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Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

That’s what I felt too. How did he fail to bring gifts after all that happened in the morning? And Babita is right, it’s not about gifts it’s about pyar jatana. It wasn’t about him buying gifts for Mini. He should have just gone up to her on his own and wished her happy birthday, veer balika and hugged. That would have been enough. Why does he need to be probed by Babita to reach out to Mini?

It’s not fair that they are once again lying to Babita that they are father-daughter now. It’s not fair to put her in a bubble. Come clean and it’s Babita’s problem to deal with it.

And how is Babita wrong in expecting HS-Mini to become father-daughter? They used to call each other baap-Beti without Babita’s insistence before... so naturally Babita will expect them to be in the same page na. Either come clean to her that we don’t want any tags or pressure to be father-daughter, then even Babita will not be expecting anything on that front.

I however do agree that Babita shouldn’t pressure HS to be Mini’s perfect father or to replace Ashok, but her expecting HS to become Mini’s father figure, or expecting him to jataoing that pyaar is absolutely natural.

I really hope HS doesn't try to replace Ashok - there's nothing to replace and he's not worth being compared to. I hope Babita will understand that one day - HS can make his own place in Minnie's life.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Also, just when was he expected to buy a gift for her? He found out about her birthday that morning and then he had to go to the station. Dunno when he gets off work but yeh lekar aata bhi toh kab? Aur kya lekar aata? Another camera? He can't just tell someone to bring something like that. There's so much to consider when it comes to buying a gift of that nature.

I am super curious to see what he gets her. I hope it will be something thoughtful.

Originally posted by: shazam1

Babes Paayal lai- I don’t remember Minnie asking for one or liking one. Per Babes kuch bhi la deta- it would have checked her box as father duty nibhai HS ne.

On second thoughts he probably thought abhi to shaadi ka bill chukaya, lehnga gift kiya. Who knows maybe birthdays were never that big growing up for him. Plus my parents always gave joint gift- it was never gift from dad or mom. Dunno why Babita wants separate gift from HS- aren’t they a unit???😕🤔🤔

I doubt his father ever got him anything. If anyone, it would have been his mom or grandfather. Mom toh mann pasand ka khaana banati ya agar gift dena bhi hota toh sasurji ke saath deti.

Also, it differs for people na? In my family, gifts were a big thing when my brother and I were kids. But ever since we got older (teens and early twenties), gift giving stopped. All we do is cut a cake together and then go out for dinner.

Personally, birthdays aren't a big deal for me. I literally don't give a damn about them chahiye woh khud ka ho ya kissi aur ka. That's just how I am. It's just another day for me. If you want to show you love me or care for me then do it every single day of your life. Don't assign one special day and neglect / ignore me for all the others.

Again, birthdays and how people treat them don't have to be the same for everyone and this fact should be accepted. I just don't understand what the big fricking deal was with Minnie's birthday. Agar koi bhul gaya toh bhul gaya. Baad mein wish ya gift kar denge iss mein itna rhona dhona kyun?

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

Babita's insistence on them being father daughter is just her own insecurity speaking aloud. She needs validation that she took the right step. Her wanting people to say Mini ko baap milgaya was just 🤪

Ab logon se bhi expectation hai, huh?🤣

Jab log usse itna expect kar sakte hain to woh kyun nahin.

There is another thing that was brought up today. HS and Babita are under tremendous pressure to prove to everyone that they can make this second marriage work. In Babita's case, to somehow show that the failure in her first marriage was not her fault, and in HS' case to show that he is capable of being a husband and father this time round, especially to a non-biological child.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

Quite right. Specially since these two have been feeling disconnected, it's even more difficult. And then HS has been with her for only a year perhaps, he can't be expected to know all about her inner wishes and stuff.

Nevertheless, the way he just brushed off the fact that he had forgotten, or was pretending to forget, wasn't right. As they say, it's not the gift but the thought behind the gift that's most important.

I don't think he brushed it off. He was trying to tell Babita to stop fixating on it and on finding faults with his ability to be a father.

He didn't have the time to bring a gift and now with all this pressure probably doesn't know what to get her. What if Babita expects him to get a certain type of gift or the perfect gift and he fails in that too?

Originally posted by: Indulatha

I don’t know, what to say Meri Bak bak to sunavungi,

I am only one feeling like there is something missing between Hannie scene or what?. At least Hs said I couldn’t become father but he has to mention why is not able become father.

Minne lying too much. Desperately she want father and she cried in front of her friends also. She could tell her expectations too. Aajkal na mujhe na “ Minnie ka Diabetic “ ho Gaya hai. I am not able to digest fake smile alwayssss.

Aaj ka swan ye hai ki, agar maa baap dono me se ek gift dega to vo gift dono ki taraf se nahi hai kya? Baap bhi separately needs to buy gift. Why babita didn’t say ye gift dono ki taraf se 🤔🤔 generally parents discuss right 🤭

@bold, thank you for pointing this out! I was just about to say it. She ordered it only a while ago, and didn't think to include HS in it. Sure in the current situation he probably 'has to' buy her a separate gift but why could the payal have been from both of them?

Also, the idea that he has to give a gift because Ashok used to is just....

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

HS might just be tired of proving himself as her father, so he's given up on it altogether 😆

Like jao bhadd mein, main father hoon hi nahi bass. Ab jeene do mujhe 😆

When emotions don't hit the right note, everything else feels wrong. Mini didn't even ask of Babita's health and headache now that Babita herself told her about it. Yeh kya hai? Kisika bhi natural reaction would've been how are you feeling now.

@bold, you're laughing but I think that's exactly what it is. He went to the office pissed off, came back home and is pissed off again.

Originally posted by: naq5

Just a chocolate or ice cream would have been enough too. or something even very small

On my b day i used to get only ice cream so many times not any gifts in particular & i used to be happy with that

I understand that but again, how do we know he wouldn't have gotten her something once he came back home? Maybe he would've suggested they order something for dinner, or they go out and eat? Cake toh maa beti ne already kat liya so that's out of the question. Maybe he could have suggested they all go out for ice cream or to the park or whatever. But to attack him so viciously just because he didn't bring one fricking gift? Come on, I think that's a bit too much. Since when have we started to evaluate his love based on gifts?

He already feels so horrible about not knowing her birthday and having to miss out on planning something special for it but now he's being made to feel as if he failed her as a father?

I know I'm the only saying this today, but the way HS was being attacked for forgetting one fricking gift - it was a bit too much for me.

Originally posted by: tk2015

The chasm opened between Hannie was so evident today. A handshake for a birthday wish. Tissues for wiping tears. Then she saw her Hanuman uncle truly hurting and her wall broke down and she expressed what her emotions were. I don't think Mickey had anything to do with that.

The only portions where I felt his influence was when she said she will be okay if he can never be her father and she can survive. I wanted to cry and scream, "chal jhuti", at the same time. 🤣

Though, I feel this too was necessary. She doesn't see him as her hero anymore. Yes, he loves her Babes, married her, keeps her happy, but he isn't HER hero anymore. She isn't putting him on a pedestal. Her accepting that her Hanuman uncle is imperfect was a big deal for me.

Now, they can truly focus on rebuilding their relationship without wiping the hurt of the past few weeks away. They don't have to pretend to each other. The expectations are out of the way. Now they just need to be themselves and let their relationship grow organically. It'll take time, but it'll be even more beautiful.

Ironic that during the pooja day she was telling Mickey that he was her hero and she wanted him to be her mother's hero, while today she was saying that he was her mother's her (and implied that he wasn't her hero anymore).

It was painful to see HS hang on that word, and I think he knows that she doesn't see him that way anymore. I don't think it's a point of no return. I think he will be her hero again when she realizes that heroes can also make mistakes and be imperfect. She hasn't gotten to that point yet.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

Yes, I get her. I understand that she is under lot of pressure to make everything work.

I was just casually mocking about how log kya kahenge is now promoted to logon ko yeh kehna chahiye 😆

And yeah, I think they need to be honest about it. But I think they will have a mutual understanding of this issue and keep Babita in a bubble. Unfair but dunno why, on practical basis, I've a feeling I would have done that too.

So would I. You can't have fires on all fronts. Besides, this gives them the space to just be at ease with each other. It's not ideal but it's the safer path right now. They did the same about the audio and hospital stuff, and Babita still doesn't know about it. That's fine, and ironically this happens quite often between a parent and child where they have their own secrets and the other parent doesn't know.