Originally posted by: sunnygrin
Newbie here on the forums - I find this show fascinating. Again and again it makes us turn a mirror on to ourselves and our implicit biases as individuals and as a society. It makes us question what we can or cannot accept. Psychologically- it’s an exquisite puzzle and love it or hate it - it is definitely not tepid and will provoke a reaction in you. Like they say about a popular piece of art- it’s about how it makes you feel.
As a newbie who finds some of the scenes breath taking and worthy of watching again and again- I must say it does hurt and jar me to read ugly comments and trolls on the leads ages, appearances etc . I can of course choose not the read them but often you can’t tell what a person is going to say until you read the post. So yes- I agree that it would be nice if people were sensitive to this. Sometimes to enjoy these romances you have to be in a particular bubble and after my last foray into the anti- Adilie camp- I wish I had not read the forums. But also sometimes you feel like sharing with like minds, so here I am again.
As I have written in another thread - none of the leads are at fault. They have been thrown into these circumstances. I feel for each of them. Even though Aditya’s logical mind might say his Pagdandiya marriage to Imlie May not be valid - at some level the rituals did matter to him perhaps not to the extent that Imlie believes but still... To quote the famous Ms. Khushi Kumari Gupta SR- baat sach ya jhoot ka nahin hain, baat vishwas ki hai.’ And in the end it’s faith in a marriage that gives it life.
And Aditya- Imlie’s is a unique bond . He has always been challenged and thrown out of his comfort zone with her. But he is a person who loves that- that is reflected in his career choice as well of being a reporter. And Imlie is incredibly special - even in her OTT antics (kudos to the actress for pulling off some of it in a manner that’s bearable to those of us who can’t take OTTs) . But on another level in Adilie’s relationship -to have someone take a bullet for you- that is something else.
And the honest thing is there is no logic or rules to love- as Imlie herself realizes quite early on- she and Aditya are perfectly mismatched and yet he falls for her in a way he never had for Malini. And for her - he is the brave reporter willing to put his life at stake to bring justice, the person who helps her Dadda walk freely, who has never ever considered her to be a ‘gawar’ as the villagers have come to expect from the ‘shehris’ and this above all makes her fall for him than merely the fact that he is her husband.
Now from her side - Malini is right in feeling puzzled at Aditya’s behavior and perhaps subconsciously she has realized that he doesn’t love her - waiting for someone for 7 years is awfully long - but chooses to ignore it just like Lavanya did with Arnav in IPKKND. Or perhaps compared to her parents marriage or even (speculating)that of her mother’s friends - Aditya’s amiability towards her is mistaken for love. And compared to the bitter battleground her parent’s marriage is- she sees the predictability in her marriage and how perfectly her choices meet Aditya’s - as secure and comforting. Sadly she hasn’t realized that parallel lines never meet.She should have left him ages ago and didnt. Being rejected is hard and she does have my sympathy- even if it turns her character ugly. It’s hard to be rejected - I am sure many of us have been there - some of us will sacrifice our ego and self respect for our notion of love . I am sure many married women (and men) in India and elsewhere do do that- so I think her reactions and the way she is changing is to be expected.
Of course the shows writers can’t let go of her yet- half the drama is gone if she does the logical thing. And she herself cannot let go without a fight.
I also find it so interesting to read in some of the comments how easily some people have accepted Imlie in a servants role- because of the way she looks speaks and her perceived poverty.As Prakash says to Imlie - his family thinks you are the servant and you can sense her shock because to her - she has always been the bahu and she is just play acting as the help. Imagine how painful that is from her point of view - in her village she was such a special person - poised to be the most highly educated girl from her village. As the story unfolds, It will be very interesting to see if Prakash is proven right and how exactly broad minded the Tripathis are.
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