The basic unanswered question - Page 5

Originally posted by: Indulatha

I think Hs ki dil me ye baath chub Gaya hai ki , mother daughter doesn’t need him. They both don’t show any love towards Hs. Mini to bath to Karti hai lekin abhi tak papa nahi mana hanuman uncle hi bolti hai yahi bath usne poocha mini se vo koi assurance nahi diya hai ki aap hi mere papa hai,Babita ki bare me mai bath nahi karna chavungi frustration yaar sorry.

Baat bohot hi zyaada chubi hai.

I don't know why but I get the feeling that even if he had appeased Babita yesterday, what she told him had surprised him to a great extent but also increased his fear of losing her due to her antics one day.

Mother and daughter are such a tight unit that he still feels like a third wheel on some level, he can't seem to have an equation with one independent of the other and that means if one goes, so will the other. I also think that he's trying not to upset the apple cart so he won't bring that CD topic up. It was very very painful for them all.

I know we are saying that Minnie could have said that she considered HS her father when he questioned her, but I don't think Minnie was there yet. She hasn't ever expected him to take that role on officially, and this wedding wasn't considered to be a means for her to get a father. I don't think she's thought of him that way yet. Abhi bhi waqt hai. Minnie is usually honest about such things so if her first instinct wasn't to shout out that he was her father, it is clear that her mind and heart have yet to make that journey towards fully accepting HS.

Originally posted by: inlieu

And I think this is normal too, and so Poonam had hinted as well. When kids are grown up parents can relax a bit and put their own needs first sometimes as a couple.

Minnie isn't a little baby so in some cases right now, she can take a backseat for a few days while Hanita sort out their issues. They didn't have a normal marriage or a relationship, and too much is going on the at the moment.

How can they give Minnie anything if they can't deal with each other?

I disagree. This is about finding a balance. No one is stopping them from dealing with each other but to do it at the cost of the child you both claim comes first in your lives....that is where they both failed....especially for not realizing the sensitivity of what they are dealing with before jumping into the marriage on tall claims of being a family.....they are now way less a family than they were before the wedding.

I’m not sure why it’s become so difficult to acknowledge that HS has floundered in handling Mini this time🤷‍♀️😂.... it’s quite obvious in the story but people are tiptoeing around it in their love for HS.

Babita se toh koi expectation hi nahin raha kisi ko but HS also mishandled this and still isn’t stepping up for Mini cuz he’s caught up in Majnu mode for Babita.

Mini isn’t a baby, but she deserved more sensitivity from the adults who claimed to want to do everything for her.

Originally posted by: naq5

I think she has moved HS down from the pedestal and has stopped expecting from him for herself. With babita she still expects. Also even before between babita and HS mini has chosen whoever needed her more or whoever she felt was correct at that time. So its not that if HS is rude to babita she is going to behave with him in the same way she would treat some other person. She did understand him when there was the forced sorry thing too.

I also agree that HS dint step up when mini required it this time. He was too caught up with his own marriage and hurt that he failed to see mini who is growing distant from him. These days the tu first hai thing dint really matter to him.

I actually thought he was telling sorry for telling mini is the 3rd person between them. But he said sorry for hurting babita. So that's what he thinks their relationship has become just related due to babita.

I know the tu first hai is genuine, but that's what the writers are trying to show that it's easier said than done. Sirf baap bolne se koi baap nahin ban jaata. He has no experience parenting anyone and just like Babita has to learn to be a wife, he has to learn to be a father. It won't be that easy.

This is pretty common in remarriages when one spouse has never been a parent before.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

I disagree. This is about finding a balance. No one is stopping them from dealing with each other but to do it at the cost of the child you both claim comes first in your lives....that is where they both failed....especially for not realizing the sensitivity of what they are dealing with before jumping into the marriage on tall claims of being a family.....they are now way less a family than they were before the wedding.

I’m not sure why it’s become so difficult to acknowledge that HS has floundered in handling Mini this time🤷‍♀️😂.... it’s quite obvious in the story but people are tiptoeing around it in their love for HS.

Babita se toh koi expectation hi nahin raha kisi ko but HS also mishandled this and still isn’t stepping up for Mini cuz he’s caught up in Majnu mode for Babita.

Mini isn’t a baby, but she deserved more sensitivity from the adults who claimed to want to do everything for her.

I don't know if you've read my other posts here, but I am also saying that I don't agree with what HS has been doing. Rather, what he has not been doing. He's the adult here, he should make a move to sort this out. I know he is afraid/hurt but he has to move on from that and take action.

I am not saying they should not prioritize Minnie, but I am saying what they are doing is normal, because real people, couples falter too. They focus on their issues with each other at times like this and everything else becomes secondary in those moments. It's not because they don't care or have forgotten their priorities, rather because their own issues become too big in their minds and they block everything else out.

That's what I meant by how can they give Minnie anything if they can't deal with each other? They are consumed by their own frustrations and forgetting the big picture.

Originally posted by: inlieu

I don't know why HS has been silent but I want to know what he's been thinking since the CD fiasco. Even if he didn't talk about it that day, I would expect him to put aside his paternal concerns and just be her Hanuman Uncle. I know that the first time he expected something from her, his world came crashing but that doesn't mean that he doesn't try or that he doesn't even approach her.

He's the adult here and even if he's hurt he can't let this awkwardness lie between them for long.

And yet that is exactly what’s he’s been doing since many days now 🤷‍♀️

Mini is the one being the adult between them...his emotions defeated him and he couldn’t step up to the mantle of parent at a crucial time. So is he really ready to be her father then? 🤷‍♀️

Maybe he can only manage to focus on being Babita’s husband since she will always be a handful...lol....he has no energy left to parent Mini

Upar se rosy glow of romance mein even harder to think of complicated teenage daughter 🤷‍♀️😂

Originally posted by: AreYaar

And yet that is exactly what’s he’s been doing since many days now 🤷‍♀️

Mini is the one being the adult between them...his emotions defeated him and he couldn’t step up to the mantle of parent at a crucial time. So is he really ready to be her father then? 🤷‍♀️

Maybe he can only manage to focus on being Babita’s husband since she will always be a handful...lol....he has no energy left to parent Mini

Upar se rosy glow of romance mein even harder to think of complicated teenage daughter 🤷‍♀️😂

Kahe ka rosy glow? HS shaadi ke din se hi ro raha hai. 🤣

He has always told Babita that he can't handle it when mother-daughter both have issues. I guess this is the evidence! LOL!

Originally posted by: inlieu

I don't know if you've read my other posts here, but I am also saying that I don't agree with what HS has been doing. Rather, what he has not been doing. He's the adult here, he should make a move to sort this out. I know he is afraid/hurt but he has to move on from that and take action.

I am not saying they should not prioritize Minnie, but I am saying what they are doing is normal, because real people, couples falter too. They focus on their issues with each other at times like this and everything else becomes secondary in those moments. It's not because they don't care or have forgotten their priorities, rather because their own issues become too big in their minds and they blocek everything else out.

That's what I meant by how can they give Minnie anything if they can't deal with each other? They are consumed by their own frustrations and forgetting the big picture.

No, I haven’t read your posts, sorry. The few random posts I saw about the last two epis were all focused on people being excited about HB romance or whether or not they had sex🤷‍♀️😂

Hardly anyone was discussing HS ka failure with Mini. And for me personally that’s what’s been pinching me more.

For me, this isn’t a question of what’s normal or not....it’s about execution....all the characters in the story flounder at some point...flaws are human.

But whatever the writers are doing right now with the imbalance of equations between the trio is not really satisfying me as a viewer in terms of storyline execution 🤷‍♀️....the wholesome feel that I used to get from their scenes has diluted a lot. I don’t feel as much for HB now and a lot of that stems from HS being made this ineffective and wary with Mini. Their relationship was always the core of the show to me and without that sab pheeka hai for me 🤷‍♀️

Originally posted by: AreYaar

No, I haven’t read your posts, sorry. The few random posts I saw about the last two epis were all focused on people being excited about HB romance or whether or not they had sex🤷‍♀️😂

Hardly anyone was discussing HS ka failure with Mini. And for me personally that’s what’s been pinching me more.

For me, this isn’t a question of what’s normal or not....it’s about execution....all the characters in the story flounder at some point...flaws are human.

But whatever the writers are doing right now with the imbalance of equations between the trio is not really satisfying me as a viewer in terms of storyline execution 🤷‍♀️....the wholesome feel that I used to get from their scenes has diluted a lot. I don’t feel as much for HB now and a lot of that stems from HS being made this ineffective and wary with Mini. Their relationship was always the core of the show to me and without that sab pheeka hai for me 🤷‍♀️

@bold, Ironic, right? Considering this show was supposed to be about mother-daughter?!

I agree with you, that PB touch seems to be missing and some of the tracks feel forced and unconvincing. They have clearly been bitten by the TRP bug.

Originally posted by: inlieu

Kahe ka rosy glow? HS shaadi ke din se hi ro raha hai. 🤣

He has always told Babita that he can't handle it when mother-daughter both have issues. I guess this is the evidence! LOL!

Lol really? kal se toh bada khush lag raha hai biwi ke saath romance karke 😆.....toh Ab kaunsa rona? 🤷‍♀️😂....shaadi ka rona dhona is over and he is content as he gets coy smiles from Babita 😆

He is definitely unable to balance between mother and daughter. Lol toh he’s enjoying the benefits of a husband for now.

Which would all be fine if him and Babita hadn’t both made tall claims about Mini ke liye Yeh and woh.

Lehenga khareed lene se father nahin ban jaata koi. As was obvious in the wedding fiasco.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Lol really? kal se toh bada khush lag raha hai biwi ke saath romance karke 😆.....toh Ab kaunsa rona? 🤷‍♀️😂....shaadi ka rona dhona is over and he is content as he gets coy smiles from Babita 😆

He is definitely unable to balance between mother and daughter. Lol toh he’s enjoying the benefits of a husband for now.

Which would all be fine if him and Babita hadn’t both made talk claims about Mini ke liye Yeh and woh.

Lehenga khareed lene se father nahin ban jaata koi. As was obvious in the wedding fiasco.

I don't know.... Did he make claims of Minnie ke liye?

Babita had clearly proposed to him in large part because of Minnie and his relationship, but did he actually say that about Minnie?

Sorry I must have missed it.

As for his rona, abhi ke liye break. As he confirmed to Lala, everything was ok for now.