater than the truth and that Manorama needs to go to the welcoming ceremony of the Viceroy General. When Bon enquires him the reason, he covers up saying it was for the reputation of the RCs. To quote his words,"Chahe lakh manmutav kyun na ho aapno ke saath, kisi bahaar se aaye mehmaan ke samne ghar ke aapne ke jhagde samne laana sahi hai? Kya sochenge wo hamare baare mei? Kya izzat reh jayegi hamari? Galat hai na Bondita." 👏

The man who has publicly humiliated his wife, not for once, but twice and even to some extent today is asking to not speak about internal matters in the open, to the girl who has never ever brought up her personal problems in front of the public. Starting from openly criticizing their relationship to calling their marriage a swang publicly, he has done it all. Hypocrisy never loomed larger than this.

Bon could have easily questioned him about the marriage revelation day but she didn't. That's the extent of her love and trust for her patibabu that prevented her from doing so. Had there been someone else she could have easily pointed out to him/her. But her morals and conscience are always in combat with the love she has for Ani and the latter ends having a upper hand. But I hope someday the former wins and she choses her principles and her self-worth, even if Ani is involved. I guess the day is close.❤️

But what's heartbreaking was the fact that Bon, immediately after listening to the explanation went to accept a fault that she was never at. Just by listening to an explanation by Ani and that too for ONCE. Just because he said it was the question of the family's izzat, that it was his izzat which was involved. Not only that, she even manages to persuade the Queen for inviting the RCs to the welcoming ceremony even when she knew Thakur, the person who tried taking advantage of her, was a close contact of the Queen.

Won't the girl who resorted to a lie, accepted an accusation that was never hers in front of the Queen and others just because her patibabu explained it to her conveniently for once, WOULD NOT have gotten back to studies (if she really was out of it) and stop those actions if Ani had explained to her, for once just like today? Wouldn't have the girl, who kept aside her life-scarring incident and managed to get an invitation from the person with whom her molester was involved just because her patibabu said it, had given up the adamance of being a dutiful wife and come back to her normal self if her patibabu had given her an assurance on their relationship?

All of the 'supposed' tricks she used on Manorama to oust her from Ani's life and make her 'lose' gave way today. The previous selfless Bon emerged out, victoriously. But when I introspected as to how Bon became that way, I remembered Ani's words -"uske masoomiyat ko maarke usse sahi raste pe laungi"- and he succeeded to a large extent. In the process of making her jealous so that he can bring her on the right track, ARC indirectly made Bon a self-conscious girl who thinks twice before praising and helping others. ARC in this track snatched Bon's innocence. But today somehow, even if it is little, she got back her own selfless soul.

Bon did not accepted those ways and treaded on the path shown by Kaka and the society because of her teenage issues, but because she lacked assurance and had the fear of losing out on the relationship that meant the world to her. Till when Ani was there with her, she never allowed anyone to intrude in her relationship - it was evident when Sampoorna tries to speak ill of her relation and her patibabu but she gives it back to her. But the moment Ani leaves her side, she gets really really insecure and starts choosing ways that she might have never chosen in the first place.

This exact assurance was what she only needed. She kept her self-esteem aside today and listened to what Ani said. Wouldn't she have listened THEN too if Ani made her understand the depths of their relationship? Wouldn't have just a SINGLE ASSURANCE from Ani worked?

Bon stood there pained, after the queen made an exit. Ani SAW IT but he went after Manorama to escort the Queen and her companions 🤢. I can't fathom the pain the little girl must have felt to accept a wrong allegation in front of everyone, to accept a humiliation which she never deserved. She felt so lonely 💔.

The episode ends with Manorama thanking Bon to which she replies "Maine ye sab sirf aapne parivaar ke izzat ke liye kiya hai. Ye jhoot apne patibabu ke liye bola hai. Kyunki mere liye mere patibabu ki aatma-samman se barkar aur kuch bhi nahi hai". And at one point of time, Ani wanted Bon to place her self-respect above everything else. I wonder what would he have done if Bon really chose her self- respect today and did not accepted those accusations? How would he have managed to persuade the Queen? How would he have made Bon listen to him if she really placed herself above anything else? Just hearing Barrister Babu instead of Birristra Babu made him numb, what would he have done if Bon gave it back to him, all of it, by choosing her self-respect at that time? What would he have done if Bon chose neither Dalhousie hostel nor Manorama as choti patni and have instead chose her self-respect? What would have Ani done if Bon chose her self respect the day he accepted of her being a bojh to to him? Would he have found her in the house after coming back? Because he apparently went after Azadi Express's letter conveniently forgetting about how Bon must be feeling with all the harsh words and truth of her marriage. Came back and asked for a faint apology. What if Bon really went away? WHAT WOULD HE HAVE DONE?

Phew! That's all. I now feel a little comfort. 😆 Sorry if I have given you sar dard. 😒

I did not mean to offend anyone. It's purely my take on the episode. All of your agreements/disagreements are welcome.😳

u penned down beautifully all thoughts and maybe makers did this so that we can realise our bon is not chnaged she is scarred like i said whatever pain bon has faced till now has started affecting her mind and heart and is there which would lead to complete breakdown one day

Originally posted by: Indira12

DISCLAIMER - The writing below consists of spoilers of today's episode.

The episode was hard-hitting. Even though I thought I had no more feelings left for the show, all of it resurfaced when I watched the episode. I felt angry, hurt and sad. Hence decided to pen down whatever angst and questions I felt within myself.

The episode starts with Manorama serving the cake Bon made for Ani to Rani Sahiba. Bon sees it and starts questioning Manorama as to why she is accepting praises for no work of hers? Ani comes there and asks Bon to stop it. Bon insists that she won't support a lie because he was the one who taught her that and raise voice against the wrong. Ani shouts and shuts her up saying he won't tolerate the insult of Manorama further in front of the Queen, when in reality it was him and Manorama who insulted her. (But it obviously has become a habit of Ani to shout at Bon publicly and insult her, so nothing to say about it)

Bon's handmade cake was served by Manorama to the Queen. Well ARC proudly said a few days back "Bondita ke har badhe huye kadam sirf Barrister Babu banne ke taraf hona chahiye, naki rasoi ki taraf." What would he have done if Bon did not made the cake? How would he have then helped Manorama in her muhim?

Bon gets angry but does not show it. She goes to her room. Ani comes there and bends to talk to Bon when she starts undoing her shoes and stands in the bed. Ani comes to her room for the first time after he brought a second wife, and she is 'sensible enough to not give him peeth-ka-dard anymore', remembering the words of Ani "Bondita ne mujhe peeth ka dard aur naak mei dum karne ke alava aur kuch nahi diya hai". The scene very clearly points it out that Bon not showing her pain all along does not means she did not feel it 💔. Ani is at a loss of words for this.

Then Ani starts explaining about how he chose to support the lie because at that moment the lie was greater than the truth and that Manorama needs to go to the welcoming ceremony of the Viceroy General. When Bon enquires him the reason, he covers up saying it was for the reputation of the RCs. To quote his words,"Chahe lakh manmutav kyun na ho aapno ke saath, kisi bahaar se aaye mehmaan ke samne ghar ke aapne ke jhagde samne laana sahi hai? Kya sochenge wo hamare baare mei? Kya izzat reh jayegi hamari? Galat hai na Bondita." 👏

The man who has publicly humiliated his wife, not for once, but twice and even to some extent today is asking to not speak about internal matters in the open, to the girl who has never ever brought up her personal problems in front of the public. Starting from openly criticizing their relationship to calling their marriage a swang publicly, he has done it all. Hypocrisy never loomed larger than this.

Bon could have easily questioned him about the marriage revelation day but she didn't. That's the extent of her love and trust for her patibabu that prevented her from doing so. Had there been someone else she could have easily pointed out to him/her. But her morals and conscience are always in combat with the love she has for Ani and the latter ends having a upper hand. But I hope someday the former wins and she choses her principles and her self-worth, even if Ani is involved. I guess the day is close.❤️

But what's heartbreaking was the fact that Bon, immediately after listening to the explanation went to accept a fault that she was never at. Just by listening to an explanation by Ani and that too for ONCE. Just because he said it was the question of the family's izzat, that it was his izzat which was involved. Not only that, she even manages to persuade the Queen for inviting the RCs to the welcoming ceremony even when she knew Thakur, the person who tried taking advantage of her, was a close contact of the Queen.

Won't the girl who resorted to a lie, accepted an accusation that was never hers in front of the Queen and others just because her patibabu explained it to her conveniently for once, WOULD NOT have gotten back to studies (if she really was out of it) and stop those actions if Ani had explained to her, for once just like today? Wouldn't have the girl, who kept aside her life-scarring incident and managed to get an invitation from the person with whom her molester was involved just because her patibabu said it, had given up the adamance of being a dutiful wife and come back to her normal self if her patibabu had given her an assurance on their relationship?

All of the 'supposed' tricks she used on Manorama to oust her from Ani's life and make her 'lose' gave way today. The previous selfless Bon emerged out, victoriously. But when I introspected as to how Bon became that way, I remembered Ani's words -"uske masoomiyat ko maarke usse sahi raste pe laungi"- and he succeeded to a large extent. In the process of making her jealous so that he can bring her on the right track, ARC indirectly made Bon a self-conscious girl who thinks twice before praising and helping others. ARC in this track snatched Bon's innocence. But today somehow, even if it is little, she got back her own selfless soul.

Bon did not accepted those ways and treaded on the path shown by Kaka and the society because of her teenage issues, but because she lacked assurance and had the fear of losing out on the relationship that meant the world to her. Till when Ani was there with her, she never allowed anyone to intrude in her relationship - it was evident when Sampoorna tries to speak ill of her relation and her patibabu but she gives it back to her. But the moment Ani leaves her side, she gets really really insecure and starts choosing ways that she might have never chosen in the first place.

This exact assurance was what she only needed. She kept her self-esteem aside today and listened to what Ani said. Wouldn't she have listened THEN too if Ani made her understand the depths of their relationship? Wouldn't have just a SINGLE ASSURANCE from Ani worked?

Bon stood there pained, after the queen made an exit. Ani SAW IT but he went after Manorama to escort the Queen and her companions 🤢. I can't fathom the pain the little girl must have felt to accept a wrong allegation in front of everyone, to accept a humiliation which she never deserved. She felt so lonely 💔.

The episode ends with Manorama thanking Bon to which she replies "Maine ye sab sirf aapne parivaar ke izzat ke liye kiya hai. Ye jhoot apne patibabu ke liye bola hai. Kyunki mere liye mere patibabu ki aatma-samman se barkar aur kuch bhi nahi hai". And at one point of time, Ani wanted Bon to place her self-respect above everything else. I wonder what would he have done if Bon really chose her self- respect today and did not accepted those accusations? How would he have managed to persuade the Queen? How would he have made Bon listen to him if she really placed herself above anything else? Just hearing Barrister Babu instead of Birristra Babu made him numb, what would he have done if Bon gave it back to him, all of it, by choosing her self-respect at that time? What would he have done if Bon chose neither Dalhousie hostel nor Manorama as choti patni and have instead chose her self-respect? What would have Ani done if Bon chose her self respect the day he accepted of her being a bojh to to him? Would he have found her in the house after coming back? Because he apparently went after Azadi Express's letter conveniently forgetting about how Bon must be feeling with all the harsh words and truth of her marriage. Came back and asked for a faint apology. What if Bon really went away? WHAT WOULD HE HAVE DONE?

Phew! That's all. I now feel a little comfort. 😆 Sorry if I have given you sar dard. 😒

I did not mean to offend anyone. It's purely my take on the episode. All of your agreements/disagreements are welcome.😳

You have penned everything so beautifully❤️

I saw the episode in bits and pieces but honestly felt like crying for the little baby🥺 she has become so lonely.

Ani's hypocrisy angers me so much, I can't explain how frustrated I feel while I watch him these days😡 and makers making him balidan ka muhrat is so disgusting. What balidan did he actually make in all this drama? Both Ani Mano seem to be insensitive to Bondita's pain. Mano took credit for something she never made and also called Bon jealous, And Ani too just let everything happen and didn't even feel bad for Bondita😡 bass Mano ki insult nahi honi chahiye😕 and that parivaar ki izzat ka reason was so lame coming out of Ani who before this didn't give two hoots about it.

Poor baccha, what was her mistake, she was accused of lying and shouted by Ani but later she rectified everything💔 and Ani didn't even go to her💔 its so heartbreaking💔 I really hope someday Bon calls him out for his hypocrisy and double standards😡

And these days I just cringe when she calls him her patibabu. It once was such an endearing term, but now I just hate it when she calls him patibabu. He doesn't deserve the care and affection anymore😵 want her to call him barrister babu

Sorry for the rant😆 I should really stop watching for my own peace I guess. Episodes are so frustrating these days

Originally posted by: Katy4566

u penned down beautifully all thoughts and maybe makers did this so that we can realise our bon is not chnaged she is scarred like i said whatever pain bon has faced till now has started affecting her mind and heart and is there which would lead to complete breakdown one day

Thank you Katy❤️

Yes, it has started affecting her mind. God, she does not deserves it. I don't know what would I do when I will watch her completely breaking down.🥺 I know am over-reacting 😆, but Bon is very close to my heart.😭

Originally posted by: bhshre95

You have penned everything so beautifully❤️

I saw the episode in bits and pieces but honestly felt like crying for the little baby🥺 she has become so lonely.

Ani's hypocrisy angers me so much, I can't explain how frustrated I feel while I watch him these days😡 and makers making him balidan ka muhrat is so disgusting. What balidan did he actually make in all this drama? Both Ani Mano seem to be insensitive to Bondita's pain. Mano took credit for something she never made and also called Bon jealous, And Ani too just let everything happen and didn't even feel bad for Bondita😡 bass Mano ki insult nahi honi chahiye😕 and that parivaar ki izzat ka reason was so lame coming out of Ani who before this didn't give two hoots about it.

Poor baccha, what was her mistake, she was accused of lying and shouted by Ani but later she rectified everything💔 and Ani didn't even go to her💔 its so heartbreaking💔 I really hope someday Bon calls him out for his hypocrisy and double standards😡

And these days I just cringe when she calls him her patibabu. It once was such an endearing term, but now I just hate it when she calls him patibabu. He doesn't deserve the care and affection anymore😵 want her to call him barrister babu

Sorry for the rant😆 I should really stop watching for my own peace I guess. Episodes are so frustrating these days

Shreya❤️🤗

No need to be sorry. I know how frustrating it is and I am in the same phase. That's why I penned it down for a relief. You too can pour down your frustration whenever you want. I will be happily accompanying you🤪🤣

Yes, you are right. Ani to be honest does not look like a male lead now. He appears as a villain to me 🤢🤪. And yesterday my blood boiled seeing his actions 😡. I know I am exaggerating but I can't help express my displeasure. 🥱

@Bold - I haven't understand how is he the victim. He was crying that day, saying Bon ke liye mujhe zeher ka ghoont peena bhi manzoor hai, what exactly is the zeher ka ghoont he has been drinking? Like after he married Manorama I did not see him getting insulted (just as he thought society would blame him, but they were shipping him with his new wife on the reception day), nor did I see him in pain anytime. Instead he looks very happy nowadays, like yesterday and day before yesterday when his zindagi bhar ka pyaar forwarded her hand for zindagi bhar ke dosti 🤢. I am over him. He can do whatever he wants in his personal life but why does he keeps insulting Bon every then and now? Why does he keep making her go through such pain? Yes you said it right. He didn't even go to Bon after that 🤢. I don't believe he is the same Ani who would get tensed seeing Bon in pain, who promised never to allow a single tear escape from her eyes. Looks like some nakli Ani has replaced him

And that Mano ki insult nahi honi chahiye was 🤢. God knows where was the insult of Mano taking place 🤢.

P.S. Why don't you come to EDT nowadays? It was so nice to have discussions on the episodes with you.😒

Originally posted by: aastha12345

Maybe many of you will say ki we never wanted a romantic relationship between anidita, we just wanted a platonic pati patni bond, why even that?? Why is Anirudh wrong in not accepting bondita as his wife?she is a child, a child doesn't need a husband's love, she needs parental love and Anirudh provides her exactly what she needs, I don't know why just because he got attracted towards manorama, all are getting betrayal vibes from him, why?I don't justify his attraction towards Mano at all, neither his polygamy, but how did he betray bondita that time?(now after polygamy he has but what about before), she is a child and Anirudh saw her like a child, so what wrong did he do? Him being a pedophile would be worst than him being a polygamist tbh, I saw maximum of the people here, in fact all, when bondita was imagining her marriage with aniruddh people here were saying kaash ye real hota and all that and I couldn't believe it, what kind of cheap thrills were those? Even I loved the beautiful hugs between anidita, but wanting ani to have a happy marriage with a child will be the worst character assassination of him(even worse than now), so okay you all have been saying ki makers have a wrong idea about woman empowerment and they are showing oppression actually, right, but isn't your idea of empowerment worse? wanting a happy child marriage taking place, then makers are better than you guys, I apologise once again for being this rude, but this was in my mind since long, and why can't you just see ani as a parent, a mentor, not a husband

Originally posted by: aastha12345

I may sound very rude to you but trust me I have no hard feelings against you, it's just that your post has angered me, first of all tell me what wrong has anirudh done??When he shouted at bondita publicly during anniversary celebration then you all were bashing him so badly this and that, was he wrong even then?did he say something wrong?he was right, Val vivah is a kupratha and his marriage with bondita is a kupratha as well, but what went wrong was that he insulted a little girl publicly, so didn't Bondita do the same thing? She shouted at manorama publicly and Anirudh behaved perfectly right when he came, anyone would be angry seeing a child behaving that way, he didn't immediately shout as her, he said many times Bondita go inside, but when she didn't it was only then that he shouted at her, back in Room the way Bondita was behaving, I know she was frustrated and all, but still her throwing things was not justified at all, she's very young for this type of behaviour, and tbh if my mother saw me this way she would have literally slapped me(now I don't say anirudh should have done this), but Anirudh gently explained her why she was wrong and thanked her for making cake, he explained her that though her stand was perfectly right but her behaviour wasn't, I don't know why is the fandom bashing Anirudh so much for nothing at all, even I'm angry at him for his polygamy, but fandom is bashing him much before that, they started doing this from the time he refused to give in to bonditas nibbi pan, I don't understand why?I have started to feel that now you all want romantic feelings from Anirudh towards bondita (romantic not sexual), and I actually many of you do, even many on Instagram do, why?aren't you aware ki pedophilia is not only the sexual but romantic feelings for a child as well, so why do you want Anirudh to come out as a pedophile?why are 21st century educated people justifying child marriage?why??

Sorry if I was rude

Okay. It's nice that you decided to open up on your thoughts and I appreciate that. Now, be a little patient and bear with me.

During the marriage celebrations, (I don't know which post you read), we all said, in fact we WANTED from the start that Bon should be aware of the truth of her marriage. Considering the things that happened with her during her wedding, i.e., Sati and her being unconscious at that time were all to much for a child, it can cause mental trauma if not being revealed properly. I don't know if you have seen the earlier episodes or not, but Ani himself said to Bon "Nahi ye sahi samay hai aur nahi tumhari itni umar hai ke tum ye sab jano" when she enquired about whether her marriage is wrong or not. Was just a year enough to let her know the truth. Okay let's say she was behaving really adamant at that time and Ani had no other option except letting her know the truth. But the way he told her was absolutely wrong. Why?

Suppose (Don't get offended, it's just an assumption I am making to make you relate with the situation and I apologise for any inconvenience caused but try to understand the view I am putting up) you are the adopted child of your parents (not that I am saying adoption does not make one the real child, nothing like that, it's just for relatability). Not the legal adoption, but let's say you were rescued from a life-threatening incident by your parents. You don't have any idea regarding it and all this time you believed the other way around. Now suppose in a public party, you commit a BIG mistake and your parents, in anger, reveal it to you and in the HARSHEST way possible. Saying things that they never really had a mann ka rishta with you and the whole relationship is a swang (farce). You get shocked but continue to insist that they take their words back because your mind is unable to hear those things. Why? Because you love them from the bottom of your heart. What was wrong in the entire scenario? Saying it in public and using those hurtful words. Does that mean they should have never told you the truth and kept you in the dark? NO. But there is a WAY of saying it. They should have made you feel better at first, given you the assurance that nothing is going to change in between you and them, and whatever happened was just a play of luck, a bad memory and nothing else. But they are lucky to have you as their child. IN A WAY THAT IT AFFECTS YOU THE LEAST, THAT IT CUASES THE LEAST AMOUNT OF TRAUMA.(Take yourself as the same age of Bondita)

Ani was wrong in that way, not by telling the truth but by revealing it in public and using the harshest of words to demean a relationship that Bon prioritized the most. Just as when he said that "internal matters should not be brought in front of public eyes", the truth of their marriage, saying their relationship was never mann ka rishta, should not have been there before the public view too.

@UL - Again if you were a child and you read in a school where there is one student with whom you have 'not a very good' relationship (sort of jealous) because he/she, apparently is in a position that you enjoyed and loved. You have written a very nice essay which deserves praises and you keep that to be later submitted to your teacher. You go somewhere else and that student, without taking permission from you, submits your essay to the teacher (no matter how good his/her intention were, you don't have an idea of it) and the teacher, obviously starts praising him/her. You come to your class and you see it suddenly. How will you feel? Would you have kept quiet about it (considering your age was 12)? Would you have not confronted the student immediately?

Bon did not raise voice against Manorama ( I guess you need to see the episode one more time). She CONFRONTED her. There is a difference between confrontation and insult. She asked her as to how she is taking praises for a work which she never did? Won't you have asked that student? She asked Rani Sahiba to believe her that it was she who made the cake. Won't you have asked your teacher to believe it was you who wrote the essay? She said "doosre ki cheezon ko apna kehna sahi ha kya, kya isse chori nahi kehte?" . Won't you have said that to the student as well? You know what, Manorama knew she was wrong that is why in her mind she asked "apology" from Bon, but insisted to do that because nothing is bigger than her muhim, not even she herself. She said things like "inhone mujhse shaadi karli isiliye mera cake nahi, khud koyle ki tarah jal rahi hai mujhse badi patni". That was wrong and EVEN Manorama KNEW it but she had to do it. She said that Bon is a lier, wasn't that an insult? ( I am not talking about how it was important for her mission or not, I am saying that it was an insult and 'that is why she asked apology in her mind'). Ani did talk to her in a low voice (not calmly) at first but instead of understanding her perspective and handling the situation maturely, he asked her why is she making a tamasha in front of everyone? What if your parents came to you and asked you the same when you were confronting the student? What if they have told that they won't tolerate the insult of the student in front of the teacher when it was you who was insulted? He resorted to shouting the second time only (so it's clear he didn't tried making her 'understand' SEVERAL TIMES).

Now let's say, you are very angry and start throwing things in your room. Would your mother slapping you made sense? Or was it right if she made you understand it calmly? Ani did what was expected and what was normal, nothing that he must not have done. He didn't made a favor on her by not slapping her. Coming to the explanation part, I just mentioned it to you that the public humiliation during the anniversary was wrong. Ani asked her to not bring up personal matters in the open, but just as I said before, he himself did it. So it looks nothing but a hypocrisy.

@Blue - I think you have a wrong idea about the forum. I don't know which people on social media wanted Ani to have romantic feelings for Bon and I am not responsible to clarify that. But here nobody ever wanted that. Everytime we got a Rudhita scene we got excited and the excitation was EQUAL FOR EVERY RUDHITA SCENE. Be it a fun conversation or Ani caring for her, the happiness was the SAME. I think you are new to the forum and even I am few days old but I have been a silent member for a long time and therefore I knew the kind of emotions people here felt. So you must be mixing you views, might be that you saw something which came as wrong to you and you looked at the emotions of the people here through the same eyes, through the same mindset. I will advice you to not mix your thought process and try to understand through the other way round too. I know people tend to have different opinion but what's good about this forum is that most of the people try to understand the opinion of the other one too, try to look at it from a different perspective because there are two sides of a coin.

Also regarding child marriage I personally felt this show was not to prove how child marriage is wrong (as Balika Vadhu did) and this was cleared by Pravisht in the first interview itself. This show was how the relationship of Anirudh-Bondita challenges the normal protocols of 'typical' husband-wife relationship. How their relationship is a "different-from-the-lot" husband-wife relationship. We never wanted Ani to have romantic feelings for him because a husband-wife relationship is not about getting romantic or sharing romantic feelings. It's way beyond that- it's a relationship of love, respect, trust, care and understanding which WAS shared by Rudhita and we were happy with it. As accepting a child marriage, well, Ani before this SR fiasco had called Bon his wife a hundred times and nobody had a problem BECAUSE - One which I already said that a husband wife does not necessarily need to be romantic, Rudhita had a special bond and second is because of the fact that the show was based in 1920s. But having said that nobody now wants this marriage to continue (you should keep visiting the forum to know the reason). Yet again I will say that try to look through from a different perspective too, it helps a lot.❤️

Originally posted by: Indira12

Okay. It's nice that you decided to open up on your thoughts and I appreciate that. Now, be a little patient and bear with me.

During the marriage celebrations, (I don't know which post you read), we all said, in fact we WANTED from the start that Bon should be aware of the truth of her marriage. Considering the things that happened with her during her wedding, i.e., Sati and her being unconscious at that time were all to much for a child, it can cause mental trauma if not being revealed properly. I don't know if you have seen the earlier episodes or not, but Ani himself said to Bon "Nahi ye sahi samay hai aur nahi tumhari itni umar hai ke tum ye sab jano" when she enquired about whether her marriage is wrong or not. Was just a year enough to let her know the truth. Okay let's say she was behaving really adamant at that time and Ani had no other option except letting her know the truth. But the way he told her was absolutely wrong. Why?

Suppose (Don't get offended, it's just an assumption I am making to make you relate with the situation and I apologise for any inconvenience caused but try to understand the view I am putting up) you are the adopted child of your parents (not that I am saying adoption does not make one the real child, nothing like that, it's just for relatability). Not the legal adoption, but let's say you were rescued from a life-threatening incident by your parents. You don't have any idea regarding it and all this time you believed the other way around. Now suppose in a public party, you commit a BIG mistake and your parents, in anger, reveal it to you and in the HARSHEST way possible. Saying things that they never really had a mann ka rishta with you and the whole relationship is a swang (farce). You get shocked but continue to insist that they take their words back because your mind is unable to hear those things. Why? Because you love them from the bottom of your heart. What was wrong in the entire scenario? Saying it in public and using those hurtful words. Does that mean they should have never told you the truth and kept you in the dark? NO. But there is a WAY of saying it. They should have made you feel better at first, given you the assurance that nothing is going to change in between you and them, and whatever happened was just a play of luck, a bad memory and nothing else. But they are lucky to have you as their child. IN A WAY THAT IT AFFECTS YOU THE LEAST, THAT IT CUASES THE LEAST AMOUNT OF TRAUMA.(Take yourself as the same age of Bondita)

Ani was wrong in that way, not by telling the truth but by revealing it in public and using the harshest of words to demean a relationship that Bon prioritized the most just like "when he said that internal matters should not be brought in front of public eyes", the truth of their marriage, saying their relationship was never mann ka rishta should not have been there before the public view.

@UL - Again if you were a child and you read in a school where there is one student with whom you have 'not a very good' relationship (sort of jealous) because he/she, apparently is in a position that you enjoyed and loved. You have written a very nice essay which deserves praises and you keep that to be later submitted to your teacher. You go somewhere else and that student, without taking permission from you, submits your essay to the teacher (no matter how good his/her intention were, you don't have an idea of it) and the teacher, obviously starts praising him/her. You come to your class and you see it suddenly. How will you feel? Would you have kept quiet about it (considering your age was 12)? Would you have not confronted the student immediately?

Bon did not raise voice against Manorama ( I guess you need to see the episode one more time). She CONFRONTED her. There is a difference between confrontation and insult. She asked her as to how she is taking praises for a work which she never did? Won't you have asked that student? She asked Rani Sahiba to believe her that it was she who made the cake. Won't you have asked your teacher to believe it was you who wrote the essay? She said "doosre ki cheezon ko apna kehna sahi ha kya, kya isse chori nahi kehte?" . Won't you have said that to the student as well? You know what, Manorama knew she was wrong that is why in her mind she asked "apology" from Bon, but insisted to do that because nothing is bigger than her muhim, not even she herself. She said things like "inhone mujhse shaadi karli isiliye mera cake nahi, khu koyle ki tarah jal rahi hai mujhse badi patni". That was wrong and even Manorama knew it but she had to do it. She said that Bon is a lier, wasn't that an insult? ( I am not talking about how it was important for her mission or not, I am saying that it was an insult and that is why she asked apology in her mind). Ani did talk to her in a low voice (not calmly) at first but instead of understanding her perspective and handling the situation maturely, he asked her why is she making a tamasha in front of everyone? What if your parents came to you and asked you the same when you were confronting the student? What if they have told that they won't tolerate the insult of the student in front of the teacher when it was you who was insulted? He resorted to shouting the second time only (so it's clear he didn't tried making her 'understand' SEVERAL TIMES).

Now let's say, you are very angry and start throwing things in your room. Would your mother slapping you made sense? Or was it right if she made you understand it calmly? Ani did what was expected and waht was normal, nothing that he must not have done. He didn't made a favor on her by not slapping her. Coming to the explanation part, what I just mentioned it to you that the public humiliation during the anniversary was wrong. Ani asked her to not bring up personal matters in the open, but just as I said before he himself did it. So it looks nothing but a hypocrisy.

@Blue - I think you have a wrong idea about the forum. I don't know which people on social media wanted Ani to have romantic feelings for Bon and I am not responsible to clarify that. But here nobody ever wanted that. Everytime we got a Rudhita scene we got excited and the excitation was EQUAL FOR EVERY RUDHITA SCENE. Be it a fun conversation or Ani caring for her, the happiness was the SAME. I think you are new to the forum and even I am few days old but I have been a silent member for a long time and therefore I knew the kind of emotions people here felt. So you must be mixing you views, might be that you saw something which came as wrong to you and you looked at the emotions of the people here through the same eyes, through the same mindset. I will advice you to not mix your thought process and try to understand through the other way round too. I know people tend to have different opinion but what's good about this forum is that most of the people try to understand the opinion of the other one too, try to look at it from a different perspective because there are two sides of a coin.

Also regarding child marriage I personally felt this show was not to prove how child marriage is wrong (as Balika Vadhu did) and this was cleared by Pravisht in the first interview. This show was how the relationship of Anirudh-Bondita challenges the normal protocols of 'typical' husband-wife relationship. How their relationship is a "different-from-the-lot" husband-wife relationship. We never wanted Ani to have romantic feelings for him because a husband-wife relationship is not about getting romantic or sharing romantic feelings. It's way beyond that- it's a relationship of love, respect, trust, care and understanding which WAS shared by Rudhita and we were happy with it. As accepting a child marriage, well, Ani before this SR fiasco had called Bon his wife a hundred times and nobody had a problem BECAUSE - One that I already said that a husband wife does not necessarily be romantic, Rudhita had a special bond and second is because of the fact that the show was based in 1920s. But having said that nobody now wants this marriage to continue (you should keep visiting the forum to know the reason). Yet again I will say that try to look through form a different perspective too, it helps a lot.❤️

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Infinity.......

Indu I have one sentence....

I love you....❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Again you proved we are family......

Originally posted by: aastha12345

Maybe many of you will say ki we never wanted a romantic relationship between anidita, we just wanted a platonic pati patni bond, why even that?? Why is Anirudh wrong in not accepting bondita as his wife?she is a child, a child doesn't need a husband's love, she needs parental love and Anirudh provides her exactly what she needs, I don't know why just because he got attracted towards manorama, all are getting betrayal vibes from him, why?I don't justify his attraction towards Mano at all, neither his polygamy, but how did he betray bondita that time?(now after polygamy he has but what about before), she is a child and Anirudh saw her like a child, so what wrong did he do? Him being a pedophile would be worst than him being a polygamist tbh, I saw maximum of the people here, in fact all, when bondita was imagining her marriage with aniruddh people here were saying kaash ye real hota and all that and I couldn't believe it, what kind of cheap thrills were those? Even I loved the beautiful hugs between anidita, but wanting ani to have a happy marriage with a child will be the worst character assassination of him(even worse than now), so okay you all have been saying ki makers have a wrong idea about woman empowerment and they are showing oppression actually, right, but isn't your idea of empowerment worse? wanting a happy child marriage taking place, then makers are better than you guys, I apologise once again for being this rude, but this was in my mind since long, and why can't you just see ani as a parent, a mentor, not a husband

I am glad you understand that point that Bon needs a parent's love, guardian's love and not the love of a husband. Ani WAS providing her it till now, now he isn't. Have you seen someone bashing Ani before? Ani was successfully giving her that and nobody wanted a husband's love, people were happy with it. But now it is NOT even a proper guardianship. No guardian would take such extreme steps for his/her child when she goes on the wrong track. I guess you understood why polygamy was wrong, so am not explaining it.

As far as betrayal vibes is considered, I don't know where you have read a post on betrayal on IF. Nobody considered Ani a cheater. You are looking at the things in your way. The problem was never with Ani falling in love with someone else, the problem was with THE WAY he fell in love. They showed Ani falling for someone at first sight, which is a bluff. Love at first sight is a bluff because love develops through care, respect and understanding for over a period. The pure love was shared by Rudhita and it's perfectly fine if makers sideline that. But, nobody ever said that Anirudh betrayed Bondita.

Why Anirudh is not accepting Bondita as his wife?- Tell me why did Anirudh called her his wife after the HM track? The reason that comes out is the reason as to why he should. Maybe because he can protect her, raise her in the garb of giving a name to the relationship. That's it. Nobody wanted Ani to accept her as his wife whole heartedly or in meanings you think of. It's just a tag of the relationship in front of the society so that he can take her zimmedari, the reason why he got married to her. If he couldn't accept it, it's okay too. But what was the need of saying that in the open? Because he did that, the ladies blamed Bon. They said, "zaroor ladki mei hi koi khot hai". Would they have dared to say that if Ani didn't bring out the truth in the open? Ani, by denying his relationship publicly, indirectly allowed people to blame Bon.

But now the law has passed, it will be a thing to watch as to how he keeps on to his promises.

That's for @Blue. So before polygamy we never said he betrayed Bon because how come he betray Bon when he never looked at her like that. But even you agree that after polygamy there are instances of that.

@Red - Can you please share those? Because atleast I haven't read anything like that here in IF, neither in the EDT nor in the main forum. Instead a lot of members were against the fact and said that it shouldn't be shown because it will now look like promoting child marriage.

@Green - Again I don't know from where you have read that we wanted a 'happy child marriage'. We were satisfied with whatever relationship makers showed before the SR track. I don't know why this question comes creeping up. Wrong idea of woman empowerment, definitely NOW, not before this. Public humiliation of a woman taking place was the wrong idea of woman empowerment. Polygamy is the wrong idea of woman empowerment. And newest addition to the list is Ani's constant saying that Bon should not cook, should not make coffee, should not do any kind of household work because when Bon asked him during Holi that why can't she do household work and studies at the same time, Ani answered that one cannot sail in two boats ( you can check the episode). Now don't say that yes he is right, because Bon is a child, she is not supposed to do that. Cause this was shown in the show EARLIER that Bon is avval in managing both of them and even Ani did not protested, for ONCE, when he used to eat food made by Bon, when Bon served him coffee. So no point of arguing over that. And suddenly the show is now glorifying how a woman should not cook and all, that she cannot do both and has to CHOOSE between them. Firstly, a housewife too belongs equally to the idea of woman empowerment cause it takes many guts and strength to run a household ( this show also preached it earlier, now it is suddenly taking a u-turn) and secondly if a man does not has to choose between them, why should a woman. Hence whatever its propagating NOW is definitely a wrong idea of woman empowerment.

Also please analyse why Ani said to Manorama that he won't marry her when she first proposed him for this marriage. Because he said polygamy is wrong (dusri kupratha ka sahara nahi lunga), isn't it? If Ani does NOT accept the marriage with Bon that means he is not married which gives him the right to marry with Manorama, right? But he knows he is married to Bon that's why it appeared wrong to him in the first place. Secondly, attraction and infatuation cannot be controlled to which I completely agree. But after HE REALIZED that he loved Manorama, did he ever say that 'No, I shoudn't be thinking so' or 'It's wrong for me to fall in love with someone else out of marriage'. You will say "but Ani doesn't consider this as a marriage right"? So if he doesn't consider this a marriage it isn't wrong for him to marry for the second time too, in fact it will be for the first time a real marriage. Isn't it? But 'he considers that wrong because he is married', but 'isn't considers it wrong to harbor feelings out of marriage'. THE SAME REASON HE IS ACCEPTING AT ONE TIME AND REFUSING THE SECOND TIME AS PER HIS OWN CONVENIENCE, right?

Again, we never wanted a happy child marriage. We were happy with whatever was shown right from the starting. If we wanted a happy marriage or something romantic we wouldn't have signed up for this show, we would have switched in another show cause there ae plenty of them now in ITV.

Originally posted by: aastha12345

I am not able to reply here can we talk someotger way

As you are a newbie you might have a lot of restrictions. Just an advice edit this post and make this your reply. Don't try to quote my reply, it won't happen. Just plain reply.