Rape and Romance - Page 4

Originally posted by: -shabz-

if emotional compatibility was a requirement for sex then ppl will not have one night stands.One night stands between 2 adults who are not emotionally bound but sexually attracted is exactly was is 'compatibility'. Sex doesn't require love but if you are in love with someone and then have sex with someone else, that's a problem. You will often hear cheaters saying it was just sex and nothing more.

They control their urges because they are not bound by Nikah, nikah is a religious duty after which you fullfill the rights of husban/wife, that incudes consummation. Sex is a right of the husband and wife. So if husband stays away from wife after saying yes to nikah, hes robbing the wife of her right and becomes sinful. You cant commit to Nikah and then stay away.....either be a man/woman and not do the nikah.

Not looking for arguements, just tried to explain my opinion. 😊

Nikah gives you a nod to have sexual relationship but it is not forcing you to have sex right away. Also, doesn't the same nikah also command respect and healthy relationship between the couple. How convenient to forget that part and just hurry into having sex part in the name of nikkah.

Originally posted by: Carpe_diem

Good point! After marriage, do their hormones go crazy and they can't control themselves😆

There can be nothing more fulfilling than a wholesome relationship where the couple at least like each other and there's some amount of trust and friendship.

What kind of a marriage is it, if the guy is not happy at all but enjoys sleeping with his wife and the wife is fine with the ill-treatment.

Sadly its mostly women who see it this way. Men in marriages tend to want sex anyway. Even if they have to marry a woman they dont like but they wont spare her of sex🤢. After all wether he likes being in the marriage or not but they had to pay Haq meher, take financial responsibility of wife, so why would they spare her in return from fulilling his physical needs 😲.

Originally posted by: Prinzessin1

Sadly its mostly women who see it this way. Men in marriages tend to want sex anyway. Even if they have to marry a woman they dont like but they wont spare her of sex🤢. After all wether he likes being in the marriage or not but they had to pay Haq meher, take financial responsibility of wife, so why would they spare her in return from fulilling his physical needs 😲.

That's really sad. No wonder men and women are so different.

Originally posted by: Prinzessin1

Sadly its mostly women who see it this way. Men in marriages tend to want sex anyway. Even if they have to marry a woman they dont like but they wont spare her of sex🤢. After all wether he likes being in the marriage or not but they had to pay Haq meher, take financial responsibility of wife, so why would they spare her in return from fulilling his physical needs 😲.

That's so sickening! Almost sexual slavery.

I wish at least in dramas they show differently. Anyway they are trying to project the lead hero as nek and shareef, so might as well include this aspect too. This is one thinh that indian dramas get right. Leads usually don't consummate until they reach a comfortable position in their relationship.

Originally posted by: stardust2011

That's so sickening! Almost sexual slavery.

I wish at least in dramas they show differently. Anyway they are trying to project the lead hero as nek and shareef, so might as well include this aspect too. This is one thinh that indian dramas get right. Leads usually don't consummate until they reach a comfortable position in their relationship.

oh no no, there have been several dramas especially old ones by Ahsan Khan in which consumtion wouldnt happen for atleast a year even such as in zid (most likely consumption never happened because the heroine didnt accept him till drama end and beyond), mere charagar and may be definitely few more others which I cant think of right now.

What I also very much long to witness on screen is the naik shareef husband offering contraception to wife ( read: he would use it) because things around them is too uncertain/stressful/ risky /both not fully in love with each other yet but wanna give the marriage a chance etc and hence they shouldnt bring a child yet into this world. God knows when contraception talks would come in dramas. For me a good man should also be willing to use contraception and it should be discussed between the couple especially the good husband raising the topic.

Forgive me if im wrong but isn't contraception not allowed in islam theoretically?