Originally posted by: jankiraghav
Suprabhat Bhagininno! 🌄🌻
How are you doing!? It feels like a Monday today 😐
The episode can only be defined as 'much ado about nothing!' A complete match of egos -- from the Makad Sena and also Sai. It had action in some moments.
(*Setting aside the nauseas debate about shagun apshagun due to denying suhagan Ka Shringaar because it is a very personal choice. I don't want to offend someone who might believe or like doing it just because I find it regressive. Yes, the thought being pushed through the shows is really archaic but I am taking it as being done for the mass audience that actually believes so. Sai already asked the right questions and it would be stating the obvious to say why men are believed to get all the benefits.).
The soft moment of the day was Sai-Ashwini conversation:
Ashwini is genuinely a loving mother. She may have been imperfect in her ways of raising Virat to deal with the toxicity but I guess, given the constraints and the kind of abusive family around, she's given her best shot. Now, a mother who genuinely loves her son cannot not love his wife, especially, if she's a dew-drop at heart 💖
I loved the frankness with which Sai can speak to Ashwini -- "Kisi aur ne Virat sir ke naam Ka Alta laga liya hai... Virat sir bhi Pakhi se pyaar karte Hain!"
Among all the names that he's given her, Virat should call her Spashtha ki Shehzaadi! She's direct. Her thoughts are not served as jalebis. And so, it's easy for anyone to understand why she does what she does. Ashwini now has the knowledge of the actual reason for the entire mess between her son and his wife. She tried her best to make Sai see things from the correct perspective. And it will help Sai in toning down her 'best friend' nags -- to be used only when provoked and not intentionally. But I wish Ashwini gets another chance to feed dinner to her Godu soon and make him aware about this Type 2 Diabetes his jalebis have caused his marriage -- because I don't think Ashwini will go up to Virat and have a clear conversation to resolve this issue. The art of making jalebis has been inherited.
>>> Godu has never ever confessed in front of his mother who the girl was. The mother understood her sons pain and now she is the one understanding his feelings. The problem is Godu spoke direct bhasha mein to the Spashta queen and thats going to be a hinderance all the way.
I loved the scene - the exchange between them is so pure and so organic. I loved how Ashwini also got angry for a moment when Sai refused to accept Ashwini's reason. The irritation that Ashwini feels for Sai despite knowing her and loving her with her true heart makes it all the more real.
Her "Koi Kisi ke liye Kyun dard sahega agar wo usse pyaar hi na karta ho"... the golden words of the day. Chalo Ashwini made an attempt to change the programme definition of pyaar in Sai's mind.
The statement is so true both ways and so symbolically said at a moment when Sai is wearing the Alta despite knowing she might be in pain just because she doesn't want Aai to go through any pain should something happen to her son 😂😅 Haan Haan Sai, as you said, "Closing eyes doesn't change the truth we don't want to see..."
It's true for both Virat and Sai. While he's been the rock for her, fighting for her and backing her at every bend -- keeping aside his three moments of outbursts due to chaos within-- she, too, has been suffering all the mental, verbal and even physical pain just to be able to live with him whether she likes it or not. Why are the two of them going through their own set of 'dard' (migraine, in simple words) for each other? Arrey, because at the end of the day, it gives them the chance to get into those head massages 🤣🤣.
>>> They do things for each other but at times dont realize it. He has already gone in the husband mode, she wasn't there yet. Like in an arrange marriage love comes much later, but the relation develops you get use to each other, thats the phase he is in (thats just my take).
Jokes apart, it's true that among the most stressful jobs is of a police officer. The strain and mental pressures that policemen go through apart from being subjected to constant negativity at work is not child's play. To have a home that is a battlefield right from the entry point at the end of a hard day at work is the last thing anyone needs -- and especially overworked policemen in thankless jobs. The fact that the family doesn't recognise the need to give him the environment to calm his already worked up nerves at home speaks volumes of the love they have for him. I know we made a joke of Ashwini's 'Virat ko bhook lagti hai' but it's 100% true that a police officer coming home after fobbing off one million influential phone calls and resisting pressures for various things only wants a warm plate of meal, some pleasant silence and good company to break that silence. I feel for Virat, walking late into the house to find a mob waiting to test his endurance. 😔😑
And then to be asked to play the referee, is anything but an inviting suggestion. 😏
Machoor moment of the day:
Talking of suggestions, Aadarniya Didi ke suggestions toh very vocal thay. But I have a question for her: Tum ho kaun?! Kaun ho tum? Ghar ki Malkin ho? Judge ho?
Who the fishing hell is she to suggest that Virat should take Sai and leave the house? I am as confused as the writers who are trying to make his feeble attempt at reviving her character by trying to add these superficial layers of concern and goodness in one half of a sentence when she genuinely tells Bhavani to not force Sai and does not pay heed to the call of joining in the act and then a second later, she's speaking of Virat leaving the house with Sai.
And of course Mrs Salunkhe Jr. ne suggest Kiya hai toh Dil Ke acche Ghar ke bade will have to concur, inki ragon mein toh Didi ke haath ki chai behti hai 😅 itne bhi matlabi aur ehsaan faramosh nahin Hain ye log.
>>> For once i think she gave a very good suggestion, instead of these fights everyday they might as well live separate. Well there are people in joint families for real who give these suggestions. May be Virat should think about it.
So except Ashwini, none wanted to question her? And Didi must be thinking she's appearing such a practical parvah Karne wali susheel 96KSKMM brand Bahu but what a manipulative way to push the family to corner Virat and force him to take a stand. Because she's heard that he's said, "Main ye ghar chhodhh Kar jaane ki baat Soch bhi nahi Sakta" but she hasn't heard him say, "Naa jaane ko kahunga aur naa hi jaane doonga."
Oh, and I loved how Sai stood her ground and refused to leave unless Virat asks her to.
It brings me back to the dard sehna... We know what Virat does because it is tangible. But this is what Sai does -- she suffers this torment because a big part of her also wants to be with Virat. She has accepted the family as part of the package that she actually didn't even want to buy... And I find it so graceful that unlike the Susheel bahu she's never dropping threats of leaving the house because of the drama nor is she even blaming Virat for putting her into it. She never waits for him to return so that she can complain about the family... In fact, when she had told him that she wants to go to Gadchiroli during their bedroom conversation after PP left the house, Virat assumed that she wanted to leave and 'Kisi ne Kuch Kaha kya?' but she said, "Ghar chhodhh Kar jaane ki baat Nahi Kar rahi hoon"
That is how a 'wife' deals with a situation she knows wasn't created by her husband and understands that he himself is going through upheavals. You don't walk out of a marriage or on the person, when you're certain you are joined in the soul. No matter how many fights and obstacles in the way, it is about coming back to each other that matters -- coming back home. And by home, I don't mean the physical sar par chhath. Home, actually, is that person who can make you smile like no one else can!
Bas ek hi tamanna hai: in tomorrow's Century episode, it should be Mallika-e-Maturity giving her golden advice to her imaginary husband before anyone else. How I wish he accepts the offer and moved out.. someone tell Chavan Saheb it will be a perfect way to bhook mitao 🤣😂
Now, while the whole audacious act of physically grabbing her hands, manhandling (by women) her and with the douchebag father in law saying , "Rasme nibhaane ke liye humein zabardasti Karni padi toh hum wo bhi karenge" was so despicable, I also did not understand Sai's U-turn... Well, I did but I also didn't. Obviously, the loving mention of the fact that the Alta is symbolic for "husband's wellbeing" and denying it could harm pushed her to realise she could have anti allergy drugs and wear it.
>>> The physical harassment was too much, it was irritating to watch. Why show such things, aren't verbal allegations enough for them.
The way Sai's expression changed when Devi mentioned Virat in the context of the rituals. Sai had changed her mind and even thought of the solution to the 'allergy'. Now, only if the chakrams knew how to push the right buttons-- I don't agree with the reasoning of the Shringaar personally, but looks like it helped. Although Sai's questions were pertinent, most subscribers of the 'rituals' raag won't be able to give logical reasons in the current century.
But it wouldn't be entirely false if some "machoor" people in the clan point out the drama that Sai did if she was anyway planning to wear the blessed red paint! Much ado about nothing!
Devi not only ignited Sai's 'emotion' but also her detective skills. So, Miss Marple will soon stumble upon the secret -- it's not a coincidence that the dialogue of Virat sir kahenge toh ek minute me chali jaungi was said in the same scene as Devi's suhagan revelation (even Mallika-e-Maturity was taken aback). Really wish they show the back story soon -- arrey Baba, kisi ki toh love story dikhao Yaar 😆😅
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Now that Ashwini is also keying in the 'pyaar' word into Sai's computer, I am hopeful of some machoor behaviour from her end but wo ACP Ka kya chal raha hai re baba? Is he going to own the Jagtap signature background music 🎶🎶 or will he reclaim the original title track of the show 💞 ya koi Naya hi gaana bajayega on his djembe? 😅
We loved the little comedy in yesterday's episode with ACP Virat Chavan rounding up Aniket More in the Nagpur Medical College, nearly getting caught by toofan mail Baiko and even head slapping himself for being so silly. Now, obviously, Chavan Saheb was 'back in the mood' because he took two long looks at Ani-khet -- toe to head and head to toe and back -- stopping to also read the message on his tee "The More you learn the More you earn". And then if course the assurance that the competitor was not taller than him. And he concluded that he was 'no threat' and went back to his jolly mood. But doesn't it still leave the issue unresolved -- his jealousy?
Wasn't he too quick to conclude that Ani-khet is no competition because he assumed that Sai would never 'fall' for this person? Judging him by his looks alone or finding him a totally contrasting personality then Sai? Was he checking if the guy is worth Sai's infatuation or love? Isn't that exactly how he thought he 'fell in love' with Patralekha, who's actual name he didn't even know in 1.47 hours of their yoga love -- just by the looks? What makes him feel so overconfident that Sai wouldn't connect with this guy at a deeper level that go beyond the looks -- exactly the way he now finds himself feeling for Sai -- if he continues to behave in the nasty way that he does when he's upset? She has already told him that she lost herself in this guy's voice -- he heard her interrupting a visibly important meeting in the Dean's office to say bye to the guy (and almost rile Virat up again). Now, what if this guy becomes the calm she needs in the middle of the choppy waters she's swimming through in that Chakram niwas and now with Virat too, because Virat has suddenly become unpredictable and takes away that support she needs on some days by becoming the cause of her anguish. He hasn't still made it clear that they are fully husband and wife now in spashth words (even my phone has understood with so much spashthta that it's an important word to be added to suggestions while typing but not Chavan Saheb 😅)
Has he really solved the issue of his insecurity and jealousy by doing this round up? No. He's going to go back to bursting at her like a bomb-- something that he accused her of doing during the Amey episode -- until he addresses his innermost emotion rather than the superficial display of joy or jealously from time to time.
>>> Naya gana bajayega toh achcha hi hain, otherwise phir se flashback mode pe chale jayenge ACP sir. Waise bhi i don't understand his stand at times. I so want to give him benefit of doubt which i do most of the times but for now he is behaving like a teenager himself. Nope he has not solved his insecurity issue. Which makes me think is he going to ask her to come along for the trip to keep away from Aniket or will he realize it by then what is he doing??? (i doubt though)
It is certain that Virat now wants Sai as his 'wife'. What is stopping him from wooing her. It's definitely not the vaada. There has been no reference to it. Yes, we know that he thinks she doesn't like him and wants to leave the marriage but then, he is clearly not ready to let her go... So even though he might fear rejection, how would he know what she wants unless he tries to woo her? The first thing he must do to beginning to define the boundary when the space between them has 'crowd' -- a word he did not hear her speaking to Amey but he has already begun feeling in terms of her harmless acquaintance with other men.
Sai told Amey over the phone 'Do se jyada bheed Hoti hai... Main bheed Ka hissa Nahi ban na chahti... Sirf hamare baare me socho, mere aur tumhare baare mein." It's true that three is always crowd. Only if Virat had known how crowded his own parents' marriage has been and how the crowding of that marriage has affected his mother's self worth and dignity. Only if Virat had recognised how conveniently he allows the crowd to gather between Sai and him, even in the physical space-- mentally, the marriage is already crowded.
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So the show is batting on 99 -- looks like the century will come with a perfect hit😉
Let's wait for the ball 😜 Waise patchy pre-cap se Lagta hai Chavan Saheb hangry ho gaye thay but appetiser se thoda si bhook mit gayi 😅 dinner milega ya nahi? Jaan ne ke liye...
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