SidNaaz :Discussion Thread 9:My Problem is I like u - Page 65

Originally posted by: jyoti06

I heard that night convo again ..

Sid said u r fond of me ..theres liking but u still love paras ..

Sana then almost confessed saying that how can u say this..all the hugs and kisses we did ..what was all that ..nothing fr u ?

So sid said thats just comfort level we share and 70% of those things u did just to mk paras jealous ..

Sana was shocked here and said it was just till 1st finale..after that u know things changed ..

They cut the convo here and morning she was affected ..

So I guess she is affected bec Sid misunderstood her love fr him just as means to mk paras jealous ..

That's what :(

Originally posted by: Ashhima3

but she also said she has soft corner for him! He is a nice person! I think when such convo happens at that time telling your current lover about your previous crush quality is a wrong move and obviously again it makes the other person also feel that his thoughts are right! I feel here Sid has put across his concerns, he was very straightforward when he asked are you in love with me, she again at that time as well naming Paras has her next priority has hit him! You may have a liking as a friend for him, but there are lot of things which has made Sid feel the way he feels now

So he isn’t wrong! The whole house feels that Sana is hurt and Sid is the reason and he is being unreasonable ! He loves her, but feels she is doing to make Paras jealous, but when she cries or is hurt he is the reason for it! How long can he take it? No one has come to him and said that Sid, Sana only loves you and she has told us, and he expects that from Sana

He said, he likes her, it’s his problem that he likes her, I believe it that if not for Sid’s support Sana wouldn’t have come so far in the competition!
He has been there for her in every step!

When you look at all this, I feel no one else other than Sid deserves to win this show! I will say it will be unfair if anyone else wins this show

Theres no doubt sid will win ..even sana knows it and i do feel sana is nomore playing the game bec she is too much emotionally invested in Sid ..this whole week what has she done other than running behind sid ..so she is nomore in this game which even rashmi noticed ..

Now coming to sana ka chant on paras soft corner ..problem is sana is a bit late in catching up with what the other person is trying to say ..Here sid started the convo with the whole kitchen fight and was telling sana that she looked cute when she stepped back after paras came charging to her and so it looked like though u were angry but still due to old liking of yours , u just could not fight him hard ..To this sana was justifying that yeah i did hv a soft corner fr him but i know he fell fr a wrong girl otherwise he is a nice guy ..so she was justifying why she could not fight paras in fierce way without realising what exactly Sid tried to hint here. .

She realised when sid started saying we only hv liking fr each other but u still love paras ..thats when she realised what sid trying to say when he spoke of kitchen fight ..

Thats when sana asked him whats between us the way we r intimate..she even said if u think i love paras then why m i with u hugging and sleeping with u . To this sid said bec of comfort level and 70% u do to mk paras jealous ..

So sana initially felt sid was only talking of kitchen fight and so she was busy justifying why she dint fight fiercely with paras as much as she fights with mahira ..but later when she reslised kitchen fight was just an excuse but the larger picture is sid still assumes she loves paras is whats bothering her now ..

Next morning in that moon scene she even told Sid its my feelings , not your fault that i m feeling this way , so dont think i m blaming u ..Here she was talking of her feelings fr him ..

Sid too loves her like mad and so even vented his frustration on aarti when aarti was not able to handle sana 😆..he was so restless bec he wanted to know fm her mouth that whatever he assumed or told her at night is truth or not and so he was symbolically showing her the moon and indirectly talking of kissing the moon too errm means her 😆But again sana was on a negative tangent there as she could see a sad face of moon there 😆..she was literally hurt with that comment of how she gets intimate with him only to mk paras jealous ..

From where I see both r hurt and going through truck load of misunderstandings ..Sana has to b more vocal that she loves sid ..Sid too hv to b more vocal that he is madly in love with her ...Dunno how far salman will b successful tom in removing this jealousy word from big boss dictionary 😆..

And talking of depression and mental disorder , mayb sana has anxiety issues but if i see today episode then its not anxiety or anything ..she is simply hurt thinking Sid rejected her love..she hersrlf confessed i m hurt but u r not at fault as its my mistake , my feelings ...Tom in wkw things will further add up with everyone again giving her jealousy tag mayb including sid too i guess which will finally lead to her outburst ..

Originally posted by: Bee93

It doesn’t have to have the exact name and we can’t predict. We only know symptoms from the things we’ve read. We can’t give a diagnosis obviously but she definitely seems to have childhood trauma and abandonment issues from not being treated well. If you just google trauma and read about it, you’ll get an idea.
Trauma brings with it anxiety, depression etc.

Toxic relationships, could be parental, friends, romantic relationships.
Read about psychological triggers too.

Her childhood stories, her wanting attention, seeking affection, trying to remain happy and always wanting others to remain happy in her presence is a big clue to the issues she has suffered and clearly she hasn’t learnt how to overcome them/ or learnt strats to deal with them....

M dreading tomorrow....refusing to watch clips from today til I know what the outcome of tomorrow will be 🥱

Originally posted by: TingTingTiDing

My understanding of Sama’s psyche:

These are the words she always uses- badnaami, character, attention, jealousy.

I think this has to do with the trauma she faced during Sana-Himanshi issue before bb.

After Himanshi fight, they say- Punjab supported Himanshi over Sana. It caused Sana’s BADNAMI, CHARACTER of each other discussed by both of them, ppl must also have said less famous Sana is JELPOUS of more famous Himanshi. And popularity of Sana and work she was getting must also be affected so less ATTENTION. And all this happened in her own Punjab.

Sana is highly sensitive girl wearing emotions on her sleeves. This issue must have affected her deeply.

This is the reason Sana gets triggered easily with Character or Jealousy thing. Jealousy tag She don’t like we already know. But remember Rashmi bluffing abt knowing her past and Sana taking it as commenting on character. Even earlier fight with Bagga and Dey was abt character.
She also needs constant attention. And likes to live in the moment to avoid thinking abt it.

I would call this PTSD Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

I am not qualified Psychologist. But deeply interested to read on psychology. So this is my understanding of Sana with limited knowledge i have.

Yes, you are spot on with PTSD

@hira here you go. You were asking the exact name

Can we just point out one single thing.. sid said 70% of the time you chipkofy or show love is to make paras jealous.. half of the time laras isn't even attentive towards them n not with them spwcially when they are sleeping.. so by this logic is sid making usre that sana uses him only to make paras jealous.. ? why would sid agree to be part of something like this? Sana questioning him if that was the case what are we?? sid said juat liking n comfort zone thing for it?

shade some light upon it.. remember im neither bashing nor criticizing jjst clearing up my thoughts as im unable ro understand..

Originally posted by: jyoti06

I heard that night convo again ..

Sid said u r fond of me ..theres liking but u still love paras ..

Sana then almost confessed saying that how can u say this..all the hugs and kisses we did ..what was all that ..nothing fr u ?

So sid said thats just comfort level we share and 70% of those things u did just to mk paras jealous ..

Sana was shocked here and said it was just till 1st finale..after that u know things changed ..

They cut the convo here and morning she was affected ..

So I guess she is affected bec Sid misunderstood her love fr him just as means to mk paras jealous ..

Matlab usne admit kiya ki woh pehle paras ko jealous feel karwane ke liye sid ke sath rehti thi?

She really likes paras even today she said that she has a soft corner for Paras.. woh khud arti ko sid ki girl friend,wife bolti rehti hai toh ajj sid ne bhi clear karne ke liye paras ke bare mai puchha kyunki sid toh kabhi arti I love u nehi bolta na hi uske attention pane ke liye drama karti hai Jaise SANA karti hai.. Agar sana paras ko abb pasand nehi karti toh woh jab surgery ke liye ja raha tha toh I love u kyun bola aur Asim ke samne Confess karne ki kya jarurat thi?

Sana ko agar jealous tag se itni problem hai toh kal kyun mahira ko jealous bol rahi thi?

Originally posted by: One-Of-A-Kind

Can we just point out one single thing.. sid said 70% of the time you chipkofy or show love is to make paras jealous.. half of the time laras isn't even attentive towards them n not with them spwcially when they are sleeping.. so by this logic is sid making usre that sana uses him only to make paras jealous.. ? why would sid agree to be part of something like this? Sana questioning him if that was the case what are we?? sid said juat liking n comfort zone thing for it?

shade some light upon it.. remember im neither bashing nor criticizing jjst clearing up my thoughts as im unable ro understand..

He said that 70% thing to mayb get it fm her mouth that she loves him and so is intimate with him but she dint say it , instead she was clarifying that she did try to mk paras jealous till first finale ..after that things changed ..Here big boss edits and shows morning ..so we dunno what else she told ..

Originally posted by: Ashhima3

sorry that punjabi one I don’t agree. It’s because she had a liking initially makes her feel that way! When she has never mentioned about her liking to Paras has never been punjabi why do we say that? She has said even today that she respects him, has soft corner! He is in love with a wrong girl!?

Whereas with sid it’s totally different.

Originally posted by: iram510

the thing with psychological triggers is that they can hit u out of nowhere....one minute u can be happy and on top of the world...in the next moment u are crying, anxious and depressed but u have no idea y n u have no control over it....which sends u in a downwards spiral further....

Her childhood stories, her wanting attention, seeking affection, trying to remain happy and always wanting others to remain happy in her presence is a big clue to the issues she has suffered and clearly she hasn’t learnt how to overcome them/ or learnt strats to deal with them....

M dreading tomorrow....refusing to watch clips from today til I know what the outcome of tomorrow will be 🥱

I am dreading too. I wish there is some therapist watching it and offers help. It will be their advertisement too.

Sid mentioned that she hugs him to make Paras Jealous and during first comedy night , Sana kept saying SidNaaz SidNaaz . She made audience cheer for SidNaaz .

May be Sid felt that she was doing this to make Pahira jealous ke see you left me for her and you guys are not famous but my jodi is famous. Again Ego issue and make Paras jealous issue and No wonder same night Sid talked about Paras to her