Slapping doesn't always mean violence!!! - Page 3

Originally posted by: bashful_moon

Thank you for the insightful post once again IF Love. it is good to see so such a well articulated and insightful post.

While i agree with you that all the slaps are not necessarily meant for hurling abuse, I can find absolutely no rhyme about Moloy slapping Mohini today.

No i don't like Mohini, the character. She has never been a good mother, neither is she a good human being and with regards to womanhood, she is a big blotch. But when it comes to being a wife, she has shown no reason to be called off on that front. So, it is the dynamics that has been built between Moloy and Mohini in their three decades plus conjugal life, that warrants Moloy's action redundant and distasteful.

Moh and Moloy have been married for around three decades and Moloy by now knows all the shades of Mohini. But he has never been shown to be abusive. The slap shows Moloy in a bad light. Besides, it is not the first time she has been nasty to Pre. Of course, this time Mohini has stepped out of line with regards to paternity of their unborn grandchild but then Moloy has lost the very moral ground of slapping Moh the day he let pregnant Pre out of Basu Bari without any guilt, remorse or even a slight hesitation. After the grave injustice meted to Prerna on that day (that too after calling her his daughter), Moloy no longer deserves to ride on his high horse and slap Moh.

However, I stand the ground that he should have tackled Mohini's vileness. For that purpose, the way he reprimanded Moh with regards to leaving house with AnuPre should have been enough... For added spice he could have simply questioned her worth as a woman and a mother... The whip of right words would have resonated much louder and more painful than what his slap could or couldn't do...

Yup..perfectly summed up

very well explained ifl .

infact its eyeopener for me .i also not like slap thing but tes some time it needed

ur last para i so want nivi to come out from her mother influence .

Originally posted by: V_MA

I haven't mention about parents who abuse their childs dr. I just talked about one's who loves their children unconditionally. If that very child did something wrong which harms the society. It just broke their hearts. Today Moloy also like that. He just couldn't tolerate the way his beloved wife walking on.

Well then let me tell you if young adults do harm to the society there are ways to reform them. Hitting them is no way to reform them. Let's not get into justifying physical abuse by taking such examples here. I don't wish to rattle off the statistics here but maybe you should read up on the studies related to psychological impact of childhood abuse.

Originally posted by: IFLove

Thanks DG🤗 and being rediculed for your opinion ki toh ab aadat si ho gayi hai...so that's not an issue😆

Well, when I read the hotstar synopsis, I was so sure that forum will be happy today...even before I watched y Moloy slapped mohini. Because I was quite certain that he'll not slap her just like that, she must have done something really nasty that made him lose his calm. And after I watched the episode, I was so happy to see that Moloy Basu back whom we adored. But idhar aake dekha toh again there r comments like they r promoting violence n all and I got irritated. Of course everyone is entitled to there views and I don't question that but what irritates me always is different treatment given to ladies and gents. When Prerna slapped Anurag in that humiliation episode, everyone was like he deserved it because he talked shit with her n humiliated her n what not. But today when mohini is slapped, we have an issue, it shows violence n what not. Why shouldn't a lady be slapped if she behaves nasty? There's one point on which the whole kzk fandom agrees and that is mohini deserves to be punished. People r okay if komo tortures her. But when a husband slaps wife, it becomes an issue and I don't understand it. Why do we watch everything with the glasses of how TV is affecting the society? There r few times when TV influences the society and then there r times when TV is influenced by what is happening in the society. It is both ways. It does happen in the society that occasionally husband slaps his wife, it's ok unless he has wrong intentions. U never know tomorrow he might apologize to her being a good husband that he is. Why r we affected by komo's body shaming comments? Komo is a character who obsesses over her beauty. More than her brains, she is extremely proud of her beauty. It's ok that she talks bad about others looks. Do we say they should stop showing murders in the TV because it influences the society and people will start murdering for real? No. We understand it is that specific character who is murderous and he will behave like that. Similarly, komo is like that. There r girls in society who make such body shaming comments. Again, komo obsessing over romancing with anurag. It's boring to watch for us because we r not interested, but it's not wrong. That is her character. She wants Anu's attention since day 1. When he romances her, she'll feel she defeated him and that will give her the satisfaction. For us normal girls, romancing someone can not be a sole motive of life, but for girl like komo, it is...and all her plots will revolve around that only. I feel at times we take some things too personally and end up being offended, we fail to look at it stepping into character's shoes.

I get your point. I am also of the opinion just one slap will not make somebody an abuser. Something done in the heat of a moment does not make a person an abuser. Don’t parents spank their children when they disobey them?

TV/Cinema is a reflection of the society and sometimes it does affect the society as well like you said. Film/ tv show makers have every right to make films on murder, rape, domestic violence, Eve teasing etc because these things happen in our society. The problem is only when such things are glorified. Like for example, a hero comes and says something as cheap as ‘jyada over smart mat bano warna tum 9 mahino ke baad hi free hoga’ and when this dialogue is made more impactful with a dhoom tanana bgm, the audience (men) will cheer for it and tomorrow someone might say this to a girl thinking it’s cool. Something like this happened in the Malayalam industry 2-3 years back and it became a big controversy. There was also an interesting case that happened in Australia which I came across recently. There was a man of Indian origin who was booked for stalking two women for 18 months. Apparently, the guy had no idea that stalking was a crime. He was influenced by Bollywood movies where the hero stalks the heroine for months and finally the woman falls for him. As per reports the guy escaped conviction because his lawyer proved that what he did was “normal behaviour for Indian men” and that his cultural background might have influenced his behaviour. ...So sometimes it is good to act responsibly.

Originally posted by: Soanz.19

Well then let me tell you if young adults do harm to the society there are ways to reform them. Hitting them is no way to reform them. Let's not get into justifying physical abuse by taking such examples here. I don't wish to rattle off the statistics here but maybe you should read up on the studies related to psychological impact of childhood abuse.

Bold: First tell me clearly what you've posted. " Young adults do harm to the society"?

I have mentioned about the children who do wrong things which harms the society. While their parents love them so much.

And don't think I'm taking examples just to write something. I'm adding examples to prove my opinion. Be wise enough to understand the example and sort out what it contains and apply them to understand the actual situation. As it's the method of studying anything related to books and our lives too.

Originally posted by: V_MA

Bold: First tell me clearly what you've posted. " Young adults do harm to the society"?

I have mentioned about the children who do wrong things which harms the society. While their parents love them so much.

And don't think I'm taking examples just to write something. I'm adding examples to prove my opinion. Be wise enough to understand the example and sort out what it contains and apply them to understand the actual situation. As it's the method of studying anything related to books and our lives too.

Ok. I don't wish to have this conversation with you further because clearly I'm talking to a wall😅. Aur justify karte raho pyaar ke naam pe physical abuse🤪

Have a good day!!

Res before the thread gets locked as I'm busy at present 😆😂

I loved the slap today...which hit the right person

The verbal slaps which mohini gives now n then..needed a physical touch

Moloy was frustrated today...for not been able to help prerna n fulfill his duties towards her as her father figure

Then mohini ranting against prerna all the time

But good he slapped her

But lol.....mohini accused prerna again for the slap

Originally posted by: V_MA

Which intention?

She wants anurag to stay away from prerna as per what doctor said to her..she is being played around by sona ..her behavior as a woman is not acceptable , but as a mom she only wishes well for her son..and for us moh is a witch..for anurag she is his mom...so its complicated ...