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Originally posted by: thedramaqueen

congratulations aqua/Pihu 🥳👏

Thank you DQ!!

I'mma come back to reply to ongoing discussions in some time when my phone isn't going to die of low battery.

AAAHHH!!! Congratulations Aqua! So exciting 😃 I always feel a sense of personal pride when people from this AT get recognised on a larger platform, so thanks for that 😆 Also loved your new VM! The song is so gorgeous!

@DQ: Thanks for sharing that post! Phew, the responses remind me how exhausting it was to have a different opinion on this forum. So thankful to have this AT now!! ❤️

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

AAAHHH!!! Congratulations Aqua! So exciting 😃 I always feel a sense of personal pride when people from this AT get recognised on a larger platform, so thanks for that 😆 Also loved your new VM! The song is so gorgeous!

@DQ: Thanks for sharing that post! Phew, the responses remind me how exhausting it was to have a different opinion on this forum. So thankful to have this AT now!! ❤️

Thank you, Sam!! I can totally relate. I felt the same when Snow's VM was reposted by Kaveri.

I have a confession, you guys. I have to say that it's annoying that my new VM isn't getting as much footage as the KetuNal one. My phone is vibrating every minute and it's getting on my nerves now. It was exciting in the beginning but now, it seems like a jhanjhat with the amount of people liking it. This is making me realise that I don't care about anyone's opinions apart from you guys and the people who actually cared to like it before. It seems like they are just coming to watch it because he shared, which is actually what is happening. Gaaaahhhh!! Why can't I stay happy with what I have?!!🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ What I am basically trying to say is that I liked it before because that response seemed more genuine. Uff! I am such a "glass half empty" person.

Wow!! I am so annoyed with Ritvik but more than that, I am annoyed at myself for not enjoying this attention.

Can someone please make me see some sense?

I have a question: Do you guys imagine me as an overacting caricature?? Because that's how I imagine myself when I am writing most of the time. It's like I am in a comic. So, if you guys haven't been doing that, please do. My nonsense will still not sit with you but atleast it will be funny.

Also, surprisingly that caricature is probably male. I am not really sure and I don't know why. I realised this abhi.

EDIT: Just realised ki maine khud hi apni nayi VM ko footage nahi di. Thank you so much liking it, Sam!! I'm going to try to become better at this now and hopefully, I will.

pihu there are many kuku vms made & posted daily that most of the times its not possible to watch & like every single one😔 ritvik sharing it just brought focus on your vm😛 though some people maybe liking it because he shared but most I believe would like it in general too, because its really beautiful❤️ & also its like a new territory, most have over looked or probably not noticed ketunal bond in the same light as you have

I just hope some of the makers see it & take some inspiration to give us more ketunal scenes☺️🤪

Originally posted by: peacenfun

pihu there are many kuku vms made & posted daily that most of the times its not possible to watch & like every single one😔 ritvik sharing it just brought focus on your vm😛 though some people maybe liking it because he shared but most I believe would like it in general too, because its really beautiful❤️ & also its like a new territory, most have over looked or probably not noticed ketunal bond in the same light as you have

I just hope some of the makers see it & take some inspiration to give us more ketunal scenes☺️🤪

Thanks Peace!! I sat down and gave myself a talking to and now I feel so much better. I have decided not to open that account till the hype dies down because notifications ramp up my anxiety and maybe that is what was happening. Not really sure about it.

Now, I'm gonna see what I can contribute to the discussion for which this AT was made.

Aqua, you don't sound like a caricature to me at all. You sound like someone who puts a lot of thought into things and sometimes gets tangled up and confused in that process -- a pattern I am well-aquainted with from personal experience. 😃 You're totally allowed to have mixed feelings about the response to your VM, and I think it's really great that you're thinking about which forms of validation matter more or less to you. That's something we all struggle with, especially in this crazy social media age! I really don't know how influencers do it! 😕

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

@aqua: Thanks for the feedback on the VM! I was trying something slightly different so I totally see what you are saying. I chose scenes more for how well the fit the theme rather than how well they fit the music which probably accounts for the mismatching.

This comment kept coming back to me yesterday as I was editing the 'Meet' VM. I had decided on a theme beforehand that I wanted to show Kuhu's falling in love journey so I was dead set on using the sportscar scene and the jhoola scene because for me, they were really important scenes. I wanted to put in the office dream sequence too where Kuhu throws a stack of coloured papers but that was really looking out of place with the Ishq waala love dream sequence. Basically, what I am trying to say is that your comment kept my editing process in check.

I am totally with you on taking a step back from the Insta fandom. I think because there isn't any new content, the fandom is saturated with VMs and edits and I had to take a deep breath and remind myself that just because I can make VMs now, doesn't mean I have to keep churning them out. I created that account mostly for an easy way to share my stuff on this AT, and I have to keep remembering that original intention. 😛

Exactly!!! I had to remind myself too that I don't have to keep churning stuff out just because I have learnt the basics now. I made the account to able to fulfill my fangirl and creative desires without the pressure of being perfect because people I know will judge me. That account is just for me and me alone and it took me a while to figure that out (basically today).

@Meera and Aqua: The courtship storyline with Mishti is probably the one that scapegoated Kunal the most, when really, it was just a case of incompatibility and poor communication/comprehension from both sides. Once again the manipulative writing went out of the way to make Kunal look like a regressive misogynist -- and I bought it in real time -- but then when I went back and watched some of those episodes, I really started to see his side of the story.

His issue with Mishti working wasn't an abstract issue with women working in general, but his own desire to be the provider his father hadn't been and to heal his family by having the "normal" life that his mom couldn't have. Like he told Abir later, it wasn't even that he couldn't be convinced but he put himself out there by sharing his feelings on the subject with Mishti (even broaching the sensitive topic of his absentee dad) and from his vantage point, she didn't even feel the need to dignify him with a response or a proper discussion before she went and did exactly what he didn't want. Of course, this was partly Meenu's fault because she cut off Mishti's attempts at communication, but also showed a fundamental incompatibility betwee the two.

And with the eye surgery, I think what he did was a little dense and tactless but not necessarily sexist. The thing is, if it was Kuhu in Mishti's position, she would have snapped back immediately, told him to his face that he was an arrogant jerk, and that he should be so lucky to be with a girl like her, glasses or not. He would have probably understood and apologised, and the issue would have been closed there. What made this such a big deal was that Mishti made it a whole dharam-sankat and then finally chose to announce her decision to him in front of both families. In fact, all her major communication with him was in front of the families rather than with him directly, and that's precisely what got under his skin. Both Kunal and Mishti are too much in their own heads -- they justify their actions by how it fits with an abstract set of principles rather than how it makes other people feel, and this can have the unfortunate side effect of self-absorbtion. They need partners like Kuhu and Abir (who operate almost solely on emotion) to shake them out of their own heads and yank them into the real world of real consequences.

In my view, there isn't anything fundamentally wrong with the husband Kunal wanted to be but Mishti was the wrong girl to be that husband for because she found the life he was offering very suffocating. Meenu knew this and she was trying her level best to exploit it to break the rishta. What she didn't bargain for was just how desperate BM was to marry off Mishti, how much pressure Mishti would feel to ignore her own feelings and try to make it work with Kunal, and how much pressure Kunal felt not to let his family down again. Her plan barely worked after she put in way more effort than she thought she would have to.

I agree about the scapegoating and I actually agree with everything you mentioned. I just needed a reminder for my memory of it to come back.

By conservative, I didn't mean that he was being sexist or mysogynistic. What bothered me most was how he always thought of job as something that was just a tool to provide for the family, rather than realising that it was something that was maybe a tool to feel empowered or feel independent or even feel good about oneself. When he told Ketu that she didn't need to work because she had 2 bade bhai, and waise, she also didn't handle it well. She said that "maine socha mann laga rahega" and he said for that, you can join a hobby class rather than a job. But in all this, what bugged me the most was how she was already expecting the answer to be a "No". She was prepared for it and just shooting her shot.

Re-watching that scene really made me want to see Kuhu and Ketu handling the event business and everyone being super proud of the things they achieve.

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

Aqua, you don't sound like a caricature to me at all. You sound like someone who puts a lot of thought into things and sometimes gets tangled up and confused in that process -- a pattern I am well-aquainted with from personal experience. 😃You're totally allowed to have mixed feelings about the response to your VM, and I think it's really great that you're thinking about which forms of validation matter more or less to you. That's something we all struggle with, especially in this crazy social media age! I really don't know how influencers do it! 😕

Your reply made me all happy and cosy from the inside.❤️

I didn't mean 'caricature' in a bad sense. I think what I was trying to say was that when I am writing down things when I am really excited or annoyed, my thoughts come to me in a comic strip form and I just realised that today. That is probably why I use words like "uff", "aaahhh", "phew" and "ooooofff" and whatever else I use.

I had been having an inside debate about validation since a therapy session I had last year. It was related to my blog and why I felt so bad when people I personally shared it with didn't respond back. I was supposed to write this whole thing down where I tried to understand why it bothered me and I read it in my notes the other day and it all came back to me. My mental debates started to make sense after I read it again.

EDIT: I seem to always forget things. About influencers, I can't even imagine how hard it must be. There was a point when I had started thinking of myself as one. Not really but like my life was only Instagram. It's a dangerous territory when you think you have the power to influence people by just sharing posts. I had started oversharing and it was just going out of hand. I used to keep planning the next post as if I was getting paid to do it. It was completely bonkers. I had to get off of social media for 2 months for me to have the confidence to not fall back down that rabbit hole.

I just remembered 2 videos. Really really good and I think everyone should watch 'em because they are really interesting too.

https://youtu.be/sSxaOgFX1WE

https://youtu.be/8x3c6BSy03M

Originally posted by: peacenfun

have they uploaded kaveri's yesterday's interview, I couldnt find it even on their insta handle, anyways in case someone finds it please do share the link🤗

I don't think so. Did it even happen?? I don't even remember seeing any talk about it.

Originally posted by: peacenfun

pihu, we could have included this inconsistencies question also in the list that you sent for kavik😔

as viewers we notice many inconsistencies in the kuku story like kuhu's walnut allergy was conveniently forgotten during the leads 1st rasoi, as actors do they also notice these, and if yes then do they try to communicate these to the writers & directors?

though I am not expecting reply to any of the questions you sent😕 still hope that in case they read the post, they may try to answer a few through the various live interviews they are giving these days, maybe as a response to some other questions🤪 (atleast kaveri may, since she feels so answerable & responsible towards her fans😎)

I have zero expectations here. I don't think they're gonna see it also. So many people must tag them.