Anirudh is really wrong?!!

Originally posted by: mnm13

Looks like many are angry on ani. for his behaviour, shouting, his words and what not. Mainly on social media.

The things bon is fed on last few days is very wrong. Now she is showing the symptoms of those bad influences.

This is what happened in that era, girls were taught to be like this, a pati brata patni.

But ani wants bon to have a identity of her own, not live as Aniruddh roy chowdhury's wife.

To be honest, if i was at Anirudh's place, i would have done something drastic too at that moment. He was shocked, guilty and tensed for bon.

Anirudh and bondita may be husband and wife for us and for the world but if you think keeping your rudhita ship away, is bondita supposed to be a wife of anyone.

She is 12, she should study and play not fulfill the duties of a wife like kaka wants.

We might say why ani was silent till now.

He showed signs of disagreement though and opposed too. But till now bon wasn't involved in all this herself and she never stood before him.

But now the limit is crossed, everyone wants ani and bon to be husband and wife, in physical way too.

How disgusting is that! If ani doesn't fight back now, then bon will be lost in all those norms and rituals from where he saved her.

Bon will be hurt but this is for her betterment, when she will grow up and look back, she will thank ani for saving her again from being the victim of backdated norms.

We also got shouted and even sometimes punished by our parents for our mistakes.

We understand them and their intentions later on.

I know ani was hursh but he behaves like bon ki guardian if not parent.

He treats her like a child and he should.

Bon is a baby and she is getting distracted, it's Anirudh's duty only to guide her.

I think we should praise anirudh and makers for such a move.

Ps- azadi express is a different issue, a different topic. Ani didn't mix her issue with his fikar for Bondita.

Well said Munnu! I was going to post on this topic only but you beat me! Every point is correct here.

Another issue people are complaining about is that why was Ani calling her Apne Pati Babu ki Bondita and doing all this Pati-patni jaap during the Education, Munshi and Periods track. Because tab no-one expected Rudhita to have a physical relationship. Their relationship was growing in all ways, but at its own pace. SR track me society encroached again and Ani, very rightly was freaked out by the thought of loving and making love to a child. One cannot fathom how much that situation would have freaked him out, and Kaka took away his power of choice as well! What if he would have done something wrong? Hum usi ko daante na?

Yes uska tareeka ekdum sahi nai hai but we cannot discount Ani's age either. He is a man, barely out of his teens, trying to parent a teenager. Aise situation me woh har baar nahi succeed hoga. And even Ani realizes that.

Yes, he failed to handle it correctly, but I cannot be angry with him or blame him, because he was pushed into the deep end well without being taught swimming. He will falter, then learn, and grow.

yes bon would thank him for considring her only responsibility and let her live her life

but she would never fall in love becasue she would rise from it like a pheonix and never let other gilrs to be fed by all these things, now i want my savaga and daring bon back not a nibbi though i loved the feroicious teenager she was

also he is behaving like a guardian and her mentor

ani is such a gentleman if bon would have been curshing on someone else, it would be different thing to see and ani would have handled her itwould have been fun to watch

Exactly munnu!!! I agree with you...

Yes we love rudhita as a couple but is it right to think about it at least now... Bon can never become a barrister if she gets tangled with the societal norms and fulfilling her duties as a wife..

She is 12 year old child and she should not be expected to do these things.. Maybe by revealing the truth ani will be able to make her believe that they are not a normal couple and she doesn't need to fulfill the duties of a wife...

In future, when bon becomes a barrister and understands what a husband wife relations mean... She would be very happy to have experienced the pain of getting to know the truth of her marriage than to have a permanent scar on her mind and body by fulfilling the expectations of the society for the whole life.

Munia🤗

Sorry yaar I'm too lazy to write🤣

But posting my opinion here😳

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/post/156084375

Munn baby🤗

First of all jo bhi likha uske liye, dil, jigar, kidney, fefde le le yar😆❤️

As yesterday i confessed you are❤️ and I admire you a lot...aise hi nahi kaha tha..coz I meant that❤️

I just love the way you understands the thing deeply and then put into the words...ughhh I don't know how to explain...i'm very bad at that😆

Anyways...

Well said munn..and I totally agree with whatever you have penned down👍🏼

As we all were angry on the way he disclose the their marriage truth, especially in front of all guests...but after watching yesterday's epi, we proved wrong...and i'm happy with proving wrong...and will not give any justification because promos are always misleads the things

And as the story is based on the 1920, jahan pe child marriage and taking their marriage in next level in childhood itself ...was considered normal...but for Ani, he wants to bring changes in society...and this is it was started👍🏼 to save bon he had to marry her...like they said 'ek pratha se bachane ke liye dusri pratha ka sahara liya'

About bon i'm totally agree with you ke the way she is behaving like typical teens, usne woh changes khud mehsoos nahi kiye...these changes are because of the society only...they influencing her and woh ho rahi hai...otherwise use kaise pata hoga? Pehle toh kabhi usne prem pe dohe ya kitab nahi padhi...

Back then people are like this only...bas sun liya or khud bhi wahi krna hai, ya society use unn sab cheejo mein dhakel deti hai.

And about Ani...he is not wrong here...he married her because he had no other option. Although he was ready to take her responsibility...but for the society

As much as i hate the word Zimmedari, I wanna use this word now badly..

Ani had took her responsibility, to save her, to make her independent, to give her the wings which every girl deserves and so on...

He is 22 years and Bon is 12... He don't want Bon to get involves in all this marriage things or fall in love with him, having crush on him...because first, it's not right time to fall in love coz bahut sari cheejo par asar pdhega uska, and second, he second, as he said yesterday he don't want bon to become wife of ARC...uska lakshya kuch or hai...which very appreciative👍🏼

As a guardian, it's his responsibility to make her understand, to give her advice, to teach her, to give her the wings, to shout on her when she do any mistake and when she misunderstand the things and lastly when she fall into this kind of social crap... He is right at his place

Both of them is not wrong here, if anyone at fault then it's the situation they are stuck...Bon, she is getting influence and Ani, he has his own set of principals👍🏼

I know Ani was getting trigger, isiliye woh outburst nikla, but still mujhe bura laga, sabke ke samne he disclose the marriage truth😭

And about Ninja, I'm not gonna talk, because uska Ani ki zimmedari se koi lena dena hai, for me she is not in the picture😆

Chlo now enough of my bak bak...first time review pe itna lamba comment chhapa hai😆

Bye bye...keep writing reveiws👍🏼

No one wanted Rudhita to behave like couple or have any romantic relationship until she grows up... but it has nothing to do with calling your marriage fake or swang. There are many real life examples from that era husbands who struggled a lot to get their wives educated.. I believed bb is one of them. It was basically theme of show but now its turned totally into proving how child marriage is wrong. I totally accept it was wrong but that's not point of debate of this show altogether. I thought so. But I was wrong. I'm still unable to understand how Denying marriage and calling it fake will make Ani right. For me it's still insulting and humiliating for a kid who from day one believed in marriage 😵

And I repeat If Ani never wanted her to believe she's his wife then he shouldn't have done all pati patni jaap.. he could avoid that. Its nothing to do with sr or anything.

No offence to anyone. Let me clear, I'm not saying or never felt Ani should have husband wife relation with her. Never. But again nothing can justify calling marriage fake and breaking heart of kid like this.

Now i'm realizing kuch jyada hi lamba likh diya🤣 200 300 words or dalti toh os ban janti🤣

oS likhne mein toh main ek week lga deti hoon..lmao🤣

Originally posted by: dsm123

No one wanted Rudhita to behave like couple or have any romantic relationship until she grows up... but it has nothing to do with calling your marriage fake or swang. There are many real life examples from that era husbands who struggled a lot to get their wives educated.. I believed bb is one of them. It was basically theme of show but now its turned totally into proving how child marriage is wrong. I totally accept it was wrong but that's not point of debate of this show altogether. I thought so. But I was wrong. I'm still unable to understand how Denying marriage and calling it fake will make Ani right. For me it's still insulting and humiliating for a kid who from day one believed in marriage 😵

And I repeat If Ani never wanted her to believe she's his wife then he shouldn't have done all pati patni jaap.. he could avoid that. Its nothing to do with sr or anything.

No offence to anyone. Let me clear, I'm not saying or never felt Ani should have husband wife relation with her. Never. But again nothing can justify calling marriage fake and breaking heart of kid like this.

There are a lot of examples in the real world where husbands wanted to get their wives educated. But the main difference between the 2 examples is that in real life, they were not forced into marriage as a last resort to marry a child to save her life. Anirudh’s main conflict when he came to India was the fact that girl children were forced into marriage and from the beginning is was against it. He even explained it to Bondita early on, with flowers and buds I think. But when Bondita asked him what my they got married then and again today he couldn’t do it. He even says today “how happy Bondita is regarding all of this.” But regardless of how she feels, he is feeling sick because he realizes what the “love” society is talking about is, while Bondita is naive and innocent to all of that. We also have to keep in mind, Anirudh is barely 22 at this point. I am 21, and in my final year of engineering I cannot imagine getting married let alone parenting a child so fresh out of college. Yeah both eras are different, totally agree, but your mindset will not change. Anirudh thinks like a hotheaded impulsive student, because that is what he is. He only now is realizing that the world is not as idealistic as him. Do I think Ani loves Bondita, yes he does and cares immensely for her that’s why before now he was so ok with her fawning over him, calling him Paatibabu, and even calling her is confidant. But before now, society was not actively putting them together. In a lot of cases, that society did see her as a child, yes a married women but they treated her as a child. But now the same society that allowed her to go to school freely and play with others, is telling her that her menstruating means she can’t come out of the house and that she is a women now. Kaka and other women are telling she needs to please and love Ani the way a wife would, forgetting that she is still a child. I think Ani exploding will be a fan of the people at the celebration telling him to call her his wife in all regards not just in the fact that they are married. If you see for the times Bondita overtly asked Ani rights of a wife, he had tried to tell her that it is not correct and to not do that, he even does it a couple of times today. But because of her age she is continually doing until Ani reaches his breaking point. The fact of the matter is that Anirudh cannot physically see her as his wife in that regard, he has accepted her as a partner and an immovable person in his life. But he cannot do what society wants him to as that’s completely against his principles, and unfortunately he is going to have to be a little harsh about it.

Completely agree to ur point ARC didnt do anything vth intension of husband and wife he did all fr welfare pf Bon and her future agreeable..... but if ARC is tat much against ths society and rituals of child marr.... then he too choosed only tat path to save Bon.... y he can bring her home as beghan na, bt tats not possible fr ARC against ths society means then bring her in name of wife and considering her only as responsibility is too not possible one and all speaks up today Bon has developed feelings fr ARC... i dont accept ths from day 1 she considered him as husband is true fact bt till ydy all r crt fr ARC and tdy suddenly it seems wrong fr him na then here only ARC should think from day 1 wat he generated in Bon's mind .... He himself told to Sumati during bed wetting she s my wife and i have full rights to decide over her where one time be Bon's wish is not asked for eventhough he did for well being of BON.... he did in way of obsession so tats not acceptable one.... and more over age dfrence is point ths is not big age dfrnce in those times.... Bon and ARC stry not happening in 2021.... so as per stry POV.... ARC never thnk once bfre he acts wat is state of Bon, if society forces, he burst out at her in name of truth is completely unacceptable.... if we consider whole series till date ARC told Bon to not call him pati babu address him barrister babu only twice or thrice bt lot of times she called him pati babu if ARC is sure she s only his responsibility then every time he should told her not to address pati babu and even he should thnk whether she calls fr name sake or its frm her heart..... and whenevet comes to rituals watever may be his Kaka's demand or he himself like diwali pooja or her grihaprivesh accepted whole heartedly.... if he dont wanna name this relationship as pati patni then he should stop that too na becoz all ths also creates impact in Bon na.... and more over only ARC have issue vth Bon's love part then his handling of tat too totally wrong becoz today she asks why i cant be ur love imtrest is becoz only he named his resposibility as marr so only now he cant answer Bon instad shouting at her so ths all ARC's wrong move in Bon's life as responsibility .... wen his Kaka Bon to cook in kitchen he is bsy vth Mini... that time he didnt stop Bonditha dont cook ths s not ur wrk ..... But Bon considered all in home as her own and fulfilled so wats her mistake in ths.... Only she doesnot know truth bt ARC knows truth na ..... Even i dont wanna blame ARC he tried his max for Bon's secured future bt even once he didnt ask her or think over it wat he generated in her mind from day 1 only she too think him as mentor ths he never analysed so if he have ths drawback thn shoting at Bon and conveying her truth ths way is completely unacceptable one .....

Thank you for posting this Munnu 🤗

Do I need to say it again that I agree with every point ?😳

What I feel is, that they mixed up Manorama track with this and that is where they went wrong.

Because for most people it is difficult to see Ani talking and appreciating another girl, while being harsh on Bondita and calling their marriage fake.

Until I saw the episode yesterday, even I had an impression that Ani is shouting at Bon and demeaning their marriage because of Manorama (Because I had no idea that Ani was aware of Bon being in teenage-love with him)

Now that I know why he did that, I feel he is not COMPLETELY wrong. It is not about whether he is accepting her as a 'wife' or not. He had accepted her as a wife long time back, but she was very young and even the society hardly had any expectations from them to behave like a couple.

But ever since she hit puberty, people have started expecting them to be physically/emotionally attracted to each other as 'Lovers'. Anirudh being a grown up guy will NEVER harbor such feeling for Bondita at this age. But Bon is a teenager and she will be influenced by the society which is what they are showing.

I am not saying that it is wrong for Bon to develop a crush on Ani, but it is definitely wrong if these feelings affect her studies. Ani is angry at her because she is compromising her studies due to Ani+Bon jaap 🤪 And it is very normal at this age we all have been through it. But guess what, we had our parents to check on us. On the other hand, Bon has no one to tell her that this is not the right age. Instead, the entire society is encouraging her towards it. In such a scenario, Anirudh had to take up the parental role and there is nothing wrong in that.

Yes this show is based on 1920s and it was supposed to be 'normal' for a teenage girl to fall in couple vaala love with her husband, but does that mean it was RIGHT? Isn't Ani trying to fight against these customs? He said such an amazing thing that Bon should be thinking of becoming a barrister and NOT his wife! 👏

The only thing is that Ani should have explained it to her in a better way trying not to hurt her sentiments because she is at a very tender age. But he himself is just 22 so I do not entirely blame him for this too.

Abhi ke liye itna hi baaki ka baad me 🤪