I saw Sushant in Kai Po Che. My parents recently watched Chichore and said it was a really good movie. I believe this is the movie about suicide and depression. This is really heartbreaking. We never really know what someone is going through. Recently, his manager also passed away by suicide so I think that maybe that affected him too.
I think during lockdown, a lot of people have experienced mental health issues - some due to loneliness and some due to uncertainty of the future. I think one of you mentioned that he was depressed because his work wasn't getting recognized. We often base our self-worth on our success...that's because we live in a world that says that if we are not successful then we are a burden. But honestly, more than being successful, it's important to be a good person...that is something that is completely in our control. As humans, we are afraid of failure. We think that if we fail at our goal, that we have lost our purpose. That's not true....there is always light at the end of the tunnel and we have to hold on as difficult time will eventually pass. But, sometimes we don't reach goals and that's okay...because maybe this failure is a blessing in disguise. Maybe our purpose is something else...something better. It is good to be ambitious but at the same time, you should be comfortable with failure and not base your self-worth on success.
If you start thinking things like "What's the point anyways", "Do I even matter", "They would all be better off without me"...You DO matter...you matter to your friends and family...and sometimes to even a stranger who you give a smile as you walk by and that brightens up their day. We all have a purpose. I read this quote and I'm not a very religious person but it really hit me:
Another thing about depression is that you feel like you don't have any control over your life. It feels like you've fallen inside a ditch and can't get out. But nothing is ever the end. Life is like driving. There are many paths we can take when we drive and sometimes we reach a dead end....but you can always turn your car around and go another direction. The steering wheel, accelerator, and brake are all in your control....you have control over your life. Sometimes, we need to just take a break and reevaluate what we really want in life and then start on our journey again.
There is so much in life...so many paths, experiences, people, places to see...it's never the end. There is always a way. You are strong enough that you have made it this far and you are still as strong to keep going. I wish people would talk about mental health more openly not have stigmas attached to it. I saw comments like: He didn't even think about his family. OK but imagine how helpless someone must feel that they feel that taking their life is the only way out? We need to normalize getting help and seeing a professional therapist. Friends and families need to be more empathetic.
One thing that I saw that really bothered me was people saying that the friend he was staying with needs to be investigated. Do you even know how his friend must be feeling at this moment? He's probably blaming himself for letting him go by himself alone in that room. There's nothing worse than "I could have prevented this from happening". At least this friend accompanied SSR during his final moments in life...where was everyone else? Being around a depressed person is very difficult. Because you get in this mindset of "I can fix you" or "I will bring you back to who you were"...and we can't...then you're stuck thinking that "my love wasn't enough you" or "what more should I have done?" Before you know it, their depression starts engulfing you and then you are faced with the dilemma to save yourself or them? If you ever are in a situation like that, remember that you can only help another person if you're not drowning yourself, so choose yourself...you're not selfish. You did the right thing.
I wrote another essay yet again...but I feel like this is something very important to discuss. In a short time, you all have become very close friends. If there is ever something you just want to get off your heart, you can always reach out to any of us because that's what friends are for. Always remember, that you are loved and you do matter even if you don't believe it yourself sometimes....you have touched so many lives that you might not even remember. Life is hard but it's so beautiful. There so much to see and experience. One day, you will be old and will look back on life. It will be all the good things and bad things that will have made you into the person you are today and you won't regret a single thing. If you are going through a difficult phase, remember that this shall pass one day too. Never give up hope.
Excellent post Alina👍🏼
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