Child marriage Polygamy and infidelity - Page 4

Originally posted by: TinkiGogoi

Ok go through all the discussions here..

I got TM's point and others also.

So i am making it simple,short and straight..

Do each and every fan of BB understands what Ani is doing right now is making Bondita back in track to her studies..Yes👍🏼

Does Ani's intention is good?? Yes 👍🏼

Do each and every fan of BB supports Child marriage? No

Do each and every fan of BB wanted a romantic relation between the leads or anything close to it? No

By wanting Rudhita remain as husband-wife,do each and every fan of BB wanted a romantic relation between the leads or anything close to it? No

So what does fans want then???

Ans- It is as simple as that to show a logical way from Ani to make Bondita back to track i.e. to her studies without torturing her mentally,emotionally and by public humiliation..

Every parents wanted their child to become either an engineer/doctor/ACS officer/Professor etc..etc..But do every child become that? NO..

To fulfil their dream,parents apply every possible way to achieve it..But then why we hear the news of some young TALENTED students commiting suicide?? Because the way their parents(sometimes teachers too) adopt to make them what they want was WRONG..

There is always numerous ways to do a thing..It is upto us what way we CHOOSE..The fans have no objections of Ani trying to make Bon study but the PATH he chooses is COMPLETELY WRONG..

(The fans would have still accepted it if the marriage was fake and the person he chooses for it is someone else than his pehli nazar ka Zindagi bhar ka pyar..

But was the marriage fake? No

Was it any random girl? No) i am keeping this in bracket because you don't wanna discuss about it..so it's better leave it here..so let's come to the point..

If he wanted to free her from this KUPRATHA of Child marriage,and she has always been a Zimmedari for him then why he treated her as his wife,RC's bahu and allowed her live in a dreamland of happy married life ?? so that one fine day he will shatter all these happiness in the best cruel way ever to show her how Child marriage is a KUPRATHA?? Is that what you accept?? If a person's intension is good that does not give him the licence to do anything in the name of teaching..

It was the creators who showed the audience how unique their bond was..thatswhy viewers got attached to them..it was again them who showed them looks like an ideal couple..fans did not demand it..For ex, in the fake subhra track, he addresses her as "apne Pati babu ki rakshak babu, pati babu ki bandita" and in nemerous ocassions,he make her feel he has accepted her as his wife..Tab kaha gai thi uski Zimmedari jaap??And why this nautanki now?? Stick to what you want Anirudh Babu..He cannot make a girl behave like WIFE or Zimmedari according to his convenience..Be consistent in your behaviour or else nobody is going to support your illogical method of teaching BARRISTER BABU..

Everything is on point tinki👏

Seeing you after a long time dear🤗

Originally posted by: NoraSM

Marriage is not joke but Marriage isn't everything, they didn't marry to stay together, This show is telling us Sindoor and Mangalsutra are not binding you for life, Marriage is Marriage only when you are in it with your everything, Marriage done to save a child or marriage done as a means to an end is not a real marriage.

You are saying 2nd Marriage kills the feel of a couple but what feels one gets from a couple where one isn't old enough to open a bank account in her name, then responsibility of a marriage on her does become a joke. This show gives disclaimers about child marriage being a crime everyday.

We see it differently, I don't expect Ani or Bon to fall into the regular ITV trope of Ek chutki sindoor ki keemat is more than our dreams, future and a good life.

Ani's wedding to Mano for me is what they are presenting it to be, Ani is not committed to Bon or Mano, Bon is not committed to him, Mano is not committed to him.

Mano has her goals, Marriage is not a joke fails when one is risking her life for her nation, It fails when marriage was done to save a child from being murdered, the marriage is not a marriage until and unless to consenting adults go into it with their heart.

Mano and Ani's marriage is a plot device, a means to an end, the ultimate goal of the show is Bon being barrister and Ani highlighting why Kuprathas are called Kuprathas

Mano and Ani both went in this facade of a marriage for their different goals

They are not cheating on anyone, Bon isn't aware of it but audience is aware of it, so how does it ruin anything?

I don't see child marriage as a real marriage, Marriage is a social contract, people who are part of it are way more important than the marriage. This is why I don't think Ani marrying Mano is a big deal as both are aware of the reality and Ani's first marriage is to a child

Points to be noted - I am against both polygamy and child marriage therefore both marriages don't feel real to me.

I don't think the 2nd Marriage was required in this track, This could have been executed without it

@ bold: this is exactly everyone wanted.👍🏼..nobody wanted to see rudhita as a romantic couple now but the way he is giving her emotional torture is what everyone doesn't accept...just that he could have brought her to right track by heartfelt communication without unnecessary drama

By the way hi.... I'm krishna😃

How should I call you?

Originally posted by: Rudhitafan

Everything is on point tinki👏

Seeing you after a long time dear🤗

Thank you so much krishna 🤗how are you sweety?? 😊

Yes since a long time i have been a silent reader here..posts only occassionally..😆

Originally posted by: TinkiGogoi

Thank you so much krishna 🤗how are you sweety?? 😊

Yes since a long time i have been a silent reader here..posts only occassionally..😆

Tinki🤗

Stopped watching the show long back thank god I'm busy with my studies😆

But still come to the forum for our behenas❤️

And roasting the makers and ani🤣

....my dil ka sukoon🤣

Originally posted by: TinkiGogoi

Ok go through all the discussions here..

I got TM's point and others also.

So i am making it simple,short and straight..

Do each and every fan of BB understands what Ani is doing right now is making Bondita back in track to her studies..Yes👍🏼

Does Ani's intention is good?? Yes 👍🏼

Do each and every fan of BB supports Child marriage? No

Do each and every fan of BB wanted a romantic relation between the leads or anything close to it? No

By wanting Rudhita remain as husband-wife,do each and every fan of BB wanted a romantic relation between the leads or anything close to it? No

So what does fans want then???

Ans- It is as simple as that to show a logical way from Ani to make Bondita back to track i.e. to her studies without torturing her mentally,emotionally and by public humiliation..

Every parents wanted their child to become either an engineer/doctor/ACS officer/Professor etc..etc..But do every child become that? NO..

To fulfil their dream,parents apply every possible way to achieve it..But then why we hear the news of some young TALENTED students commiting suicide?? Because the way their parents(sometimes teachers too) adopt to make them what they want was WRONG..

There is always numerous ways to do a thing..It is upto us what way we CHOOSE..The fans have no objections of Ani trying to make Bon study but the PATH he chooses is COMPLETELY WRONG..

(The fans would have still accepted it if the marriage was fake and the person he chooses for it is someone else than his pehli nazar ka Zindagi bhar ka pyar..

But was the marriage fake? No

Was it any random girl? No) i am keeping this in bracket because you don't wanna discuss about it..so it's better leave it here..so let's come to the point..

If he wanted to free her from this KUPRATHA of Child marriage,and she has always been a Zimmedari for him then why he treated her as his wife,RC's bahu and allowed her live in a dreamland of happy married life ?? so that one fine day he will shatter all these happiness in the best cruel way ever to show her how Child marriage is a KUPRATHA?? Is that what you accept?? If a person's intension is good that does not give him the licence to do anything in the name of teaching..

It was the creators who showed the audience how unique their bond was..thatswhy viewers got attached to them..it was again them who showed them looks like an ideal couple..fans did not demand it..For ex, in the fake subhra track, he addresses her as "apne Pati babu ki rakshak babu, pati babu ki bandita" and in nemerous ocassions,he make her feel he has accepted her as his wife..Tab kaha gai thi uski Zimmedari jaap??And why this nautanki now?? Stick to what you want Anirudh Babu..He cannot make a girl behave like WIFE or Zimmedari according to his convenience..Be consistent in your behaviour or else nobody is going to support your illogical method of teaching BARRISTER BABU..

As I said they have presented everything through his monologs and flashbacks, When he called her his wife or when she lived as Bahu, did he intend this relationship to develop into a relationship shared by a married couple?

They presented changes in Ani and Bon's characters through society expecting and teaching Bon to live like an ideal wife and Ani's Kaka asking him for an heir as Bon is a woman now, but does he see her as a woman? Should he?

Bon and Kaka asked him all these questions

He answered every question when Kaka said that Bon and Ani lived like a husband and wife, Ani kept repeating that their relationship is different in truth revelation episode where Bon got to know how and why Ani had to marry her.

Why did he treat her like a wife?

Did he?

Wasn't it a revelation for him that people eventually will expect him to consummate his marriage? They have presented every bit of it in the show, After society's influence on Bon, Bon failing in her class, Kaka asking for uttaradhikari, Do we really need to ask why did he change his stand?

Bon, Society and Kaka don't understand why Child Marriage is wrong, Ani is the only one who understands how Bon is suffering in her quest to be an ideal wife

There were sequence of events which led him to evaluate his feelings, can he really keep calling Bon, his wife when he sees the price a child bride has to pay? Can he really look at a child and think about future with her?

He is her protector, her mentor and her teacher

One can sit and think Child marriage works if husband is like Ani, but can we afford it?

Good husband/wife = Good marriage

This is for every marriage

Whats the incentive to ban child marriage, if all came down to getting a good husband?

Makers have a huge responsibility to project a sensitive issue in a way that they don't send out wrong message, You can see channel putting disclaimers of it being a crime, and I believe they are doing a good job so far as I can see what led to change in Bon and Ani

Is Anirudh's method wrong or right?

I am reserving my judgment on it

In short, I don't support Ani but I understand what is trying to do

Originally posted by: Rudhitafan

@ bold: this is exactly everyone wanted.👍🏼..nobody wanted to see rudhita as a romantic couple now but the way he is giving her emotional torture is what everyone doesn't accept...just that he could have brought her to right track by heartfelt communication without unnecessary drama

By the way hi.... I'm krishna😃

How should I call you?

Hey Krishna, You can call me Nora

I agree

There's absolutely no reason for 2nd Marriage, it doesn't make sense but I guess channel is pushing the production house for TRP

Originally posted by: NoraSM

Hey Krishna, You can call me Nora

I agree

There's absolutely no reason for 2nd Marriage, it doesn't make sense but I guess channel is pushing the production house for TRP

I think the crap they are showing is the exact reason for their low trp....we the BB audience have given our show 2+ trps during zabardast tracks like hm and mini exposure etc...so we can say we without saas bahu sautan track have always given them good nos....but no they deliberately showed such craps just like any other itv show and from there they lost it...

Originally posted by: NoraSM

As I said they have presented everything through his monologs and flashbacks, When he called her his wife or when she lived as Bahu, did he intend this relationship to develop into a relationship shared by a married couple?

They presented changes in Ani and Bon's characters through society expecting and teaching Bon to live like an ideal wife and Ani's Kaka asking him for an heir as Bon is a woman now, but does he see her as a woman? Should he?

Bon and Kaka asked him all these questions

He answered every question when Kaka said that Bon and Ani lived like a husband and wife, Ani kept repeating that their relationship is different in truth revelation episode where Bon got to know how and why Ani had to marry her.

Why did he treat her like a wife?

Did he?

Wasn't it a revelation for him that people eventually will expect him to consummate his marriage? They have presented every bit of it in the show, After society's influence on Bon, Bon failing in her class, Kaka asking for uttaradhikari, Do we really need to ask why did he change his stand?

Bon, Society and Kaka don't understand why Child Marriage is wrong, Ani is the only one who understands how Bon is suffering in her quest to be an ideal wife

There were sequence of events which led him to evaluate his feelings, can he really keep calling Bon, his wife when he sees the price a child bride has to pay? Can he really look at a child and think about future with her?

He is her protector, her mentor and her teacher

One can sit and think Child marriage works if husband is like Ani, but can we afford it?

Good husband/wife = Good marriage

This is for every marriage

Whats the incentive to ban child marriage, if all came down to getting a good husband?

Makers have a huge responsibility to project a sensitive issue in a way that they don't send out wrong message, You can see channel putting disclaimers of it being a crime, and I believe they are doing a good job so far as I can see what led to change in Bon and Ani

Is Anirudh's method wrong or right?

I am reserving my judgment on it

In short, I don't support Ani but I understand what is trying to do

Accha listen just like kaka said it is normal for ani to have two wives and manorama so ani wishful bride ,now ani first wife is child bride who has no true idea of marriage ,she knows what she is taught ,she is unhappy because Anirudh her shikshak,rakshak and Birristera babu married someone else , now she has no rights on him ,she can’t ask solace from him and for her he is her wrongdoer ,so all her feelings and emotional pain are hidden under the name of hubby wifey ,

Also , suppose bon is child and kaka thinks this facade of second maaruage is carried out and bon sees ani mano happy together and no one says anything then on growing up she die to her loneliness finds love outside ,will kaka support her ,society would blame her and think of many child brides who without knowing belongingness of husbands saw their husbands marrying another wives thus losing their heir identity and grew up with six acceptance ,emotional pain suppressed ,kaka always knew bon has rebellion in her ,her chanchalpan,kutark are her strength and way of breaking norms so he moulded her into duties ,bahu and wife but I want elder bon to be a hero,a girl who solves others trouble ,a girl who supports right thing and listens to her heart for that she needs emotional maturity , she is not someone wife or bahu,beti but Bondita first who gets unconditional love , makes friends shows world friendship is between hearts but living in society and with kaka she won’t get it ,her inquisitiveness and her identity is going away

If ani does not intervene and bring her back to her focus and life ,a time would come where she would feel suffocated with Adarsh patni and bahu things ,which she has started rn

Bon nature is of not to be bonded by chains or customs but fulfill relations with selflessness ,freedoms and loyalty out of heart so this thing is required to be inavct in her

Originally posted by: Katy4566

I completely understand all , bon is a kid and to be honesty she has not right now experience love with ani also ,tabhi her nibbi pan showed childishness and sense of belongingness to ani as for her ani is her support suystem , friend and mentor and her strength ,their relation is unique ,without this societal angle he can prove and eventually see bon as his partner and person he trusts and relies upon , bon has still not understood love her phase of understanding love will come later in her life where she will meet people loving her for her beauty,some for her individuality and luckily one who loves her for her inner soul and flaws so she will have this phase later in her life

Accha listen just like kaka said it is normal for ani to have two wives and manorama so ani wishful bride ,now ani first wife is child bride who has no true idea of marriage ,she knows what she is taught ,she is unhappy because Anirudh her shikshak,rakshak and Birristera babu married someone else , now she has no rights on him ,she can’t ask solace from him and for her he is her wrongdoer ,so all her feelings and emotional pain are hidden under the name of hubby wifey ,

Also , suppose bon is child and kaka thinks this facade of second maaruage is carried out and bon sees ani mano happy together and no one says anything then on growing up she die to her loneliness finds love outside ,will kaka support her ,society would blame her and think of many child brides who without knowing belongingness of husbands saw their husbands marrying another wives thus losing their heir identity and grew up with six acceptance ,emotional pain suppressed ,kaka always knew bon has rebellion in her ,her chanchalpan,kutark are her strength and way of breaking norms so he moulded her into duties ,bahu and wife but I want elder bon to be a hero,a girl who solves others trouble ,a girl who supports right thing and listens to her heart for that she needs emotional maturity , she is not someone wife or bahu,beti but Bondita first who gets unconditional love , makes friends shows world friendship is between hearts but living in society and with kaka she won’t get it ,her inquisitiveness and her identity is going away

If ani does not intervene and bring her back to her focus and life ,a time would come where she would feel suffocated with Adarsh patni and bahu things ,which she has started rn

Bon nature is of not to be bonded by chains or customs but fulfill relations with selflessness ,freedoms and loyalty out of heart so this thing is required to be inavct in her

I agree with you. I can understand Ani mostly because he is the only one who is against Child marriage on the show. Bon's feelings, her wish to be the best for husband etc isn't she losing out on her innocent childhood in quest for a Husband Wife relationship?

Everyone says Ani didn't explain it to her, but he did try so many times, He told her to choose her self respect, her future, her independence, her name, he told her she doesn't have to live like someone's doormat

Kaka is enabling her, asking her to entice Ani and we all know he asked Ani for an heir, Bon doesn't know all this, she can't perceive meaning of husband wife relationship, she has a completely different idea

Where is Anirudh wrong? He doesn't accept a chd bride as his wife, is it wrong? He is fighting against child marriage, is it wrong?

He did try to explain it to her that she is young and there can't be a relationship between them, their bond is unique, why do people keep talking about couple and marriage? Child marriage is a curse in Bon's life, freeing her and other brides from it, is not wrong, Ani filed a petition in court to make child marriage legally and socially illegal, What's wrong in this?

What will change if Bon and Ani are not married? Their relationship will remain the same, There won't be expectations of a good wife from Bon, there won't be responsibilities on her, she will live her life in her terms

A few days of pain to get life time of happiness

Does she want to be a barrister? Should Ani force her?

She wants to be his wife, should he accept her? Is she in an age to make a decision like this for her life?

She should focus on her education as Ani said Education is an ocean of opportunities while marriage with him is just a drop of water, Bon should aspire to be someone who can stand with her head high

Sorry to comment as I never comment on this forum but yes I am watching show from 1st episode.

For bondita: yes she is wrong but not completely she is just a kid kids get influence by people easily even now a days when kids see some chips or something on other kid hand they start doing zid so it doesn't mean there parents become like sumati,

But Aniruddh he is a educated man who spend his most of life in London in an open minded society not in Indian partichary society which was shown at that time and very well know about mental trauma which was shown in bed wetting track too.

His way of making bondita realize importance of education is not only wrong but it's inhuman,

He snatched bondita mother love also from her,her every suport from her, made her completely alone, with this emotional mental trauma no one can become successful.

teenage kids need special utmost care not Anirudh treatment, career is part of life it's not whole life,a person need relations,love, guidance,support

this kind of mental emotional torture create long time fear,distrust issue in kid mind for long time and sometimes for life time, and only education is not a key of life time happiness we have seen many big position officers commit suicide bcoz of loneliness,

There are many people who choose wrong path in life bcoz of emotional trauma they suffered in there childhood there education never make them happy,often those who commit suicide education also fail there to stop them bcoz with education teenage and kids need many things in which love,care, guidance is needed.

When adult even oldies become victim of this depression than bondita is just a teenage kid.

Anirudh way is like throwing bondita into depression by breaking her from all sides if she become something like barrister in life than also she is going to loose her real self,her inner happiness