SHAURYA AND CEN? A Psychological profile analysis - Page 4

Originally posted by: Coffee_Chips

This was a very explanatory post & I'm glad you shared the knowledge you have about the issue 💜

Originally posted by: ..KpopIsLife..

Great post🤗

Liked all the points u hit about Shaurya...i myself having done a minor in pyschology, i agree with you i would write a long post but dont have time right now...maybe later i will write in detail...otherwise u have hit nice points his behavior is shown this way cause of his childhood if parents or any caretaker should have given him the love n support he needed he might have been a different person...its always about nuture vs. nature some parts come from nuturing others from the environment one grows in...anyway great post loved it...👍🏼

This is very true..

Devi snatched and kept shaurya away from his parents and tried to mother him.. he has never been able to come in terms with losing his real mom and that pain has grown with him... devi has made him the way she wanted him to be and without any real choice he has become the person they wanted but inside him the real shaurya is trapped and his emotions are trapped..

He says that he listens to his heart.. but the brain has been fed by devi and when heart feels the hurt the brain and upbringing takes over only to every single time realise that it was wrong.. shaurya has a lot of layers to be peeled.. and that's going to take many such instances where he will learn something new and unlearn what devi has fed his mind with..

It already started with learning to trust when anokhi pushed him to learn that she was innocent and he apologised to her.. learning to apologise when anokhi pushed him to realise he was wrong and his apology is necessary.. now understanding that every poor girl is not a gold digger.. somewhere the possibility that he will know more about anokhi in this process about her family and how she chose to study over the pressure of marriage.. babli might play an important role here..

Originally posted by: NamuVyas

This is very true..

Devi snatched and kept shaurya away from his parents and tried to mother him.. he has never been able to come in terms with losing his real mom and that pain has grown with him... devi has made him the way she wanted him to be and without any real choice he has become the person they wanted but inside him the real shaurya is trapped and his emotions are trapped..

He says that he listens to his heart.. but the brain has been fed by devi and when heart feels the hurt the brain and upbringing takes over only to every single time realise that it was wrong.. shaurya has a lot of layers to be peeled.. and that's going to take many such instances where he will learn something new and unlearn what devi has fed his mind with..

It already started with learning to trust when anokhi pushed him to learn that she was innocent and he apologised to her.. learning to apologise when anokhi pushed him to realise he was wrong and his apology is necessary.. now understanding that every poor girl is not a gold digger.. somewhere the possibility that he will know more about anokhi in this process about her family and how she chose to study over the pressure of marriage.. babli might play an important role here..

Amazing post and wonderful analysis Shreya..👏

Loved it. ❤️

I understand the complexity of the character Shaurya is because of the deep down route inside his mind from his childhood. Child Emotional Neglect.

I have studied psychology and psychiatry in detail as a student. Worked in pediatric physiotherapy for 4 years. And very well observed the behavior of a child.

Often the child whom we see around is neglected or possibly the parents are not understanding the fact that what his/ her emotional needs.

I myself wondering that why I used to behave in a certain way in some occasions. But that might be connected back with my childhood phase.. It sits somewhere burrowed deep down in subconscious.

Everyone has a different way on channelizing that inner fears or whatever. Shaurya’s is anger. Mine is to cut off.

Here not justifying Shaurya’s character or the venom he spews. But a psychological analysis.

Now another take why patriarchy , discrimination, misogynistic approach and other things are deep rooted. Its because the roots are planted since childhood.

If a boy cries then its to be said “Why you are crying or whining like a girl?” Instead of “its okay to cry and let it out.” And instead of telling “it doesn’t matter and let it be “ parents should understand that the child’s emotional needs also matters.

Phew . Here I rest my case. Apologizing for this long post.

Originally posted by: dusk2dawn

Amazing post and wonderful analysis Shreya..👏

Loved it. ❤️

I understand the complexity of the character Shaurya is because of the deep down route inside his mind from his childhood. Child Emotional Neglect.

I have studied psychology and psychiatry in detail as a student. Worked in pediatric physiotherapy for 4 years. And very well observed the behavior of a child.

Often the child whom we see around is neglected or possibly the parents are not understanding the fact that what his/ her emotional needs.

I myself wondering that why I used to behave in a certain way in some occasions. But that might be connected back with my childhood phase.. It sits somewhere burrowed deep down in subconscious.

Everyone has a different way on channelizing that inner fears or whatever. Shaurya’s is anger. Mine is to cut off.

Here not justifying Shaurya’s character or the venom he spews. But a psychological analysis.

Now another take why patriarchy , discrimination, misogynistic approach and other things are deep rooted. Its because the roots are planted since childhood.

If a boy cries then its to be said “Why you are crying or whining like a girl?” Instead of “its okay to cry and let it out.” And instead of telling “it doesn’t matter and let it be “ parents should understand that the child’s emotional needs also matters.

Phew . Here I rest my case. Apologizing for this long post.

This is a great post and take. I don’t have much to add. I work in tech so I clearly am not qualified to speak on this subject.

But I’ll add this - part of my frustration with Shaurya lies in the fact that his recent behavior is so normalized on TV from what I have read here and elsewhere and for no good reason. here we have another male lead who is enacting out the same stuff. If they want to truly set this show apart, they need to address what you have shared in your post with some level of depth and in a way that will work on mainstream TV. I want them to show that his behavior needs to be addressed and dealt with as a result childhood neglect and lack of emotional support in childhood.
I want them to show Shaurya eventually seeking professional help. That seriously be earth shattering if they can pull that off. It can’t be Anokhi or someone else who brings that change.

Originally posted by: Idiotboxer

Very well written. Most of Shaurya's psychology issues are a result of emotional neglect in childhood. He tries to always be under control but with certain people, at certain circumstances, his buried emotions explode like volcano. But, his male entitlement, superiority complex and misogynistic attitude are the product of the society we live in. The roles that are imposed on people of each gender by the society is what gets ingrained in our minds and we perpetuate it generation after generation.

In my earlier place of work there was an HR who had a 7 year old kid. Once her child locked himself up inside the room because he did not like his mother going to work as according to him, fathers should go to work and mothers should stay at home. The fact is, working women all over the world have to go through this guilt that they are neglecting their kids. Women desiring a career have to make compromises w.r.t. their children's upbringing. No matter who takes up the responsibility of the kid, the mother will end up feeling guilty and try to overcompensate with material perks.

Sorry for deviating from the topic, just was trying to see things from another pov.

Agreed 💯

I think we can look at Bebo and Kitty as examples of how even with your mother around (at least physical presence) can only help so much. The ingrained cultural and societal thinking and their sense of entitlement also plays a role, yes

Originally posted by: Nomadic_Vibe

No I agree we always tend to blame the mother but here I blame Shaan more than Astha. Astha had reasons for leaving but neglecting Shaurya totally was all Shaan. He is a horrible parent even if he might a good husband and if he loved his son he should have taken his care.

Shaan is not off the hook. He also holds some patriarchal views that only the mother can provide the love and care a child needs and a father cannot match up. but thats not entirely true - father can also play that role. The burden should not be only on the mother. Parenting is a partnership.

Shaan neglected his duty and just gave up.

Originally posted by: somewhereover

This is a great post and take. I don’t have much to add. I work in tech so I clearly am not qualified to speak on this subject.

But I’ll add this - part of my frustration with Shaurya lies in the fact that his recent behavior is so normalized on TV from what I have read here and elsewhere and for no good reason. here we have another male lead who is enacting out the same stuff. If they want to truly set this show apart, they need to address what you have shared in your post with some level of depth and in a way that will work on mainstream TV. I want them to show that his behavior needs to be addressed and dealt with as a result childhood neglect and lack of emotional support in childhood.
I want them to show Shaurya eventually seeking professional help. That seriously be earth shattering if they can pull that off. It can’t be Anokhi or someone else who brings that change.