I want Anupama and Vanraj to reconcile 🙈 - Page 2

Thank you for the post but I beg to disagree, respectfully.

Since it is children that are the basic premise of this discussion, I'll try to take the things from their perspective only:

1) Paritosh aka Toshu : The eternal cry baby, never growing man-child, married yet the one who hasn't yet learnt to take his responsibilities. Wants his mom to take every abuse hurled by his father and even his mistress like a door mat. Has no qualms forgiving his father for siding with Kavya leaving his elder son's wedding at lurch but will find an eternal punching bag in Anupama for everything and anything wrong that happens in Sah house.. Has never questioned his father, nor raised an eyebrow over his deeds, ever but continues to idolize him.. Anupama should not forgive Vanraj for Toshu because that will pave a way for her thankless elder son to emulate his father even more and also augment the chance of him becoming a bad father and bad husband just like his father. Toshu needs to learn a valued lesson about fidelity, loyalty and necessity to stick as a family unit for his own good.

2) Samar : He feels his mother's pain and knows about his father's misdeeds. I do not see any problem from Samar's side if and when divorce happens. In fact he sure will be Anupama's rock and the most reliable support unit to even post divorce. So no issues there.

3) Pakhi aka Sweety: What do I say about this spoilt brat? She had no problem abandoning her mother and following her father to his mistress' house. Now she doesn't want the divorce to happen because she no longer enjoys all the pampering and indulgence? She feels she will be left out if the divorce happens?? What even? It is said that a daughter might be her dad's princess but she is her mother's biggest friend. But here she is only her papa's daughter to the extent that not a long back she had no problem glorifying her bestie and bringing down her mother just because papa live with the other woman. I agree she is the most vulnerable among the three kids. So at the most Anupama can stall the divorce till this brat gets some psychological counseling. I do not even want her to get conditioned to be either like Anupama the doormat or Kavya the home-wrecker. She needs to break free and be her own person by breaking out of either of these molds. Hence, divorce is necessary even for her sake.

Originally posted by: bashful_moon

Thank you for the post but I beg to disagree, respectfully.

Since it is children that are the basic premise of this discussion, I'll try to take the things from their perspective only:

1) Paritosh aka Toshu : The eternal cry baby, never growing man-child, married yet the one who hasn't yet learnt to take his responsibilities. Wants his mom to take every abuse hurled by his father and even his mistress like a door mat. Has no qualms forgiving his father for siding with Kavya leaving his elder son's wedding at lurch but will find an eternal punching bag in Anupama for everything and anything wrong that happens in Sah house.. Has never questioned his father, nor raised an eyebrow over his deeds, ever but continues to idolize him.. Anupama should not forgive Vanraj for Toshu because that will pave a way for her thankless elder to emulate his father even more and also augment the chance of becoming a bad father and bad husband just like his father. Toshu needs to learn a valued lesson about fidelity, loyalty and necessity to stick as a family unit for his own good.

2) Samar : He feels his mother's pain and knows about his father's misdeeds. I do not see any problem from Samar's side if and when divorce happens. In fact he sure will be Anupama's rock and the most reliable support unit to even post divorce. So no issues there.

3) Pakhi aka Sweety: What do I say about this spoilt brat? She had no problem abandoning her mother and following her father to his mistress' house. Now she doesn't want the divorce to happen because she no longer enjoys all the pampering and indulgence? She feels she will be left out if the divorce happens?? What even? It is said that a daughter might be her dad's princess but she is her mother's biggest friend. But here she is only her papa's daughter to the extent that not a long back she had no problem glorifying her bestie and bringing down her mother just because papa live with the other woman. I agree she is the most vulnerable among the three kids. So at the most Anupama can stall the divorce till this brat gets some psychological counseling. I do not even want her to get conditioned to be either like Anupama the doormat or Kavya the home-wrecker. She needs to break free and be her own person by breaking out of either of these molds. Hence, divorce is necessary even for her sake.

Wonderfully summarised. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Disappointed but not really surprised that people are saying this even now 😕...

We can’t even blame CVs or makers for this as they’ve gone well out of their way to show that Vanraj may be a good son to his parents and a good father to his children... but he he was undeniably a bad husband to Anu throughout their marriage... I appreciate CVs for maintaining that he is a complex character but ultimately still a negative one.

After what all Vanraj has said and done to her, it would show a complete lack of self respect on Anu’s part of she got back together with him...

Baa-Bapuji and the kids are an important part of Anu’s life, hence for their happiness she doesn’t protest when Baa (insensitively enough 😡) keeps inviting him to the house every time there’s a birthday or small festival... Tolerating his presence so often for their sake is enough, she doesn’t have to stay married to him and live with him too...

And I just want to add that Anu and Vanraj’s kids are all 16+ with their eldest son even being in his mid 20s and married himself, so surely they are old enough to understand what is going on and digest it? I wouldn’t advocate staying together in a toxic marriage like this “for the kids” even when the kids in question are small, but in this case it would just be plain ridiculous.

Also no offence but I find it highly selfish (and absolutely abnormal 😶) that any child would want their mother to remain in a marriage where she has been cheated on and disrespected like this...

With Baa and Bapuji as well only Baa wants Anu to forgive Vanraj and stay with him, Bapuji is fully behind Anu’s decision to divorce Vanraj...

I think Baa, Toshu and Pankhi are all just being terribly selfish in their own ways by trying to pressure Anu to stay with Vanraj, and the makers seem to share the same view, hence they are conveying it so clearly...

But our society and mindsets are such that there’s still people on this forum siding with Baa, Toshu, Pankhi and wishing for reconciliation 🙃

Originally posted by: Nutella03

Nope, if at all, their divorce is the best case scenario, even for the kids. Children are a huge part of parents’ lives, and parents sacrifice a lot for them, but just because a couple has children, they should live together unhappily for the rest of their lives? That’s not fair.

People like Vanraj don’t change with the flick of a switch. Vanraj seems semi-endearing to you right now, because he has understood Anupama’s ‘value’, but why has that happened? Because he has been deprived of the comfort he was getting when she was at his constant beck and call, which was problematic to begin with. I still don’t believe he loves her. Let’s assume they get back together. Vanraj would want the comfort back in his life, he would want to hold the same kind of power over Anupama like he did before. But Anupama is a changed woman. She’s not going to take his sh*t like before. She would want to be his equal, while he would want her to be his meek subordinate again. When this won’t happen. they will fight, and it will get ugly. Believe me, it is nothing like the “nok jhok” you’re referring to. So if they fight all the time, that will torture the very kids they got back together for.
And all of this also rests on the assumption that Anupama is willing to forgive Vanraj for the years of emotional and verbal abuse, and of course his infidelity. I personally don’t think one can ever forgive such abusive behaviour,

Quoting one of anupamaa’s lines

“Toote huye ghar mein to phir bhi raha jaa sakta hai, par jalte huye ghar mein kisi ko bhi nahi rehna chahiye”

Straight and simple, love it hahahhaha! I cringe so bad when people use their ship name, or the channel tries to promote them as a ‘couple’. Like, hello, are we even watching the same show?

Couldn’t have put it better myself 👏🏽🙌🏽

Originally posted by: Anjalika01

Disappointed but not really surprised that people are saying this even now 😕...

We can’t even blame CVs or makers for this as they’ve gone well out of their way to show that Vanraj may be a good son to his parents and a good father to his children... but he he was undeniably a bad husband to Anu throughout their marriage... I appreciate CVs for maintaining that he is a complex character but ultimately still a negative one.

After what all Vanraj has said and done to her, it would show a complete lack of self respect on Anu’s part of she got back together with him...

Baa-Bapuji and the kids are an important part of Anu’s life, hence for their happiness she doesn’t protest when Baa (insensitively enough 😡) keeps inviting him to the house every time there’s a birthday or small festival... Tolerating his presence so often for their sake is enough, she doesn’t have to stay married to him and live with him too...

And I just want to add that Anu and Vanraj’s kids are all 16+ with their eldest son even being in his mid 20s and married himself, so surely they are old enough to understand what is going on and digest it? I wouldn’t advocate staying together in a toxic marriage like this “for the kids” even when the kids in question are small, but in this case it would just be plain ridiculous.

Also no offence but I find it highly selfish (and absolutely abnormal 😶) that any child would want their mother to remain in a marriage where she has been cheated on and disrespected like this...

With Baa and Bapuji as well only Baa wants Anu to forgive Vanraj and stay with him, Bapuji is fully behind Anu’s decision to divorce Vanraj...

I think Baa, Toshu and Pankhi are all just being terribly selfish in their own ways by trying to pressure Anu to stay with Vanraj, and the makers seem to share the same view, hence they are conveying it so clearly...

But our society and mindsets are such that there’s still people on this forum siding with Baa, Toshu, Pankhi and wishing for reconciliation 🙃

I never “sided” with baa or toshu or paakhi, and I did clearly mention that I’m ambiguous about the divorce situation. No offence but your language is kinda condescending .

Try to understand someone’s perspective before just blatantly going off about an issue. And a FORUM means anyone and everyone should be welcome to share their opinions I guess??

and I did mention that after reading other comments I have lost my ambiguity and firmly think that the divorce is fine.

I tried to contain myself a lot but amongst all replies I just didn’t like the tone of this one, very taunting 🙄🙄🙄🙄😒😒😒😒

Originally posted by: Forbidden_Rose

I never “sided” with baa or toshu or paakhi, and I did clearly mention that I’m ambiguous about the divorce situation. No offence but your language is kinda condescending .

Try to understand someone’s perspective before just blatantly going off about an issue. And a FORUM means anyone and everyone should be welcome to share their opinions I guess??

and I did mention that after reading other comments I have lost my ambiguity and firmly think that the divorce is fine.

I tried to contain myself a lot but amongst all replies I just didn’t like the tone of this one, very taunting 🙄🙄🙄🙄😒😒😒😒

I never said you "sided" with Baa/Toshu/Pankhi? I was just stating the fact that these are the only characters in the show who want reconciliation at this point... In fact come to think of it even Toshu is being shown to have kind of reluctantly accepted the situation now, so it's literally just Baa and Pankhi who are actively opposing the divorce and trying to convince Anu to stay with Vanraj...

And you explained your take on the whole situation pretty clearly in your original post, so I don't think I've made any mistake in understanding it: you wanted Anu to forgive Vanraj and reconcile with him for Baa-Bapuji and the kids. I was simply saying that I didn't agree with that, and the makers of the show don't seem to either.

I don't see how anything I said was condescending or taunting either, as I was just challenging the reasoning behind the idea that Anupama and Vanraj should get back together, not targetting you specifically... there are a few others in this thread who are saying they want reconciliation too, so idk how you're taking anything I said as something exclusively aimed at you 😕.

I hadn't yet seen the post where you were saying that you had changed your perspective after seeing the replies, so I was just going by the original post.

why is Anirudh still running after Kavia ?

Originally posted by: Anjalika01

Disappointed but not really surprised that people are saying this even now 😕...

We can’t even blame CVs or makers for this as they’ve gone well out of their way to show that Vanraj may be a good son to his parents and a good father to his children... but he he was undeniably a bad husband to Anu throughout their marriage... I appreciate CVs for maintaining that he is a complex character but ultimately still a negative one.

After what all Vanraj has said and done to her, it would show a complete lack of self respect on Anu’s part of she got back together with him...

Baa-Bapuji and the kids are an important part of Anu’s life, hence for their happiness she doesn’t protest when Baa (insensitively enough 😡) keeps inviting him to the house every time there’s a birthday or small festival... Tolerating his presence so often for their sake is enough, she doesn’t have to stay married to him and live with him too...

And I just want to add that Anu and Vanraj’s kids are all 16+ with their eldest son even being in his mid 20s and married himself, so surely they are old enough to understand what is going on and digest it? I wouldn’t advocate staying together in a toxic marriage like this “for the kids” even when the kids in question are small, but in this case it would just be plain ridiculous.

Also no offence but I find it highly selfish (and absolutely abnormal 😶) that any child would want their mother to remain in a marriage where she has been cheated on and disrespected like this...

With Baa and Bapuji as well only Baa wants Anu to forgive Vanraj and stay with him, Bapuji is fully behind Anu’s decision to divorce Vanraj...

I think Baa, Toshu and Pankhi are all just being terribly selfish in their own ways by trying to pressure Anu to stay with Vanraj, and the makers seem to share the same view, hence they are conveying it so clearly...

But our society and mindsets are such that there’s still people on this forum siding with Baa, Toshu, Pankhi and wishing for reconciliation 🙃

in your past para you clearly said there are people in the forum “siding” with baa toshu pakhi. I have highlighted your quote in bold font

since this was in response to my original comment of course I would feel that it’s directed towards me.

Originally posted by: kooki07

why is Anirudh still running after Kavia ?

Aniruddh?

I think you meant Vanraj Shah 🙃

We are discussing the Hindi version not Aai Kuthe Kaay Karte
😃😃😃

no i am asking about kavia s ex