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Originally posted by: inlieu

I think we will eventually find out what childhood experiences she went through that ended up molding her this way. I don't necessarily think that she had a bad experience per se, but I felt that HS' analogy of mann ke gaanth referred to social conditioning she had when growing up. It is deep rooted and held firmly in place by nails that need to come out. It will hurt as they fall off but it will liberate her eventually. As an example, the other day she was telling HS that people were right to criticize them for getting married at this age when they were parents, because she would have felt the same if her own parents had done it.

HS has always told Babita not to transfer her fear to Minine because he didn't want her to be restricted by social conditioning either. Babita on some level knows that she needs to change but she has some mental blocks that she will learn to deal with and then be able to break free of those psychological bonds/

babita has been having feelings or hanuman since a long time. i remember where she indirectly said no to hanuman citing minis happiness but somewhere it was her mental block of what society will say or her thinking that marriage should happen only once. On top of it people have been taunting her for having desires even after being a mother to a 17year old child.

she was happy initially sharing her marriage news with only her closed ones. but when the whole society is involved she has been uncomfortable

@asmaan

I couldn't spot your comment so writing alag see:

I agree with some points as for me, that HS/minni part just overshadow everything.

Yes! With the first scene I agreed. She went overboard. But with all reasons you have pointed, that makes her a kid. That's what HS said. She is still in phase k mujhay babes ki hifazat karni, she is naive, there is nobody apart from me for her. She has to come out from this phase and that's what mickey quoted to have own life.

Actually, she is a kid whose only focus is her mother. Kuch Socha hi nahi usky ilawa. That's why ,she start behaving as a mother( which I agree is not right). Now with this wedding ,she will have time to think about her life ,k ab babes k lye koi hai...ya babes khud bhi dhayan rakh skti.

And that is why Poonam is needed to release Babita's bachpan ke ganth.

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

I feel the character Babita is judged very harshly here, more than HS or Mini's character. Don't know why and I don't wanna get into it either tbh, but I don't agree that she only has few expressions. I think she's a very good actor. The divorce court scene, dheere chalna scene, all her scenes of her contemplating her feelings , etc. etc. was very well depicted by Paridhi. Aniruddh and Ashnoor are brilliant actors as well.

Ever since I wrote my OS on her, I feel like I judged her harshly too. There's so much that went on in her life in such a short period of time. I don't blame her entirely for being a little messed up. There are SO many insecurities that she needs to get through and she will do so in due time.

As for Paridhi, I think she's been fantastic so far as Babita. There were so many moments where she could have overdone it but she didn't. I can't explain it well, but it's really hard to be graceful and even more difficult to act it out. But here Paridhi has done it with perfection. Just look back at the Dheere Jalna, Tum Pukaar Lo, the mango ice cream, women not being body parts, or her feeling unworthy of HS' love. These were all extremely well acted.

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

@padmajaan: I don't know about others but this is the first show I have watched of Paridhi, Aniruddh, and Ashnoor's. I was neither paridhi's fan, and have never watched Jodha Akbar, or I am neither any of the actors fans. I actually hate the whole celeb worshipping culture. You should always judge the character and not the actor for the roles they are portraying.

Though whatever you said is your opinion and you are entitled to it, I feel the character Babita is judged very harshly here, more than HS or Mini's character. Don't know why and I don't wanna get into it either tbh, but I don't agree that she only has few expressions. I think she's a very good actor. The divorce court scene, dheere chalna scene, all her scenes of her contemplating her feelings , etc. etc. was very well depicted by Paridhi. Aniruddh and Ashnoor are brilliant actors as well.

Fair enough. may be I should revisit those scenes.

To be honest, I also liked her acting initially. It's only lately that I feel something is off. May be she herself is not convinced about the character!

Initially I found that just like Anirudh she too could speak even with only her eyes. Lately I fnd her lacking somehow. Unable to put a finger to it though. Just a nagging feeling.

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

I think you did 😆

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Koi nai. I am sure I will survive this too.🤣

Originally posted by: inlieu

I also noticed Minnie's flaring temper and that's largely because of stress and frustration at things not going the way she expected, plus, as she said to NB her wish for things to work out the first time round without hassles or siyappa. She's tired of having to stand up and fight all the time.

I am so glad she got HS in her life so that he can help calm her down and see things from a different perspective.

Yeahh, but not everything is going to go her way. This is another issue that I have with Minnie and it goes way back to when they were job hunting. Events have their own way of unfolding in life. She can't control them and have them go her way all the time. And who's even telling her to stand up and fight now? If she's being wronged then by all means go ahead, but for something as minor as a wedding card? Come on.

I get that it's her Babes' wedding and she wants everything to go perfect but she needs to drop that idea. If it were to go perfect then Hanita wouldn't have gotten into that fight, nor would the mohalle wala constantly be gossiping about the marriage. The most important people were there at the roka. Who cares about what anyone else thinks or says?

Minnie needs to learn how to let things go. The way her life got scattered a year before has left her in a huge shock. She needs to realize that she's safe now and things won't go back to the way they were. She's okay, and Babes will be okay too.

Originally posted by: Padmajaan

I hope I haven't dug my own grave with the above admissions. Lol

You are entitled to your opinion.

Initially, I had same thoughts about paridhi.but, that daru Wala scene where she tried to stop him, the way both actors were one on one... I realized it's not about the actor, it's the writing.

We all agreed that it's hard to match anirudh , but for me, paridhi was equally brilliant in that scene. I realized that open acting is bit easy than restricted one. I am not taking any credit away from anirudh, but his character writing is more open where he can freely act. That is his domain and which is appreciate d by all. Whereas paridhi character is made restricted which is hard to enact. Imagine you have to be all shy, crying, restricted with action ,emotions against a character who is given freedom.

All characters you quoted are free in their expressions ; be it NB in her gallis or scolding, minni, mickey, khatri etc. That day ,I felt , paridhi is doing best as an underdog character which is really hard to do in this lot.

Originally posted by: inlieu

@Padma dearest, I hereby bestow upon you the title of Veer Balika. Ghani brave ho aap to, chhori.😆

Ib me ban ho jaungi. Yo toh final hai.

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Originally posted by: naq5

exactly mini is again getting angry and staring crying at small things. i wonder if the way babita blamed her for staying with ashok for her sake hurt her and she reacted at the wrong person

i agree mini should stop projecting her as babitas mother and see her as a mother & as a human. she should stop hiding her outbursts & suddenly being rude behind babes to bachhi hai. Hanuman was right she should just let her be instead of mothering her everytime

I'm not sure if that's what bothered her. I think she just got really upset fearing how the cards didn't come out right. And then her mind started doing leap frogs thinking again about "log kya kahenge".

Once the wedding takes place, Minnie will learn how to back off. Firstly, she won't be in the same room as Babes so that physical separation alone will give Minnie the much needed space. It will also give her perspective that she doesn't need to hound her mother all the time. That Babes is an adult and can take care of herself. And if she can't, then HS will be there for her. And HS was absolutely right when he said that this journey that Babes is on, it's hers alone. All he and Minnie can do is help her along when she needs it, but they can't live her life for her.