Originally posted by: LifeOLicious
I understand where you are coming from but I still think it is easy to have this view because you are a man. When I see Kabir, I feel fear. I feel oh there is another movie showing a jack ass guy as a hero! Every damn movie out there showing men who are douche, cheats, obnoxious etc and it’s ok and they still get the nice forgiving girl! Ugh! Where is my movie about obnoxious woman getting the sweet forgiving man? Lol!
When I see Preeti, I don’t see foolish girl...I see someone romanticizing someone like Kabir. And I want to tell her to stop! It’s all too common among girls to fall for the bad guy thinking she can fix him because society tells a woman that she can fix a man!!! She can’t!! I am not sure if Preeti IS really choosing Kabir out of her own free will or she is conditioned somehow! It doesn’t matter how grown up or educated she is!! I don’t like thinking this way about women because it makes it seen like they are stupid but I cannot ignore the social conditioning that leads women to make stupid choices!
Social conditioning reasoning seems off, because Preeti did exactly against everything the society she was living in, told her to do. They told her to get married to her parents choice in same caste and community, have kids and so on. But she didn't, she did what she thought was good for her. If she doesn't get Kabir, she doesn't care about anyone else. I don't know why you are making it like anything Preeti did was not her fault but everyone elses. For me the arc of Preeti is simple: a traditional girl who was bowled away by the alpha of the college who was treating everyone like shit, but with her he was gentle(that slap asides), anyone couldn't even think of touching him, she was slapping him, she basically broke through the years of pretence of being a ''gharelu girl'', because of Kabir. I don't see the good girl making bad boy good cliche in this movie, because bad boy remained bad boy, it was rather the good girl who became like her lover in some of the character traits: selfish, outspoken, abusive, stubborn and self harming. Hence for her, he was the most important person. Preeti maybe wrong or right, but she has a chance to settle down with her husband, keeping her family and society happy. But she didn't, rather she gave up on society and family for Kabir. So hoe is this social pressure, she did what she wanted. Preeti was as much obsessed and stubborn like Kabir. Just that Kabir had those vices.
Also it is not audience mistake if directors are not making more movies with problematic women who are accepted by men. Saafena and Tanu are the only two females with questionable quality for a lead characters I remember this decade.
Let's not forget most of the people who enjoyed these two characters are same ones who enjoyed Kabir Singh. So problematic characters even if female, will be liked by audience if donr right.
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