The complicated web of relationships - Page 9

Excellent analysis of the episode by you, Anu! 🤗

chalo at least someone sees that Babita is also at fault in all this.

One thing i would like to know is when was babita tortured by Sr khuranas. there are one or two people like lovely in joint family. you have to deal with them in your own way. Most people will side with their own khoon over the DIL but i do remember dadu calling out lovely for her taunts. She did have support too.

Mini is very right in telling Babita that she too dint stand up for herself so she cannot only blame the sr khurnas for her situation. Babita dint even allow mini to speak up when she wanted to. If you dont ask how are you expected to get anything

Why did babita keep a relation with khuranas fully knowing how they are even after her divorce with ashok. She made a cake for beeji and sent it through mini. She was so happy when they moved to NB s place. mini was only one of reason she kept in touch with them. it is very clear she had spent 17 yrs of her life with them. she had no one who would care or she could look up to as elders or family. her own brother had not kept ties with her. so she needed them emotionally. now that she has HS & NB in her life she dosent want to have to do anything with them. Also all these years even after divorce dint she know that they never gave her her proper rights then why did she care for them then. just because she has said what was in her mind the care vanishes.

i still believe whatever her reason for sending ashok away- weather it was good for ashok, mini or herself or everyone involved , when she made a deal with ashok to release him and send him away she was in a way taking upon the responsibility of Sr khuranas. Which i think she was wiling to do at that point. Suddenly if she decides to not have to do anything with khuranas she needs to inform ashok to come and take his parents away. It cannot all come on mini because she wants to shy away from it now after wanting to do it initially. Mini is very young to do all this alone, has a career to make & grow & after looking after babita all these years she cannot be tied up again with responsibilities of Sr khuranas now. I know Babita is not forcing mini to take responsibility of them but suddenly not wanting to have them in her life is as good as putting the onus on her because there is no one left other than her.

lol I thought this show is about women empowerment but the audience is full of regressive mindset😲Babita is bad for not wanting her ex inlaws who were abusive in her new home😲irl people always cut ties with inlaws in most cases,woh khuranas jaise ho to phir to never ever talk to themI hope people do'nt read this posts and do this stuff irl.Audience in Indian tv show circle wo'nt ever grow up🤣tabhi non tv related forums make fun of them😆and ye buzurg h to saat khoon maaf ,mentality ne sabki bara baja di h🤣 advice for real life,you have no responsibility towards your abusive cheater ex husband's parents who were crappy to you.Do yourself a favour woman do'nt think you owe them anything,tumne sabka theka nahi le rakha h

Originally posted by: porankisrilata

True... Babita is just thinking only the one side of the story... But the part does have her daughter and the elder khuranas with bond which she can never break... That she have to get it... U cannot force it kids not to meet their grandparents.. We know that Khurana were wrong but not completey...as said by Minni and HS Babita never claimed her rights... Ek kahawat hai... Anyay karna jitna bura hai use sehna bhi utna hi bura hai... She can't blame them for those 17 yrs completely... Yes she did seva and khuranans made her stay for the same as well and they never treated her like family when they have to choose her and their kids they always chose Their kids... But u know Babita gave them that chance to do with her....

And just staying away from them will. Not erase her past she have to deal with it just like how she dealt with Ashok...with Ashok Minni was not attached but with khuranas Minni is very much attached she can't make Minni to cut ties with them just like that...

Exactly....you can’t just run away from the past. It has to be worked through.

Babita still needs to reflect more clearly on those 17 years. It’s a jumble of let down expectations and resentments that built up over time. Daadu Beeji were selfish but they weren’t exactly monsters to her. So she has to reflect why suddenly she’s only filled with resentment towards them when few months back she was saying things like she appreciated Beeji for supporting her with getting a degree. She wants to blame them alone for her marriage with Ashok not working out....without reflecting on the fact that she didn’t ask for her own rights.

Perspectives can get one sided. It’s human nature...which is why we need an objective outside view for context.

Originally posted by: inlieu

Fears that need to be talked through... surely we see a pattern that could be better addressed by.... a therapist? I wonder if they will be bold enough to show her going to see one. HS and Minnie can only do so much. She needs an expert.

Good point. She definitely looks like she needs serious counseling, given how she is twisting a lot of things inside her head.

But I don’t know if they will be bold enough to go there. The kind of personality that Babita is...who barely opens up to her loved ones that show so much patience with her....she’s unlikely to open up to a stranger 🤷‍♀️

Originally posted by: inlieu

I don't blame Minnie at all, and especially not for hiding this because as you said, there's no scope to have a proper conversation about it without all hell breaking loose. Doesn't mean it's the right way but Minnie's showing signs of being tired of babying her mother too. I think her outburst is partly because of that. Also it makes sense why HS would ask about the Khuranas staying over by talking about it from NB's perspective instead of Minnie's - Babita just wouldn't understand this. Sure, it's better to tell her directly but she's not at that stage where she can maturely handle things. This can't go on for too long, he'll have to stop shielding Babita at some point.

I know things haven't been so good between HS and Minnie recently but I am still really glad he's around. She needs an anchor of sorts as this whole situation with her grandparents is making her feel quite insecure. That look on her face when she overheard Irfaan... jeez.

I completely agree. I don’t see any hypocrisy from HS there. He handled it as best as he could given that Babita is in no state to be reasonable right now. And yes, this is only a temporary solution....in the long term, Babita can’t be shielded from everything for the sake of the “no tears” rule he has. Lol

Yes, Mini does look exhausted by Babita even now....but again, Babita leaves no scope for her loved ones to talk to her directly. So they have to manage around her. Remains to be seen if they all learn something from this.

I want to see a convo between HS and Mini about this grandparents situation in more detail. He saw the look on her face but I still want them to talk.

Originally posted by: Charaiveti

lol I thought this show is about women empowerment but the audience is full of regressive mindset😲Babita is bad for not wanting her ex inlaws who were abusive in her new home😲irl people always cut ties with inlaws in most cases,woh khuranas jaise ho to phir to never ever talk to themI hope people do'nt read this posts and do this stuff irl.Audience in Indian tv show circle wo'nt ever grow up🤣tabhi non tv related forums make fun of them😆and ye buzurg h to saat khoon maaf ,mentality ne sabki bara baja di h🤣 advice for real life,you have no responsibility towards your abusive cheater ex husband's parents who were crappy to you.Do yourself a favour woman do'nt think you owe them anything,tumne sabka theka nahi le rakha h

No body said that Babita is wrong... She have full. Right to take her own decisions but she dint have right to force them on Minni even if she is her mom... Mini is almost 18 and mostly she have only raised her to be independent then why is she expecting Minni to say yes to whatever she says....

And most importantly nobody is forgiving Khurana not even Minni have but she is considering them bcoz they are her Dada dadi and old age ppl who are almost abandoned by their kids... Then what do suppose to do leave them on streets if irfan asks them to go or taking them to hospital doesn't means Minni have forgiven them bcoz sh knows they are equally responsible... Is that the case then HS should not have taken care of his father who was worst than Khuranas but he did bcoz he was his father and his duty but he had never forgiven him for abusing his mom.... The same goes to Minni.... It's her duty to take care of them as their kids are not bothered about them....

But neither Minni nor HS are forcing her to forgive them... Bcoz they know it's difficult for her... But she also needs to understand that Minni can't break the ties just like that.... If that was case then she should not go to Khurana when Minni was suffering from depression....

And getting away from past doesn't means to run away from it... I have to face it and should be in peace with it so that it shouldn't effect ur present and future....

Originally posted by: Jiarao

3. Once she becomes indifferent to Ashok and Khuraanas their relationship may actually evolve into true companionship. I liked it yesterday that he did not mask his worries with smile infront of her. She could notice it.

I liked that she sensed he was worried about something too but I still don’t really get a sense of a unit from them.

Babita is too much in her own head all the time....she’s more comfortable with him now, yeah but the sense of true companionship isn’t there.

Remains to be seen how/if the writers develop it to that extent 🤷‍♀️😆

Hopefully Babita won't have the brilliant idea of buying the khuranas their own old home back 😕

Also, about the BA exams of Babita, Biji has also said that she made her finish it just so she could tell her neighbors that her DIL is college educated... Purely selfish motivation on her side

I don't think BTW that Babita would have the time to care fore the khuranas as before anyways cause of her own business which she should be back to soon. They have felt quite entitled though in the past, e. g. The mango ice cream scene.

The Cd issue is ambivalent but that might even have been a coincidence... Or has she kept it on purpose, I can't remember the episode when she got rid of the other stuff?

And as for the Mickey and Preet thing, I rather suspect they would be discovered by Rano and she might want them either to break up or to get engaged.... This might be the beginning of the end of Preet & Mickey

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Exactly....you can’t just run away from the past. It has to be worked through.

Babita still needs to reflect more clearly on those 17 years. It’s a jumble of let down expectations and resentments that built up over time. Daadu Beeji were selfish but they weren’t exactly monsters to her. So she has to reflect why suddenly she’s only filled with resentment towards them when few months back she was saying things like she appreciated Beeji for supporting her with getting a degree. She wants to blame them alone for her marriage with Ashok not working out....without reflecting on the fact that she didn’t ask for her own rights.

Perspectives can get one sided. It’s human nature...which is why we need an objective outside view for context.

Exactly Babita needs to understand that... She have to make peace with her past so that she can have peaceful life further....

@bold so true...