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Originally posted by: ssuuvvii

True...He and Minnie know Babita's issue too ..He can easily talk to Minnie if he wants to but idar sbko Babita par blame krna h har baat k lie...Kuch din baad lale kahega Babita pehen ji apke mood swings dekhkar mne Geeta kumari se break.up kar lia

Mini and HS can never be wrong. Sab blame Babita pe dalo because she’s vulnerable, is not a strong personality like the two and will easily fall into their words and will feel guilty and eventually will apologize even for the mistakes she didn’t do.

Originally posted by: deefy89

This post marriage HS is getting on my nerves. The same man who said the wedding wouldn’t go on without mini’s permission cos mini comes first is now doing silly little things like stopping her meeting her own mother. Like what the hell, he’s her husband, not her keeper. I hate what they’re turning him into. It’s his own fault there’s a wedge between them.

I know he’s letting babita be in charge because she’s never been in control before but she does not seem to know how to control a home so all 3 of them needs to step up. But first and foremost they NEED TO COMMUNICATE

Hs is getting on my nerves . A love stuck puppy.

I could blame babita for slapping minnie coz thats not a way to handle teenagers and also the fact that she didnt trust her own daughter but in no way she is responsible for the dent in hs and minnie's relation .

The cd fiasco and the this is not your home fiasco was the cause of the dent and offcourse no communication.

Originally posted by: Dvanshi123

+100000000

Hs is getting on my nerves . A love stuck puppy.

I could blame babita for slapping minnie coz thats not a way to handle teenagers and also the fact that she didnt trust her own daughter but in no way she is responsible for the dent in hs and minnie's relation .

The cd fiasco and the this is not your home fiasco was the cause of the dent and offcourse no communication.

100% agree! You sound jus as frustrated. Babita is responsible for her part in the change in the relationship between herself and her daughter. Hs is responsible for the change between him and mini. He cannot mend the mother daughter relationship nor can babita mend his and mini’s. He was wrong to doubt her, knowing what a straight up person she is and how if she had a problem about the marriage she would tell them to their face.

Many ppl are saying that most fathers say “listen or there’s no place for you here” but he’s not her father, he’s a step father for about a month so doesn’t have a right to tell her that, when she will already be having trouble finding where she belongs in this new set up. He’s old enough to know this (if babita had problems after the marriage why wouldn’t mini).

Babita also needs to stop instigating hs to “prove” he’s her father by scolding her. He’s not her father and at best he’s her step father. She can’t just expect her new husband to discipline her daughter, especially when it’s been just mini and her for so long. Imagine how mini would have felt thinking all this time babita scolded her but now she’s getting her new husband to scold her, and not even telling him the whole truth about why they fought.

The adults are not acting like adults and need a kick up the backside. Ironically it’s this atmosphere and babitas “forgetfulness” that she’s got a daughter that’s going to push her to the grandparents. Thank god for the voice of reason that is NB. Only she can sort this mess out

Originally posted by: deefy89

100% agree! You sound jus as frustrated. Babita is responsible for her part in the change in the relationship between herself and her daughter. Hs is responsible for the change between him and mini. He cannot mend the mother daughter relationship nor can babita mend his and mini’s. He was wrong to doubt her, knowing what a straight up person she is and how if she had a problem about the marriage she would tell them to their face.

Many ppl are saying that most fathers say “listen or there’s no place for you here” but he’s not her father, he’s a step father for about a month so doesn’t have a right to tell her that, when she will already be having trouble finding where she belongs in this new set up. He’s old enough to know this (if babita had problems after the marriage why wouldn’t mini).

Babita also needs to stop instigating hs to “prove” he’s her father by scolding her. He’s not her father and at best he’s her step father. She can’t just expect her new husband to discipline her daughter, especially when it’s been just mini and her for so long. Imagine how mini would have felt thinking all this time babita scolded her but now she’s getting her new husband to scold her, and not even telling him the whole truth about why they fought.

The adults are not acting like adults and need a kick up the backside. Ironically it’s this atmosphere and babitas “forgetfulness” that she’s got a daughter that’s going to push her to the grandparents. Thank god for the voice of reason that is NB. Only she can sort this mess out

The thing is that it shouldn't fall on outside parties to clean up their messes. Naeem Bi did it with Babes & Minnie, and Lala did it with HS & Babita. The trio need to take up the responsibilities for themselves and take the initiative to actually mending things between them. They can't keep getting mad at each other and then walk around eggshells. If ugly fights arise during these conversations then so be it but at least they'll be tackling their issues. There won't be a Lala or Naeem Bi to clean up after them all the time.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

The thing is that it shouldn't fall on outside parties to clean up their messes. Naeem Bi did it with Babes & Minnie, and Lala did it with HS & Babita. The trio need to take up the responsibilities for themselves and take the initiative to actually mending things between them. They can't keep getting mad at each other and then walk around eggshells. If ugly fights arise during these conversations then so be it but at least they'll be tackling their issues. There won't be a Lala or Naeem Bi to clean up after them all the time.

No it shouldn’t but what else can be done when they seemed to have all lost their sense after the wedding 😃 it’s like they all need guidance even the adults and I actually think the only person who can offer it is NB.

She shouldn’t have to ofc, because babita and Hs as they adults supposed to figure all this out before the wedding and amongst their own household.

It’s like there’s something in the water that’s turned the 3 off them all weird

Originally posted by: deefy89

100% agree! You sound jus as frustrated. Babita is responsible for her part in the change in the relationship between herself and her daughter. Hs is responsible for the change between him and mini. He cannot mend the mother daughter relationship nor can babita mend his and mini’s. He was wrong to doubt her, knowing what a straight up person she is and how if she had a problem about the marriage she would tell them to their face.

Many ppl are saying that most fathers say “listen or there’s no place for you here” but he’s not her father, he’s a step father for about a month so doesn’t have a right to tell her that, when she will already be having trouble finding where she belongs in this new set up. He’s old enough to know this (if babita had problems after the marriage why wouldn’t mini).

Babita also needs to stop instigating hs to “prove” he’s her father by scolding her. He’s not her father and at best he’s her step father. She can’t just expect her new husband to discipline her daughter, especially when it’s been just mini and her for so long. Imagine how mini would have felt thinking all this time babita scolded her but now she’s getting her new husband to scold her, and not even telling him the whole truth about why they fought.

The adults are not acting like adults and need a kick up the backside. Ironically it’s this atmosphere and babitas “forgetfulness” that she’s got a daughter that’s going to push her to the grandparents. Thank god for the voice of reason that is NB. Only she can sort this mess out

Irrespective of any relationship the two people involved are responsible for making or breaking a relationship. No third person is responsible for breaking a relationship.

He said some horrible stuffs . No parent does any ehsaan on a child . Every parent brings the child in this world and they are their responsibility. Hs wasnt even keen on listening I guess coz he just wanted to proove a point.

Y does nb have to put sense to babita everytime .she is not a kid and should know how to balance.

People will be happy with Hanuman today😆

Babita tou hai hi ghanti.. jiska mood hota hai Baja deta hai.. if ppl think Babita lied to Hanuman by not giving him the full details of her argument with Mini, Hanuman too lied today

But if course it's always Babita who is wrong😆

Originally posted by: Dvanshi123

Irrespective of any relationship the two people involved are responsible for making or breaking a relationship. No third person is responsible for breaking a relationship.

He said some horrible stuffs . No parent does any ehsaan on a child . Every parent brings the child in this world and they are their responsibility. Hs wasnt even keen on listening I guess coz he just wanted to proove a point.

Y does nb have to put sense to babita everytime .she is not a kid and should know how to balance.

I’m hating how he keeps stopping mini seeing babita. As tho he’s in charge of babita. Pre wedding hs would have been mediator but now they’ve made it seem like he used mini to get to babes

Hanuman conveniently putting the whole blame on Babita is hilarious😆 and then getting over his so called hurt just as easily is funny too😆

Originally posted by: deefy89

No it shouldn’t but what else can be done when they seemed to have all lost their sense after the wedding 😃 it’s like they all need guidance even the adults and I actually think the only person who can offer it is NB.

She shouldn’t have to ofc, because babita and Hs as they adults supposed to figure all this out before the wedding and amongst their own household.

It’s like there’s something in the water that’s turned the 3 off them all weird

If they're truly lost and wish to seek guidance then I'm all for it. That's what elders and friends are there for after all. My issue is that they don't seem to have the initiative of wanting to solve their problems. They just keep living in their presumptions, avoid each other, blame each other or just simmer in their anger.

HS knows that his relationship with Minnie is suffering, so why does he keep doing what Babita asks him to do? Just put his foot down and tell that if he did what she wants, then he'll end up ruining whatever little he has left with his Veer Balika.

Babes and Minnie will patch up to whatever extent but what about HS and Minnie? Will they get that chance or will it be squashed by Babita's interference again?

I'm just really frustrated with all of them to a certain level and don't really want to get into the depths of it. I'd rather focus on whatever light and good moments we get.