Good morning lovelies! 🌄🌻🌺
I am sure today the hangry people here will also have eaten the appetizers, and awaiting the main course tomorrow 😂 so, do I need to say anything more?
Obviously, it was a calm episode -- setting the mood for a weekend episode of navra Baiko, hopefully. But, honestly, i am amazed at how easily the whole 'wo akeli kaise rahegi' has slipped by. All it took was Ashwini's, "Usne Virat ke liye lagaya... Jab Maine usse Kaha hi suhaag ko apshagun ho Sakta hai, wo pareshaan ho gayi .." for ACP Chavan to throw one dirty look at the family and walk away.
But what about the words you spoke, Chavan Saheb? They definitely cannot be taken back nor can one ignore the fact that you've set base for many more such reactions to follow.
Honestly, am not sure if the Precap is the exact scene but Sai is definitely not going to give him any pleasing answer to the question. And, he definitely is not in the mood to hear anything from her that reinforces the 'distance' between them.
"Aap mere itne nazdeek Kyun Hain?" was her question when she saw him trying to wake her up. The banter that followed had humour but it was acerbic for a man who's turning insecure at the drop of a hat. He did not get offended today because he was feeling the joy that she wore the Alta for him and the spell of her 'beauty' had not worn off completely either. He admired her beauty as she slept, oblivious to the fact that he was peering over her... But the inherent insecurity revealed itself when he couldn't help but think of the "competition". If the evening hadn't been 'rosy red' with her Alta feet, he would have probably been dropping her off at a hostel after another screaming match. The entire monologue about whether she did wear it only for him or to keep his Aai happy -- and then concluding that she wouldn't have remained silent if she hadn't was a feeling that overrode his inherent insecurity for the moment. If it weren't, he would have become a laal gubbara again for sure.
So, although the show tried to promote the superstition about suhaag Ka apshagun about Alta, I guess the actual reason for wearing it is nothing more than the 'entice with beauty'. Looked like it worked because Chavan Saheb couldn't help notice her feet even as she walked away -- he even used some of his forensic science expertise and spotted rashes on her feet, instantly turning into the paramedic/pharmacist and even recalling Aai ka nuskha for skin outbreak. 😅😂
The scene would have been better had Virat also had some value addition to his monologue about his own feeling for her-- it was all about being plain smitten and the awareness of Aniket being around... To me, his attraction would continue to lack depth unless he backs it with some real emotion he feels for her apart from his farz, zimmedari and the obvious sense of entitlement as a husband. That is not love. Of course, we know he cares deeply for her but getting aid for her rashes is something he would have done even for his 'best friend'. He's attempting to have Sai speak words or assurances to soothe his own fears without expressing his expectations and desires to her... But the scene was also very telling of how hard Sai is trying to display her detachment from him, just so that he doesn't notice she's vulnerable too. Because moments ago, while performing the rituals, she wouldn't have been turning to see him time and again. So, also, it was symbolic how the two performed a ritual in front of the family which included the maang bharna -- I wish they had played the anjaan rishta song for Sai and family 🤣 but the background score was a very muted version of the shubh mangal savdhaan of their marriage sequence.
In their private space, she goes back to 'ye Mera Ghar Nahi hai aur na hi Mera parivaar...' it isn't a taunt. It is how she's made to feel and she will continue feeling that way until he shows her through words and actions the "commitment" or "permanence" he seeks from the deal marriage. Her "naukron wale kaam" and "Kisi ke Ghar me rehna hai toh kaam toh Karna padega" was so apt. I am glad she mentioned this for I often think of it that way--- Virat thinks she's doing the household chores as a bahu but no, she's doing it out of her duty as a resident of the mansion. She can't consider herself a bahu until she is given the rights of a wife. So for him to aim to have a her be an 'acchi bahu' he first needs to make her a 'happy wife' not just a chirpy zimmedari. And of course, if she has to earn her breakfast by contributing to the kitchen duties every day, she would feel like a 'naukar'.
It is significant how much Sai has conveyed to Virat about her feelings and emotions over the last couple of conversations. But it's actually unfortunate that he's not been able to pick up the cues from it. When she told him about how she has changed, the college taunts, he was listening but from the filters of his jealousy and could not empathise with her... And today, he was listening from behind the sheen of the charm her beauty had cast on him -- and as usual, he ignored her comments about her feeling in context of the house.
Does he realise that his oscillation from one team to another -- which is perceived as his disappointment with his marriage by the opponents -- adds to the audacity of his family to ill treat his wife and mother. Ashwini should have told him that it's not just the chakrams viewing Sai with a big glass of hate but also closely watching how the man treats his woman. They know Virat can be manipulated and they use their skills at the right opportunity. Ashwini gave him a sound piece of advice -- speak to her with love and spashthta and she will do what you want. If you use the raub jhadna route, you'll only find resistance... It was one of the wisest things she said, which Virat needs to implement immediately but did he hear? He just seemed lost in the charm...
That brings me back to the issue of 'intimacy' -- conjugal rights. In real life, maximum number of court cases in marital discord are of restitution of conjugal rights, filed by one party to ask the court to order the guilty one to return to the marriage and attempt to save it. It doesn't mean the 'intercourse' but the 'outercourse' in a relationship. It comprises the entire commitment to a marriage -- interdependence, sharing and feeling the cosy warmth with one another. Why did just the mention that she's wearing the Alta for him bring him back to the team? Honestly, if that's the only reason why he calmed down, it's shallow. Because, the reason should have been complete conviction about Sai's honesty and goodness. But he needed 'saboot'. It was his assurance of being important -- the suhaag (well, Chavan Saheb🙄 ). In that one moment, he felt intimate with her -- closest, as he wants to be.. but what is love without trust?
Doesn't Sai want to feel the same way? Of course she does. It is very evident in those tender looks she's been giving him, in her prayer and her act of wearing the Alta in the first place -- oh, and she did not object to bring addressed as 'Sau. Sai Virat Chavan" by Ashwini during the interaction.. But she obviously doesn't want a heart break and the awareness of the crowd in the marriage is too strong to be ignored. The onus on building the intimacy rests a lot on Virat and ironically, he's the one who's seeking it on a platter, literally. Would Sai readily accept her leaning towards him, even if he were to ask in spashth words? I don't think she would jumpstart but it will at least clear her perspective about the intimacy they share.
Intimacy is confused with s-e-x. But it is a fact that you can do the physical act without any intimacy whatsoever and you can be intimate without any actual physical act too. Men crave pure intimacy as much as women although it is often projected as a women's need to have pure intimacy. Just the knowledge that he's on her mind and she appreciates his presence around her would be assuring enough for Virat to feel 'intimate'
He increasingly wants her to notice and use reaffirmation of affection in their day-to-day talks. But Sai is resisting the temptation because they first need to work on their emotional intimacy -- where they can be honest about what they feel for each other. It cannot happen overnight but it can definitely be started with one or two spashth sentences from the man -- let's see how he fares tomorrow 😅 and if his ego remains enchanted enough to ride through the waves Sai will try to crash at him.
Oh, special mention to Ashwini for asking Godu to take the plate of dinner for Sai... But why is she still hungry? 🤔🤔
And since there was a pitstop at the terrace before serving dinner to the Baiko, I would like to hear the response to 'Tum pyaar karte ho?' before delving into the entire encounter between bade Bhai ki wife and Sai ke Pati. Thankfully, Mrs Salunkhe is asking the right questions -- what am I even doing here? We all want to know what is your Five-year programme... Because the way things are going, one can't help wonder what you are really doing there. 😂 I am sure she knows Bhavani has no love for her and there is really no one who loves her -- both her husband and his mother are missing. I hope she finds her answers and picks up pieces of her life to move on with grace. But isn't that too much to ask for of Mallika-e-Maturity?
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It is always the "realisation" about something that really sets the ball rolling. Even between the closest people, distances exist. But they can beautifully live side by side if they can succeed in bridging that distance in silence and not with flashlights-- that's how love seeps in too, in body mind and soul.
Must you cross a bridge today? Grab your coffees ☕☕☕☕ and your teas 🍵🍵🍵🍵, arm your self with hugs 🤗🤗 and cross over like your heart has just set you free 💖💖💖
Have a great day!
Lots of love ❤️
J
