AbiNal need to understand that KuShti are not like them!

Hey all!

I wanted to discuss AbiNal's blind spot when it comes to KuShti. I think the reason why they come up with solutions that are like a bandaid for a major wound (as many have pointed out) is because they don't understand what it's like to have the issues Kuhu and Mishti do.

Both brothers have always been extremely devoted to each other. Kunal has been used as a pawn by Meenakshi for this very reason but one thing has never been doubted- the fact that AbiNal love each other. It's impossible for them to understand the deep-seated problems KuShti have where years of resentment, jealousy and hurt have gone unaddressed.

Whenever they have had problems, they have been resolved by gestures like Abir making Nanko's favourite noodles or Nanko appealing to his bhai's love for him. It's because there isn't distrust and anger that have been marinating for ages. The foundation of their relationship is unadulterated love. I

I think AbiNal need to stop thinking that little things like the laughing gas idea or the kidnapping idea will resolve these issues. It's also important that the two of them don't make KuShti feel that their concerns are trivial or that they're making a mountain out of a molehill. They need to address them and make them realise that they understand their wives. Only then can their issues be resolved.

see the problem is abinal are with each other when kunal was born and before few months abir dont know kunal is step bro and their love is father son more of brothers... so its easy for abir to accept kunal and make kunal accept it too...

coming to mishku (i dont know they show PS flashes or not) if they show then these 2 had a great relation too...kuhu was always calling mishti as didu and they discussed eo problems and kuhu always listened to mishti and took her decision as final decision in PS till naira came back ... after that they didnt show kuhu much...

for mishku...they were in same house from age of 14-15 so its hard for them to gel up... i dont what happened between them but its not only about one day or one incident between them and as far as the flash back we seen where mishti get 2 dolls and kuhu get 1 as kuhu felt(ofcourse everyone will feel bad) but that doesnt make kuhu this insecure or hate mishti (there is more of these 2 incidents) coming to BP- BM i dont think when they bought mishti even they knows that she will stay with them for life time... so thats the reason BM-BP go over board for mishti and they do things..its many things for them in nuturing mishti...

1. they lost their daughter and mishti came so they did more for her as they know the loss... (they cant see kuhu like thier daughter as she has their own parents and more than ananya, varsha-shaurya pampered kuhu, may be BM-BP cant give the love kuhu wanted from their grand parents but as parents they are good with mishti and BM-BP are strict parents to akshara but with mishti they are cool parents)

2. for BM-BP mishti is more of kisi aur ki amaanant in strating and then even said when kunal rishta happened for mishti... so they love mishti but kis aur ki ammaanat is dominated...

3. constant threat of naman's black mail for BM and mishti's panik attacks made more pull towards mishti than any other...

i support mishti over sweet nature... because from one or the other family member made her feel that she is bhoj, mooh bholi and they are doing ehsaan... one thing i dont get is mishti is not orphan... her parental family is rich so why compare her with ehsaan thing as if she is not road side girl they bought... she is their relative and comes from good family too.. so this much torturing her which i dont get...

Originally posted by: ruhi19

see the problem is abinal are with each other when kunal was born and before few months abir dont know kunal is step bro and their love is father son more of brothers... so its easy for abir to accept kunal and make kunal accept it too...

coming to mishku (i dont know they show PS flashes or not) if they show then these 2 had a great relation too...kuhu was always calling mishti as didu and they discussed eo problems and kuhu always listened to mishti and took her decision as final decision in PS till naira came back ... after that they didnt show kuhu much...

for mishku...they were in same house from age of 14-15 so its hard for them to gel up... i dont what happened between them but its not only about one day or one incident between them and as far as the flash back we seen where mishti get 2 dolls and kuhu get 1 as kuhu felt(ofcourse everyone will feel bad) but that doesnt make kuhu this insecure or hate mishti (there is more of these 2 incidents) coming to BP- BM i dont think when they bought mishti even they knows that she will stay with them for life time... so thats the reason BM-BP go over board for mishti and they do things..its many things for them in nuturing mishti...

1. they lost their daughter and mishti came so they did more for her as they know the loss... (they cant see kuhu like thier daughter as she has their own parents and more than ananya, varsha-shaurya pampered kuhu, may be BM-BP cant give the love kuhu wanted from their grand parents but as parents they are good with mishti and BM-BP are strict parents to akshara but with mishti they are cool parents)

2. for BM-BP mishti is more of kisi aur ki amaanant in strating and then even said when kunal rishta happened for mishti... so they love mishti but kis aur ki ammaanat is dominated...

3. constant threat of naman's black mail for BM and mishti's panik attacks made more pull towards mishti than any other...

i support mishti over sweet nature... because from one or the other family member made her feel that she is bhoj, mooh bholi and they are doing ehsaan... one thing i dont get is mishti is not orphan... her parental family is rich so why compare her with ehsaan thing as if she is not road side girl they bought... she is their relative and comes from good family too.. so this much torturing her which i dont get...

Interesting point! While AbiNal have grown up as 'sage' brothers, KuShti have not. Neither did Abir know about the truth till a few months ago.

With KuShti, Mishti came home as a tween. As for the parent show, I think they totally undid that bond for YRHKP since they wanted a conflict point

BM-BP are great parents to Mishti. Maybe they felt Kuhu had Varsha-Shaurya but being the mukhiyas, I feel they need to be more in touch with everyone's emotions. Since Varsha and Kuhu don't talk much, there is nobody but Jas that Kuhu talks to and we all see what that leads to. She needs more guidance and not only disapproval from BM and Varsha.

I think KuShti can only come together in the face of a common threat that allows them to appreciate each other. Hope the writers work more on their relationship.

Jas should stop calling Mishti 'muhboli'. That is very hurtful.

Originally posted by: clarity

Interesting point! While AbiNal have grown up as 'sage' brothers, KuShti have not. Neither did Abir know about the truth till a few months ago.

With KuShti, Mishti came home as a tween. As for the parent show, I think they totally undid that bond for YRHKP since they wanted a conflict point

BM-BP are great parents to Mishti. Maybe they felt Kuhu had Varsha-Shaurya but being the mukhiyas, I feel they need to be more in touch with everyone's emotions. Since Varsha and Kuhu don't talk much, there is nobody but Jas that Kuhu talks to and we all see what that leads to. She needs more guidance and not only disapproval from BM and Varsha.

I think KuShti can only come together in the face of a common threat that allows them to appreciate each other. Hope the writers work more on their relationship.

Jas should stop calling Mishti 'muhboli'. That is very hurtful.

Originally posted by: ruhi19

B: only this can make them close but kuhu character will be used for flips again as story to move forward... only kuhu's character can be played by writers more than others...

Yes, that's the annoying part. I really wanna see some KuShti bonding because they have such great chemistry. Want the writers to make use of it.

Abir and Kunal need to understand that KuShti's bond is fundamentally different from theirs. I felt bad for Mishti when Abir said that she just wants to prove herself right. Kuhu being 'immature' or Mishti being 'mature' is a very simplistic way of looking at the issue. Mishti can't be expected to be mature all the time. That's just covering up the problem, not solving it. Both brothers are making the issue worse as KuShti are feeling that their problems are driving a wedge between them and their respective partners. Kuhu has become very resentful of Mishti and she was very rude to her today. Her feeling of being ignored is coming out in a destructive way.

If only the Maheshwaris, Kunal and Abir would address it instead of just giving KuShti naseehats, it would work. They should address Kuhu's insecurity and make her realise she is just as loved.

Originally posted by: clarity

Yes, that's the annoying part. I really wanna see some KuShti bonding because they have such great chemistry. Want the writers to make use of it.

Abir and Kunal need to understand that KuShti's bond is fundamentally different from theirs. I felt bad for Mishti when Abir said that she just wants to prove herself right. Kuhu being 'immature' or Mishti being 'mature' is a very simplistic way of looking at the issue. Mishti can't be expected to be mature all the time. That's just covering up the problem, not solving it. Both brothers are making the issue worse as KuShti are feeling that their problems are driving a wedge between them and their respective partners. Kuhu has become very resentful of Mishti and she was very rude to her today. Her feeling of being ignored is coming out in a destructive way.

If only the Maheshwaris, Kunal and Abir would address it instead of just giving KuShti naseehats, it would work. They should address Kuhu's insecurity and make her realise she is just as loved.

for me only kunal can treat kuhu... not MAH or abir... because only kunal can heal her and understand her because he did same things mishti under meenu's influence... may be kunal get angry but he will understand her easily....

Originally posted by: clarity

Hey all!

I wanted to discuss AbiNal's blind spot when it comes to KuShti. I think the reason why they come up with solutions that are like a bandaid for a major wound (as many have pointed out) is because they don't understand what it's like to have the issues Kuhu and Mishti do.

Both brothers have always been extremely devoted to each other. Kunal has been used as a pawn by Meenakshi for this very reason but one thing has never been doubted- the fact that AbiNal love each other. It's impossible for them to understand the deep-seated problems KuShti have where years of resentment, jealousy and hurt have gone unaddressed.

Whenever they have had problems, they have been resolved by gestures like Abir making Nanko's favourite noodles or Nanko appealing to his bhai's love for him. It's because there isn't distrust and anger that have been marinating for ages. The foundation of their relationship is unadulterated love. I

I think AbiNal need to stop thinking that little things like the laughing gas idea or the kidnapping idea will resolve these issues. It's also important that the two of them don't make KuShti feel that their concerns are trivial or that they're making a mountain out of a molehill. They need to address them and make them realise that they understand their wives. Only then can their issues be resolved.

You are right in saying AbiNal cannot compare their bond with the girls. Totally different.

The problem is, no one has actually witnessed the rage/anger/hurt between the two girls except for the Mahs and even then an edited version. They kept it very toned first because they did not want to upset the Mahs, then later for all the reasons shown and now because deep down they know sasural is different from mother's. Yet it is also escalting for both.....so Abir to pre-empt his mother using his wife and bro as pawn decided to get them together...as most men think like this.

I think what happened in the resort was a big eye opener to both the men..the look on their faces.😲 They now have an inkling that it is way more serious than they had thought. Like I said in my threads, sublte shifting and loyalties coming to the fore will be the big thing now...this episode yesterday was much needed and now the bridge to the next section. But by no means has the problems between the girls been sorted, in fact it will now be escalated.

I see Kunal making Kuhu aware...they have a similar background and being used by Meenu...but before all this lot of bridges will be burnt, relationships severed and re-fashioned newly.

Originally posted by: clarity

Hey all!

I wanted to discuss AbiNal's blind spot when it comes to KuShti. I think the reason why they come up with solutions that are like a bandaid for a major wound (as many have pointed out) is because they don't understand what it's like to have the issues Kuhu and Mishti do.

Both brothers have always been extremely devoted to each other. Kunal has been used as a pawn by Meenakshi for this very reason but one thing has never been doubted- the fact that AbiNal love each other. It's impossible for them to understand the deep-seated problems KuShti have where years of resentment, jealousy and hurt have gone unaddressed.

Whenever they have had problems, they have been resolved by gestures like Abir making Nanko's favourite noodles or Nanko appealing to his bhai's love for him. It's because there isn't distrust and anger that have been marinating for ages. The foundation of their relationship is unadulterated love. I

I think AbiNal need to stop thinking that little things like the laughing gas idea or the kidnapping idea will resolve these issues. It's also important that the two of them don't make KuShti feel that their concerns are trivial or that they're making a mountain out of a molehill. They need to address them and make them realise that they understand their wives. Only then can their issues be resolved.

Originally posted by: ruhi19

see the problem is abinal are with each other when kunal was born and before few months abir dont know kunal is step bro and their love is father son more of brothers... so its easy for abir to accept kunal and make kunal accept it too...

coming to mishku (i dont know they show PS flashes or not) if they show then these 2 had a great relation too...kuhu was always calling mishti as didu and they discussed eo problems and kuhu always listened to mishti and took her decision as final decision in PS till naira came back ... after that they didnt show kuhu much...

for mishku...they were in same house from age of 14-15 so its hard for them to gel up... i dont what happened between them but its not only about one day or one incident between them and as far as the flash back we seen where mishti get 2 dolls and kuhu get 1 as kuhu felt(ofcourse everyone will feel bad) but that doesnt make kuhu this insecure or hate mishti (there is more of these 2 incidents) coming to BP- BM i dont think when they bought mishti even they knows that she will stay with them for life time... so thats the reason BM-BP go over board for mishti and they do things..its many things for them in nuturing mishti...

1. they lost their daughter and mishti came so they did more for her as they know the loss... (they cant see kuhu like thier daughter as she has their own parents and more than ananya, varsha-shaurya pampered kuhu, may be BM-BP cant give the love kuhu wanted from their grand parents but as parents they are good with mishti and BM-BP are strict parents to akshara but with mishti they are cool parents)

2. for BM-BP mishti is more of kisi aur ki amaanant in strating and then even said when kunal rishta happened for mishti... so they love mishti but kis aur ki ammaanat is dominated...

3. constant threat of naman's black mail for BM and mishti's panik attacks made more pull towards mishti than any other...

i support mishti over sweet nature... because from one or the other family member made her feel that she is bhoj, mooh bholi and they are doing ehsaan... one thing i dont get is mishti is not orphan... her parental family is rich so why compare her with ehsaan thing as if she is not road side girl they bought... she is their relative and comes from good family too.. so this much torturing her which i dont get...

Devyani mishti's grandmother is a divorcee and her first husband is also not a good person that's why singhania allowed naman and his sister to stay with them naitik is not too much fund of naman but still due to humanity he allowed naman to join there family buisness and even trained him there was a time when naitik and akshra boycott from the family that time naman take care of whole buisness but when they returned naman backstabbed the singhania's . Technically mishti doesn't belong to singhania's also and all the wealth belongs to singhania's not agarwal's .

Originally posted by: Dreamygal301

You are right in saying AbiNal cannot compare their bond with the girls. Totally different.

The problem is, no one has actually witnessed the rage/anger/hurt between the two girls except for the Mahs and even then an edited version. They kept it very toned first because they did not want to upset the Mahs, then later for all the reasons shown and now because deep down they know sasural is different from mother's. Yet it is also escalting for both.....so Abir to pre-empt his mother using his wife and bro as pawn decided to get them together...as most men think like this.

I think what happened in the resort was a big eye opener to both the men..the look on their faces.😲 They now have an inkling that it is way more serious than they had thought.

not sure about kunal but Abir does, his dialogue today 'meri aur kunal ki equation tumkari aur kuhu ki tarah messed-up nahi hai', gives me hope that he is realising now that these sisters share a different equation(though the other hints in the episode also indicate towards future plot that abhinal ki bhi equation messed-up hone wali hai)

Like I said in my threads, sublte shifting and loyalties coming to the fore will be the big thing now...this episode yesterday was much needed and now the bridge to the next section. But by no means has the problems between the girls been sorted, in fact it will now be escalated.

exactly current episodes do not indicate that mishku equation is going to be resolved anytime soon, infact all hints indicate towards the separation

I see Kunal making Kuhu aware...they have a similar background and being used by Meenu...but before all this lot of bridges will be burnt, relationships severed and re-fashioned newly.

but Kunal is not that smart enough to understand & address Kuhu's issues, ultimately though the medicine to Kuhu's wounds is Kunal's love(the SR scene symbolism pointed out already on this forum, she doesnt let anyone touch the red marks on her face, but ultimately Kunal wipes them)

Abir will have to guide Kunal to address Kuhu's concerns because kunal is not going to do on his own