Why my heart still goes out to Anurag

After the recent foolish act of Anurag I was wondering how come I still am not enough angry on him. This act of suicide could have caused so much pain to his family and friends. But even after all this I sympathize with him. Why ?

From the very first episode of the show Anurag was shown to be a man who was capable and successful in all aspects of life. Someone who would give up his life for his family and someone who didn't believe in love or never even wanted to experience it.

Then came along Prerna and Everything he knew changed. The guy who thought love was an unnecessary complication..... fell head over heels for the girl who told him the story of a thornbird. Little did he know his life was fated to be one. The guy who never wanted a love life....... started dreaming of a life filled wid love wid the one he loved. The guy who never thought beyond his family..........was ready to fight wid fate for the girl who made him see the colors of life he didn't even know existed.

The guy who knew nothing about love now knew nothing but love for the girl. She changed him the workaholic person to the madly in love person. She the dreamless eyes dreamy wid dreams .

And then......she left.

If it wasn't for Prerna .......Anurag would hv become very similar to Mr Bajaj ( not exactly him)...... businessman who understood deals and nothing more , family guy for whom his family mattered more than the whole wide world , a married man who treated his wife wid respect...........all this would hv happened if Prerna had never happened to him.

She is the one who changed him and then left him a changed man.Madly in love for the only time in his life , lost widout her and left alone to deal wid his heartbreak.........I can't help but feel bad for Anurag who wouldn't hv been like dis if only he hadn't fallen in love wid Prerna.

PS : This is not a bashing post for anyone ( not even Prerna) . Just expressing a few feelings. You are free to express yours too. Just don't fight.

Amazing...I was thinking same..no matter what future is..we can't forget past..I like Bajaj..but my sympathies r with Anu..old love can't be forgotten..old memories can't be erased...

I am just copy pasting what I wrote in another thread.

About someone who loved, lost and changed!

Well, thank you for the warm welcome everyone and as most of you know that I am completely a story lover and not a shipper, so I'd probably not get into the regular argument of who is better, etc etc.

I am here to talk about Anurag, the man who loved like there's no tomorrow, lost like no one should and changed in desperation.

Tonight I can write the saddest lines.
I loved her, and sometimes she loved me too.

Tonight I can write the saddest lines.
To think that I do not have her. To feel that I have lost her.

To hear the immense night, still more immense without her.
And the verse falls to the soul like dew to the pasture.

What does it matter that my love could not keep her.
The night is starry and she is not with me.

Another’s. She will be another’s. As she was before my kisses.

Her voice, her bright body. Her infinite eyes.

I no longer love her, that’s certain, but maybe I love her.

Love is so short, forgetting is so long.

Because through nights like this one I held her in my arms

my soul is not satisfied that it has lost her.

-Pablo Neruda

Anurag’s misery is heart wrenching to be precise. And, no matter what people say, I feel his pain, leaves a hole in my heart. A life that he dreamt and now a life that he has is a nightmare!

What drives a man to this verge that he changes, its love, despair and tragedy that makes you choke in grief?

We all want him to move on and give a damn but how can he?

And, that’s where the moral boundaries blur. People’s actions are always driven by motivations, his by desperation. One last chance to bring back the one whom he cannot live without.

I particularly connect his desperate action to jump in front of the car to a particular vacant resignation. -What does Mr. Bajaj have that I don’t? Mujhme Kya kami hai? To Shivi. That self-doubt happens, no? That teeny Meeny sense of loss shatters your confidence, right?

Am I not good enough? What do I lack? Maybe, maybe if I think like the other man, I might get his way.

Psychology is complex and in despair and rejection, we often try to emulate the actions of others. This is not Anurag we know? This is the Anurag who isn’t sure, who finds himself in self-doubt, swings between hope and misery, shuttles between confidence and self-doubt. Do we even get to see such vulnerabilities! Only when you lose a love so Consuming, you become self-aware or self-destructive.

When he fell across on Moloy’s Chest, he did admit, this is not him. In his heart, he knows he might be wrong but love drives him, loss drives him and hope drives him.

It’s a complex drive ranging from extreme optimism to the depths of cavernous gloom.

This instability is driving him crazy. It’s not actually about a man who loved, lost and is not ready to give up. It’s about a man who loved, lost and has become empty as a person. Emptiness is consuming like love! One leaves you punched with a hole in the heart and the other makes you giddy headed with excitement. But, both consumes.

Anurag and Prerna are like fire that consumes, when together or even without each other! Consuming and complex!

P. S- This post is not about what should be done or butchering or what is logical. When love consumes, nothing is logical anymore.

I cant hate him . I disliked and disapproved him a lot during komo's time and it's the same , from the time of swiss episodes ..but now i can't..because I can only see a man who is seeking answers and validation which he knows is there but still ..craving for it..all for love..besharam badtameez paglon jaisa pyar, pyar aisa hi hota hai..the guy is all heart and no brains right now...He is like a blindfolded man fighting in a ring and he is being portrayed the villain in this fight . Quite unfair..he has a theory in mind that prerna was forced into this marriage..tick. he is right . He thinks bajaj wants to harm him and his family. Yes it's very much possible.. he thinks prerna still loves him. Tick. He is right. He thinks they will be back again ..yes this is also possible. Why not ? He is trying to prove prerna wrong . He is not wrong in this. Why can't prerna come out with the truth ? And why and how does she expect him to move on without knowing why his life was toppled one fine day?

My analytical mind says he should leave prerna to her fate but love is always from heart...it's him and his love , if he wants to fight for it , he should . There are certain exclusive rights between lovers. We hurt those who we love the most and these two are doing just that . So I dont see the stalking or obsession or whatever.. infact I have started understanding him a little now..

Irony is today..like weirdly I was thinking the same. I cannot see him like that anymore. The 2 day ago episode where he was explaining to her on why he did it..his voice sounded like young boy who is about to cry..just broke me.

Atleast from my view..atleast he loved him passionately..and loved him from inside out..which we cant say much about Pre anymore. For me despite how much he want her back is irritating some..but for me atleast it showed his love. Only 1 thing that upset with Pre character is not seeing his pain and guilt of baby is the only thing..that will forever be in my heart to hate her forever.

Poor Anurag just needs a closure.....that's all..a reason why Prerna left him. Or prob the news of pre pregnancy will jump start him in believing that pre has moved on. Hopefully he comes out of this phase sooner rather than later. Pre is so detached, It is a torture to watch her.. I just want her not to show any liking for Anu in the future. She should stay with bajaj. Then I want Bajaj to reveal that it was all his and komolika's plan.

I was thinking of making a similar post glad that you made it. 😃🤗

You've expressed it beautifully 👏

If I ask myself whether I'm disappointed with him? Yes I am but if I ask myself whether I hate him? The answer is NO.

Why and how do I hate a man who has lost everything and is unable to find out the reason where he went wrong? He is unable to find a way out of the mess and with no support for himself. His only support his Baba and Prerna both aren't with him in the real sense. The way he went to Moloy and said.... main apni zindagi hi to maang raha hu... that was so heart wrenching 😭

This line has such a deep meaning in itself and just shows how important is Prerna for him. He placed her much above his life and his family. I don't support his obsession but my heart goes out to this lover who is made to believe that his lover left him for money....

I know people say that why is he not able to find out the truth When he can see through her eyes that she is hiding something. I say he did try whatever he could but with this clouded state of mind no-one can really think straight.

When there is a sea storm how can a boat remain stable and on its path without turbulence. It needs a strong anchor to hold on to the boat which is lacking for him. So he has chosen a wrong path but surely he'll come out stronger as his basic principles and morality still are the same he hasnt lost any of them.

So I'm waiting for the day when he himself comes out of the situation and show to everyone his real self.

We all are waiting for our Anurag Basu 👍🏼

Yes both onu, the character and Parth, as actor making us empathise with him, although he did a very wrong thing for undeserving pre, my heart goes out to him

Originally posted by: tinurao

Amazing...I was thinking same..no matter what future is..we can't forget past..I like Bajaj..but my sympathies r with Anu..old love can't be forgotten..old memories can't be erased...

It's not about old memories but I feel that Anurag changed because he fell for Prerna.......and she left him to live like that.

Originally posted by: manzilmukul

I am just copy pasting what I wrote in another thread.

About someone who loved, lost and changed!

Well, thank you for the warm welcome everyone and as most of you know that I am completely a story lover and not a shipper, so I'd probably not get into the regular argument of who is better, etc etc.

I am here to talk about Anurag, the man who loved like there's no tomorrow, lost like no one should and changed in desperation.

Tonight I can write the saddest lines.
I loved her, and sometimes she loved me too.

Tonight I can write the saddest lines.
To think that I do not have her. To feel that I have lost her.

To hear the immense night, still more immense without her.
And the verse falls to the soul like dew to the pasture.

What does it matter that my love could not keep her.
The night is starry and she is not with me.

Another’s. She will be another’s. As she was before my kisses.

Her voice, her bright body. Her infinite eyes.

I no longer love her, that’s certain, but maybe I love her.

Love is so short, forgetting is so long.

Because through nights like this one I held her in my arms

my soul is not satisfied that it has lost her.

-Pablo Neruda

Anurag’s misery is heart wrenching to be precise. And, no matter what people say, I feel his pain, leaves a hole in my heart. A life that he dreamt and now a life that he has is a nightmare!

What drives a man to this verge that he changes, its love, despair and tragedy that makes you choke in grief?

We all want him to move on and give a damn but how can he?

And, that’s where the moral boundaries blur. People’s actions are always driven by motivations, his by desperation. One last chance to bring back the one whom he cannot live without.

I particularly connect his desperate action to jump in front of the car to a particular vacant resignation. -What does Mr. Bajaj have that I don’t? Mujhme Kya kami hai? To Shivi. That self-doubt happens, no? That teeny Meeny sense of loss shatters your confidence, right?

Am I not good enough? What do I lack? Maybe, maybe if I think like the other man, I might get his way.

Psychology is complex and in despair and rejection, we often try to emulate the actions of others. This is not Anurag we know? This is the Anurag who isn’t sure, who finds himself in self-doubt, swings between hope and misery, shuttles between confidence and self-doubt. Do we even get to see such vulnerabilities! Only when you lose a love so Consuming, you become self-aware or self-destructive.

When he fell across on Moloy’s Chest, he did admit, this is not him. In his heart, he knows he might be wrong but love drives him, loss drives him and hope drives him.

It’s a complex drive ranging from extreme optimism to the depths of cavernous gloom.

This instability is driving him crazy. It’s not actually about a man who loved, lost and is not ready to give up. It’s about a man who loved, lost and has become empty as a person. Emptiness is consuming like love! One leaves you punched with a hole in the heart and the other makes you giddy headed with excitement. But, both consumes.

Anurag and Prerna are like fire that consumes, when together or even without each other! Consuming and complex!

P. S- This post is not about what should be done or butchering or what is logical. When love consumes, nothing is logical anymore.

Wow !!!!

This so beautifully written❤️

Couldn't hv described Anurag's state better than this !!! As you said.......it's easy to say self destruction is not the way ( even I say it ).......but understanding the psychology of person who goes through the pain is difficult to even assess.