Hanuman Singh's flaws - Page 4

Originally posted by: Padmajaan

I accept him the way he is, I find him PERFECT and am blindly in love with him. ❤️

No flaws at all and no apologies needed from him at least. He has apologised enough umpteen times even when no apology was needed. He also has the right to feel terribly hurt.

If at all anyone should apologise to him instead of giving him the silent treatment which is not how he functions as he is the types who will never prolong a tiff but will resolve it before sleeping lol and who never keeps grudges, it is Babita for the many nasty things she has told him and for having abandoned him and not trusted him when he needed her support the most. Singling out one uncharacteristic behaviour from him and fixating on it to this extent and turning a blind eye and a deaf ear to all his wonderful deeds, gestures and words is not on!

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Now this is what I like...seedhi baat. no detour. For me, HS is just perfect. I try to give Babita benefit of doubt only because of her past. But after what Poonam said, I think I will stop that too. 😊

Arey hum HS se pyar karte hain. Pyar kiya to darna kya. Kuch to log kahenge, logon ka kaam hai kehna, Khullam khulla pyar karenge hum HS se, duniye se ab nahin darenge kasam se.❤️😊

Originally posted by: inlieu

If you think back to the flashbacks Babita had after she overheard Poonam and Minnie's conversations, she remembered exactly those moments when she had been rude and deliberately said extremely hurtful things to HS. She knows she was wrong, even if HS had not made a big deal out of it back then, except the bachcha chor comment. He fought with her on the spot, and then left. The only one where he didn't was when she handed him the envelope where he left silently. That incident still hurts him, which came out the other day.

I think deep down, Babita does want Hanuman but she's afraid, insecure, and just overall confused about how to deal with everything. She is also now aware of the fact that HS and Minnie have this bond but any decisions she makes should be her own. HS decided to keep the two relationships separate, and I'm impressed that he thinks he can continue to do so, but he needs to stop fooling himself.

I think bringing Pinku back is just in line with what one would expect HS to do. Just like he had realized his veer balika would benefit from having a proper camera and went and quietly went and bought one without being asking. It showed what he was trying to say to NB that he doesn't take things to heart and what happened with Babita didn't stop him from doing things like this. I think this time he cannot let it slide and must voice what he said to NB to Babita as well.

We saw when he first started falling for Babita, but let's not forget that he doesn't feel exactly that way anymore, in that the intensity of his love has grown a lot since then. Now whatever she says is going to hurt him more than it did in the past and he's going to react more strongly each time. I think he's been under immense pressure controlling his grief about Imarti, his feelings for Babita, heck even his emotions for Minnie. It was only recently that he decided to come forward and do what his heart has always wanted, which is to claim her as his daughter. He got much needed relief then and he needs to continue to think along those lines, otherwise it is eating away at his insides.

I think he is giving himself a bit of a break too. He's a bit fed up with everything and just wants a stress-free period in his life. Fair enough, but he can't escape forever.

HS follows Imarti's philosophy of letting go of the anger before one sleeps. He still carries the hurt feelings, but the ghussa is released. And then there's the fact that regardless of how many apologies one makes, there are some things that you simply can't forget. The intensity in pain may lessen but there will still be faint memories of how someone had hurt them immensely.

I agree. She has seen how HS is as a father and has a pretty good guess of how he can be as a husband. I hope Poonam was around a bit longer so that she could have instilled a little bit more confidence in her. Babes needs to be confident as a woman and I don't mean that for the sole purpose of getting it on with HS. But there's a certain level of contentment and peace that comes with knowing who you are. Knowing your own likes and desires, it brings a sensuality, charm and even sexiness to you.

Bringing Pinku has opened up a channel for them to talk. There's no way that Babes will let this go without offering her thanks.

Imarti was like a dam that burst all his feelings. It rekindled some old ones, nourished new ones and damaged some potential ones. I don't mind him wanting a break. He deserves one after all that he's been through. But again, just give that apology and he can take as much time as he wants to. Take another trip to Chandigarh. Maybe it will knock some more sense into them. 😆

Originally posted by: rose1000

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Now this is what I like...seedhi baat. no detour. For me, HS is just perfect. I try to give Babita benefit of doubt only because of her past. But after what Poonam said, I think I will stop that too. 😊

Arey hum HS se pyar karte hain. Pyar kiya to darna kya. Kuch to log kahenge, logon ka kaam hai kehna, Khullam khulla pyar karenge hum HS se, duniye se ab nahin darenge kasam se.❤️😊

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Originally posted by: inlieu

We've talked about the flaws of different characters but what about our Hanuman Singh?

The main one I can think of is his over-protectiveness that makes him feel he needs to push people away for their security, rather than let them decide for themselves if they want to be with him or not. This leads to him taking drastic decisions and using some harsh methods that hurt them, and himself. He is sensitive to others and knows exactly what to say and when, but he also uses it against people if he want to hurt them.

He had told Minnie that one must not hold on so tight onto their loved one that it causes suffocation. I think now, in the bid to avoid that at all costs, he sometimes goes to the other extreme, which is remain too far back. This might give the other person the impression that he is being standoffish.

He sometimes sweeps things under the rug, such as when mother-daughter do things to hurt him or take him for granted, often saying nothing. By keeping it bottled up, he hurts himself, and then it obviously has to come out at some point.

What would you guys say are his flaws?

As such earlier on think he seemed really sweet ...very caring towards Babita and Mini ....no flaws as such as no one is perfect so everyone will have some good quailities plus some bad ...that is the perfect balance ...but surely what views I have for some time now I stick to those ...as if v like a person and appreciate v also need to point out what v felt wrong...in this case HS surely needs to be sure of what he wants like it is good to see him finally expressing his feelings in the precap ....but he needs to be sure of the same now...Babita and Imarti are opposite personalities but feel Babita is what she is and she has not shown another self at any point of time ...to expect her to change completely is not right just like v don xpect HS to change ....the changes in her personality which she has brought in are also evident ...personally for me Babita is sweet ...she is naive but whn u love someone when that person is 100% transparent u have loved that person the way he/she is so now expecting her to change 100% (though she has changed for good) is wrong...he has to accept her with a good heart...and if he says something to her which can hurt her then he has to be aware of it...as that can impact the relation in future aswell...he can’t hurt a person and then forget abt it...what he said can’t be something done agn ...as Babita might break completely then and get into a shell...if that happens the relation might just go haywire ....he has to be cautious abt what he says does ....as he knows her now in and out ...he also can’t compare her and Imarti ever ( not that he does it but should not)...fiction can change as wanted but if this is considered as a story in real sense then it is very important that both accept each other the way they see the other....and be aware of what can cause damage to the relationship ....I also feel that HS needs to be open abt wat he feels...open up not expecting that opposite person will understand agn knowing the person’s nature and being the stronger person in the 2...he has to open up....also v shud not forget that HS has lost Imarti 6 years back still he feels the impact ...Babita has gone thru it all just 8 months to an Year back ...honestly hasn’t she tried to recover at faster pace...we have never given that a thought ever....why should we then say that Babita is not trying...she is hurt and hurt badly ....and she needs that confidence that the person who she loves loves her aswell ....and she will break if it is not so (this needs to be understood)....can’t go ahead thinking this is wrong ..why is she so weak ...why does not she take first step...why she hurts him ...ideally she has not hurt him from the time she accepted him...she did not resist his moves during pot making but reciprocated though she was angry with him...she tried stopping him from drinking alcohol...as if it was her right...for her nature that was a clear indication as she loved him and was so clear abt it ....she patiently ignored his behaviour then and on multiple occasions when change his behaviour was so very evident and which v can’t deny( his earlier behaviour was contradictory) ....still she kept caring for him ....everytime showing that side of her personality which is not at all her...mayb reserved for very few ppl...she waited for him for dinner which v do only if person is really close and matters....that was when he said things and it hurt her badly ....now going forward this one incident can impact if it is not corrected or maybe atleast if he remembers that such works can rupture the relationship permanently...not repeating the old things but just trying to think of how it can impact someone’s future ....important that HS goes ahead with this new relationship with an understanding that he needs to be like how he was earlier...way v liked him ....not have mood swings (rather writers needs to be wary of that)...now is the time to see a good phase in PBS ...a phase of love which will encourage ppl who want to go for 2nd marriage that a real genuine relationship is possible...a relationship which has no bad impact of past....and no comparisons...as comparison can kill...a new relationship is possible which helps u move on in real sense ....have no baggage ...have sweet memories not memories which intervene in your present...that can be destructive ....so HS needs to live in the present accepting his present ....

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

She wasn't expecting him to be so rude to her either. And the fact that he did it on purpose just makes it worse. Imarti's case totally blind sided Babes. So for her to feel completely lost and unsure about him made sense up to an extent. Of course we and she knew that it's not in his character to be capable of homicide, but it didn't change the fact that in some ways she had lost all trust in him. If he can willingly hurt her with the intent of pushing her away, then what else could he do?

I know we don't like comparing HS with Ashok and I don't either. They're both two completely different men but let's look at their actions for a moment. Ashok attacked Babita's character as a woman for the purpose gaining a divorce. HS attacked Babita's character as a woman, mother and entrepreneur for the purpose of pushing her away from himself. In both cases, they attacked her below the belt just so that she goes away. Ashok didn't pause to consider her feelings; HS knew exactly how it would hurt and yet he did it anyway.

I know we've mentioned Minnie's relationship with HS as a reason for why Babes should not leave the haveli, but we need to consider Babita too. If HS doesn't apologize, then why should she stay back? It's not like she's forbidding Minnie from ever seeing him again. She simply doesn't want to maintain any sort of relationship with him in the Babita/HS context. Right now she's at the point where she doesn't want to be his tenant, friend or anything else.

The whole Pinku scene comes off as being irrelevant to me. Regardless of HS' interference, they had still reached out to Pinku. Seeing their phone call, Pinku would have still picked up the phone, came over and mended things with her. It's just that HS got to him first and brought him home.

They actually are showing only good HS...like u mentioned Pintu incident...yes it wud have been nice to see Babita take an initiative after mini suggested same to her...she called him and I felt that was when she tried coming off her shell but instead of making Pintu take the call and come there...instead of giving that credit to her...they agn made HS the hero...so when she tries to take her own steps v want her to be dependent on every small and big thing....makers should also try to show Babita evolving now without support ...it is important to show her strong...her character is not getting the due it should...though find it really good ...but if v keep showing others too good and her bad that get’s suppressed...one more thing is evn HS is intervening now but Babita was so touched ...because she knew his intentions were good...that is the reciprocation I was talking abt...on the other hand ...Babita’s sincere efforts were taken as interference...there was no reciprocation ...

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

She wasn't expecting him to be so rude to her either. And the fact that he did it on purpose just makes it worse. Imarti's case totally blind sided Babes. So for her to feel completely lost and unsure about him made sense up to an extent. Of course we and she knew that it's not in his character to be capable of homicide, but it didn't change the fact that in some ways she had lost all trust in him. If he can willingly hurt her with the intent of pushing her away, then what else could he do?

I know we don't like comparing HS with Ashok and I don't either. They're both two completely different men but let's look at their actions for a moment. Ashok attacked Babita's character as a woman for the purpose gaining a divorce. HS attacked Babita's character as a woman, mother and entrepreneur for the purpose of pushing her away from himself. In both cases, they attacked her below the belt just so that she goes away. Ashok didn't pause to consider her feelings; HS knew exactly how it would hurt and yet he did it anyway.

I know we've mentioned Minnie's relationship with HS as a reason for why Babes should not leave the haveli, but we need to consider Babita too. If HS doesn't apologize, then why should she stay back? It's not like she's forbidding Minnie from ever seeing him again. She simply doesn't want to maintain any sort of relationship with him in the Babita/HS context. Right now she's at the point where she doesn't want to be his tenant, friend or anything else.

The whole Pinku scene comes off as being irrelevant to me. Regardless of HS' interference, they had still reached out to Pinku. Seeing their phone call, Pinku would have still picked up the phone, came over and mended things with her. It's just that HS got to him first and brought him home.

Also agree to what u said abt ashok and Hs...def no comparison but Ashok raised questions on Babita’s character ....HS in a more polished way did the same....no comparison at all A’s intentions were different...but just saying the words meant the same ....it was character assassination ...for that matter she would have kept away Evn if HS would have been extremely rude so wat was the need to say all that is still not clear to me