Good afternoon sisterhood!🌻🌺🌻🌄
Mubarak ho!
Wait, not because someone has said let's drop the 'Sir' 😅😅 it's because Sai has finally got her scholarship money👩🎓👩🎓 -- I guess we had high expectations about the amount. The amount of scholarship is only for the tuition fees ... And dew-drop must have already spent the money on buying the gold for Devyani and murti for Aai...
No wonder 'lucky charm' ke liye sirf lucky bamboo plant hi aaya 😅😅So, Rs 75000 is barely anything to be able to repay Virat's 'loan' with mooh maanga byaaj😃 (and already spent) but who said Chavan Saheb wants byaj in currency 😉😉 his eyes are set on 24K sone ka dil.... 😅😅 And Sai ne toh promise bhi Kiya Tha "Aapse kya mol bhaav karna"... Abhi toh maangna shuru hi Kiya hai... List will get longer with time...
So see, the moment the scholarship money has arrived ( are we to assume that he does know btw? ), Chavan Saheb has begun demanding for the sooth wala components -- "Mujhe Sir bulana bandh Kyun Nahi Karti" 😱😱😱 seriously! Like out of the blue?! Or does the lucky bamboo charm work so fast 😂😂😂
So Virat has actually thrown open the flirting ground for Baiko now -- she did really, really well in holding that straight face in front of him for a few seconds before walking away to hide her blushing cheeks 😆 of course, his eyes followed and as they say when someone is really smiling because of the 'love' that fills their heart, you don't need to see the face -- it was so evident.
But Virat can get 'hangry' in a matter of seconds. How quick was he to latch on to the fact that his Baiko has dropped Pulkit se 'Sir' and used a rather endearing Jiju tag for him so he's overcome by FOMO 😂😂😂
"Hamari bhi toh Shaadi huyi hai? Apne Pati ko sir bulana kab bandh karogi?" 😃😃😃
That was really a sixer on a full toss that Sai threw at him -- he never misses those😅
Shouldn't he have also had a FOMO feeling with "Thank you"? Pehle handwritten thank you note and now bamboo plant in a big thank you basket... But he knows Sai can say 'sooh sweet baby' instead of thank you. Shopping ke paise diye toh bhi Nahi boli 😂😂😂 itna hangry Karna bhi acchi baat Nahi hai na
Of course, he should even treasure the gift note "lucky charm" wala. Doesn't it say so much that has been left unspoken?
Of course, the names spouses use to address each other by show their affection, and project tenderness of their intimacy -- the two of them have actually already done such a good job at it. One of the most popular ways of building the positive emotional intimacies is to coin new names for the spouse -- the honey, darling, baby types are so common so these two of course have Khadoos Jasoos, Gabbar, Badbaddevi, Gadchiroli superfast and the likes 😅😅 -- these are all arising from their bond from the experiential intimacy -- shared experiences that has led to inside jokes only between them... and they are definitely private memories that can intensify their hurt at the loss of connection if it happens.
Ab what terms of endearment would work best for 'Pati' wale Chavan saheb? She already calls him "Smart boy" (it will soon be under question mark) but ab "Shaadi huyi hai" and 'Pati' feel wala endearment Chahiye toh what can it be? The typical Marathi "aaho" 😂😂😂 the Pakaku jodi will need CPR of the sound of that 'aaho' reaches their eardrums 😆😉 Sai should try it once to check the Pati's response to the stimulus 😛😛
He's anyway so touchy about anything she does. That incensed look and tone he had at the punching toy joke despite seeing the second present 🎁 made me feel lo ab ho Gaya Jhagda 😂 they are forever sitting on a time bomb...
"Main hamesha Tumhari pasand ki cheez laata hoon"
Bechara was really so excited to see the gift box and so dejected with the punching toy 😂😂😂😂😂 bur actually he's going to need this gift too. Chavan Saheb please preserve it and open it close to your face when you will need it once Sai is gone 😜😜
On a serious note, does Sai really know what he likes? The lucky bamboo plant was quite an impersonal gift although a very thoughtful one -- she added the deep message of relevance (and I also agree that buying gifts for men in general is a big task😅) but I doubt Sai knows what he likes -- Virat has not shared as much as Sai has shared with him things about her likes and dislikes. He has picked up a lot from observing her because she's the extrovert between them and it's easier to pick the clues of what she would like - and she's of course so easy to please. Am sure she would have even loved the punching doll and assumed it was really a gift 😂😂
But may be now she will pick up the clues too since the two of them are consciously putting energy into shifting aspects of the relationship because they silently desire for improvement and happiness... Isn't that a sign of commitment anyway?
It is heartening to see them cultivating this "safe space" in their conversations where one of them does not have to worry about judgment or contempt. But they are yet to reach the stage of being able to have the uninhibited conversations about the baggage that is attached to their relationship and lying in the centre of the room. That level of intimacy involves being able to tell each other the deepest fears and most complicated emotions, feeling seen and understood in the process.
For that, they must listen to understand rather than waiting to respond and refrain from invalidating the feeling of the other -- Sai mostly does it in her words and Virat in his silences... How will they ever throw that heavy excess baggage out of that blessed door of their room?!
And whoever decided to take that frame of the ghostly main door of their bedroom while Sai knocked at the bathroom door "bandh Kyun Kar liya"... Ek toh aisa laga Didi Ka manhoos bhoot andar na aa Jaye and second, hangry Gabbar ne darwaaza khol hi Diya Hota toh 😆
There would have been a chorus of 'Kamaal hai" 😛
So waise, navra baiko have settled scores on thank yous, what next?
Will they end up shopping ya it's going to be the day of 'chitthi aayi hai aayi hai...'??
Vahini has taken Virat's 'itna dimaag ladane ki zaroorat Nahi hai' a bit too seriously...
The phone call was so unnecessary unless it is attempted to make Virat realise how fixated Vahini is with the idea of stopping the marriage -- his flashback of her words and that nod of disbelief mixed with annoyance at her unkind behaviour gave that impression but would it then gel with his sudden change of side at the mere mention of the letter? Wouldn't he probe before changing his stand or will Patralekha succeed in planting the seed in his mind -- there's definitely no harm if he probes, he must.
But Didi ke Delusion Ka Dum toh ekdam alag variety Ka hai
"Main jaanti hoon mujhe kya Karna hai... Sai ko Lagta hai wo har Baar Sahi Hoti hai... Is Baar Nahi jeetegi kyunki Iss baar main Sahi hoon?"
Huh!???😯😯😯Huh!????😲😲😲 MATLAB?😨😨😨 Did anyone understand how? Please enlighten me... So her delusions are her reality, we all know but to this level? I mean, I thought she was convincing herself to side with Bhavani despite knowing the story but she actually thinks she's right? Is that how compulsive liars and manipulators convince themselves to appear convincing to the one they must fool? 😧😧🤐🤫🤫
So Didi will go running to type a letter in the first name that comes to her mind. She's actually convinced about passing her venom on to the innocent Devyani -- it makes me wonder whether she's actually also avenging Devyani's taunts directed at her in a way. Because in her mind, Devyani is cheering Sai in this so called race that Vahini's delusional mind is running to win.
Is the list of commonsense questions we must not ask increasing or decreasing?
So Virat bumps into Madhuri in the bank queue... And meets Pulkit bhau's 'sister' after reading his name on the cheque she's carrying. And even asks about Harini, bohat cute hai na? 😳 and wants to know the story of Harini from this lady in bank queue? 🙆🤦🤷🙅 Wah! Can't help but say wah wah... Why can't Mama and Mami visit the girl with gifts and sit and hear the story 😣🤔🤔 MATLAB why?? And he's almost upset at Madhuri's 'cold' response --why should she tell him the story in the bank? 😑 Her answer was absolutely right when she said you ask Pulkit but the "ek Baar Shaadi ho jaane dijiye" was so mischievously added to 'justify' how it will be the water to the seed planted by venomous Vahini.
Sai was sharp in picking up the intuition that something is going on between the Pakaku lovers. What makes Vahini so confident about the plan? Is the letter going to mention a 'daughter' by fluke or did Vahini hear some bits of Sai's conversation with Virat about Harini that we are unaware about as the "surprise" element. Virat meeting Madhuri in the bank can't be a coincidence for nothing... 🤔🤔🤔 Whatever it be, it still appears like such a flimsy ground for the misunderstanding. I don't think we'll be able to shorten our commonsense questions 😅😅.
How lovely was Sai, the David, today. The electric blue dress must have given enough shocks to the Pakakuli (adding Sonali to the Kaku gang) and then the Discovery that she didn't buy gifts for Queen Bhavani 😅 matlab kya zabardasti hai but the minor face off between Bhavani and Sai was again beautifully carried off by both the actors -- until vahini walks in, the scene is so watchable and also well executed. Sai's "Main Kaku se utna hi pyaar Karti hoon, jitna Kaku mujhse Karti Hain" was whistle worthy again. She doesn't care at all 😅😅😅 bhagwaan aisi bahu sabko de 😂😂😂😂
Bhavani reminded Sai about the 'money'. Obviously, no one is privy to the navra baiko conversation about the 'paisa' so everyone can continue to believe that it's a bone between them. For once let's thank vahini Dil se for leaving the scene with Bhavani without torturing our eyes more than her ghisa pita dialogue about 'badtameezi'... warna Uska next wala scene skip ho jaata 😉😉. But Vahini's conduct is so suspicious that Sai Joshi is almost on her way to 'pakde sacche doshi'... Will she?
Ashwini is enjoying these takedowns so much because bechari doesn't know what's coming up 🥺🥺
There have been so many discussions on how broken Virat will be when Sai leaves but what about Ashwini? The mother in her will be deeply anguished -- if Devyani is also to depart and Sai as well... She won't be mentally prepared to have both her girls missing all of a sudden and watching her son break as well. It will be tough on her already heavy heart -- although it's also Ashwini who will show Virat the mirror, I assume...
How touched was Ashwini with Sai's gift. And what a beautiful idol was that. Hopefully there will be sense among the Makad Sena to not damage the idol in vengeance 😒 but Bhavani always actually says the right things about Sai in her taunts -- samajhdaar aur akkalmand insaan 😅😅 We all think Bhavani is in love with Vahini but actually mein Uske Dil Ke taar bhi Sai se hi Jude huye Lagte Hain 😂😂😂😂 Didi ko mat batana please 🤫🤫
Six commonsense questions we must not ask:
1. Is Harini going to meet her mother after she comes home as Pulkit's wife?😕
2. Will Mama Mami buy some gifts for Harini in the shopping session and meet her before the kabootar drops the snake's letter?
3. Will Devyani's story of going mentally unsound be told before the drama to justify IPS officer's "wo dono baalig hain apne faisle khud kar sakte hain..."?
4. ACP Chavan arrived in the bank with two officers to assist him in queuing up at the cash counter... Ye log uss din Kahan thay when he was in the hospital with another kid and a dead phone?? 😜
5. The letter 💌 will pop up at the doorstep without a postal stamp from Sangeeta Deshpande. How did Sangeeta Deshpande learn about the wedding that has not been announced publicly, within one day of the resolve made only by navra baiko?🤫🤫🤔🤔
6. Is IPS officer going to think Madhuri lied about Harini to hide Pulkit's marriage to this non existent Sangeeta Deshpande? 🤔
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Is it necessary for spouses to know every minute detail of each other's daily lives? Can each.of the spouses have separate lives and not want to collaborate on everything? Yes, but it's crucial to have shared experiences.
We've been wondering why is their so much pull and so much pull back between this couple... The vulnerability required to achieve intimacy can be a fear in itself-- this fear holds a purpose. And most likely the purposes is "protection". They have the desire but the fear of being rejected, hurt and let down is stronger. The root cause is holding on to a negative experience or emotion that has been shared -- the deal, the vaada in this case. The inevitable physical distance will help them take the much needed step: to start building an intimate relationship with self, to be able to get comfortable with the feeling that is so inexplicable at the moment -- the 'love'.
Today adding a melody to the morning☕☕☕☕☕🍵🍵🍵🍵🍵 🤗🤗🤗🤗and ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Here it goes:
Ek ajnabi sa ehsaas dil ko sataye
Shayad yahi toh pyar hai
Betabiyon me dhadkan meri chal paye
Shayad yahi toh pyar hai
Kuch bhi kaha naa, kuch bhi suna naa
Phir bhi bechain dil hai humara
Behke kadam hai, mushkil me ham hai
Dekho sambhle bhala kaise yara
Chahe bina bhi najdik ham chale aaye
Shayad yahi toh pyar hai
Najare bicha de, pehare laga de dil pe
Par dil kisi ki naa maane
Kaanto pe chal ke, sholo me jal ke roke
Milake rahenge divane
Chahat ki lau toh aandhi me bhi jhilmilaye
Shayad yahi toh pyar hai
Have a lovely day!
❤️J
Jhanak
Shiv Shakti
