First of all, a big hug for writing this one🤗...Secondly kaan pakad kar maafi for being so late...i feel the scenes you have highlighted hold the same importance in any girl's life as they do in Mish's life.......so be ready for long reply
...my replies in green😳
Originally posted by: Onyourface
Very rarely I make posts like these, but today just couldn't stop myself from writing this. Actually wanted to write this on weekends, but was too lazy to write, but thank god today I got one more point to add to my post.
I thought of making a seperate post for this wonderful human being who is actually goals in every sense, husband goals, father goals, human being goals. I remember once Mishti asked him playfully"aapko sab kaise pata chal jaata hai " and bade Papa said "meri teesri aankh hai" that was said in a fun way but it actually signifies the thinking and understanding capacity of this man, he always analysis the situation from all angles, just because he loves mishti or kuhu or rajshri or any other member of the family, that dosent mean he will favour that person, he looks at things with a 3D lense not a 2D one, not at all a biased lense which has a backdrop of some assumptions and presumptions , always asking the right questions , having the patience to hear the answers and taking his own time to make the decisions. There are some scenes which never really were the highlights of the episode, but for me they were better than the actual highlights of the episode.
I absolutely love their camaraderie in that holi scene😃
Going down the memory lane with Bade Papa:
"Lekin ek Ghar Ko maa Laxmi aur maa Saraswati , dono ki zarurat hoti hai"
There was a little jugalbandi between Varsha and badi maa regarding regarding who is better, symbolising kuhu and Mishti in the conversation, but it was bade Papa who interrupted and said we need both in the family thereby meaning we can't sacrifice one for the other. Just like universe needs Laxmi( wealth) and Saraswati ( knowledge) to move forward , in the same way, If we need kuhu, we need Mishti as well and vice versa, the family is incomplete without the two, and so the universe.
This is one of my favourite scenes which set the tone for future. While both Varsha and BM stating their opinion but it was BP who shared his wisdom with them and us. I was little skeptical about Mish's treatment in the house but BP gave that much needed assurance that he will never fail his daughter.👏👏
"Maa baap Apne bacchho ko pinjra nahi, pankh dete hai"
Another significant symbolism here, this was the time when mishti demanded courtship , but rajshri wasn't agreeing, she feared naman those days and felt RVs will not agree to the courtship condition , bade Papa then asks Mishti if she really wants to give up, even after mish says yes she is ready to give up her courtship condition, bade Papa makes her understand how right she is and shouldn't fear, also advices rajshri to support her daughter, he didn't agree to rajshri's demands just because she was his wife, and was under stress.
here he made Mish understand that if you are convinced about something ,don't pay heed towards anybody...How much I adored BP in this scene where i was absolutely sure that BM will emotionally blackmail Mish for letting go of her condition...BP has not only given her wings but made sure she flies👏👏
"Kabhi kabhi humeim samajh nahi aata konsi baat sahi hai, konsi baat galat hai Lekin jab kabhi aisa Lage, tab na logon ki sunni chahie na duniya ki, sirf apne dil ki sunni chahie, kyunki Dil hamesha sach kehta hai"
This was when mishti broke the gordhana and the same night kuhu in a confused state asks bade Papa, why is everyone against Mishti if she is right?, The above lines were answer to kuhu's question, notice carefully here, he says "sirf apne dil ki" he dosent say apne maa baap ki apne parivaar ki or anything, sirf "apne dil" ki , teaching them that your answer is within you, if your mind has raised a question, search the answer within your heart, it will answer you back, spend some "alone" time with yourself to find it. However good or bad you are, your conscience self always speaks the truth..Because dil ki voice is soul ki voice, soul will always give you the right answer. No wonder mishti and kuhu always follow their heart, kuhu kuch zyada hi literally leti hai, vo baat alag hai !
I feels Mish usually follows his philosphy of spending some alone time and searching for answers.But poor girl faltered this time so he was right there to guide her. Never he said he will take the decision and make things easier for her. He always makes sure he is right beside her. He is like that light which does not walk the path for you but be your guide to help you walk⭐️
"Mishti un anath bachho ke liye gayi hai, hamare jhagde un baccho se zyada zaruri toh nahi ho sakte na"
This was when mishti wanted to go to champaner along with Abir but badima refused saying us ladke se ab koi rishta nahi rakhna, bade papa again takes the right stand, work is above everything, more than that we should keep our personal biases aside when it comes to helping the needy, it's nice to have emotions but very necessary to also know when to control your emotions, it's not at all an easy task to forget your differences and do something for people you don't even know. True sign of a good human being here.
and the stark difference between Meeku and Him
"Jahan par log aapse yeh umeed rakhe ki aap hamesha sar jhuka ke rakhenge, vaha se sar uthakar laut Jaana hi behtar hota hai"
Never compromise on your self respect, self respect is definitely above your love, this he said to mishti when people were blaming her for the party date mismatch , no wonder bade papa never wanted kuhu to enter that kabootarkhaana, he can easily sense the kind of people out there, and that's why he was skeptical about kuhu going there, he even asked right questions to kuhu and Kunal both, but sadly had to give in for family's and kuhu's happiness , and no wonder, bade Papa though believed mishti but was still upset with her for the haldi fiasco, not because she was rude with her family but because she, to some extent, compromised on her self respect in the process.....again when there was a chance , he asked the right questions to Abir and mishti as well, this time much more satisfied with the answers. More than love, he wants that people respect his daughters for what they are, and his daughters respect themselves too. He even described Meenu as "vo mausam jo Roz badalte hain, uspe bharosa nahi kiya jaata" ..lol.
I want to compare this one with the previous point. In the previous case, he was more concerned with the greater good for the orphaned children rather than his petty feud with Meenakshi. Meenakshi had an altercation directly with him. But he did not let that become his ego and supported Mish. While in the second case,Mish was asked to apologise publicly. He not only stopped her from apologising but also give two hoots to Meenu. I remeber his dialogue "koi bhi baat beti ke samman se badi nahi hoti"👏👏.
Also, giving the audience an important lesson when to let go off the things and when to hold your grounds.
"Jab hum ghar ki chokhat ke bahar jaaye, toh hamare mann ek hone chahie"
This is the most significant thing for a family to be together, whatever the differences are, should stay internally within the family and shouldn't go outside, because there are people out there like meenakshi rajvansh who are waiting for that one chance to play the game, during this entire shaadi fiasco, she tried her best to break the maheshwaris firstly by using kuhu ,when she learns from Kunal that kuhu hates Mishti, her planning started in full speed. When she sensed Mishti feels indebted to mahs, she used her against mahs, and she would have been successful too agar neend mein bhi hoshiyar beta jaagta nahi....that's why when representing the family in the outside world, behaving as a strong unit is very important.
👏👏👏..I love this scene...How compassionate and understanding he is, he is aware that Varsha n jas will not be happy with his descision for mishbir union.....rather ignoring them, he tried to make them realise how this is the right thing to do...I cannot fathom such conversation in RV house...
We have always seen bade Papa stand for the right, giving befitting answers to Meenu, and treating everyone with love and respect ,whether it's for kuhu or Mishti, he was never in the foreground but always in the background supporting everyone in the family, just like how our backbone supports our body, Maheshwaris without bade Papa would have been a scattered family, a family Jahan koi "asli saval karta nahi , Jahan koi asli jawab deta nahi, Jahan koi asli baat karta nahi" ...just like the RV parivaar.
The biggest takeaways from bade Papa are to concentrate on being a good human being rather than being a good father, mother, daughter etc, always analyse the situation from all perspectives, not just from the perspective of the person you love, and always try asking right questions, because asking only right questions will help you to find right answers and I really appreciate such characters like BP, very rarely you find them on ITV.
Abir calls Mishti badi ma ki parchayi, though Abir has his own set of flaws, but he is so much like bade papa, and definitely has a lot of potential to be bade papa's parchayi !!
So if you have managed to read this, thank you so much for your time, I would definitely like to read your thoughts on this.
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BP is the GOALS❤️
...hey I remember them word to word , had to see the epi to write it word to word 
Anupamaa
