Originally posted by: NK1865
Well the upbringing thing might be a possibility, but it's not true that you need a sense of assurance to open up. As a kid you need it, not as an adult. I'm in the medical field and part of our training does involve handling psychiatric disorders. If you look at patients with depression, not all of them come from broken households. A number of them come from loving households. They have close, supportive friends. Yet most of their family members and friends do not find out about their condition till it's very late because the person chooses to hide it behind their smiles. To only say you need assurance to speak out is a simplification of human psyche. People have a lot more to battle with, including their internal emotions and complex thoughts. So assurance is solely not a factor.
Sorry dear, but I agree to disagree. How a person was treated in childhood plays a very important role in his/her adult life. I respect your opinion as a physician. But it's not depression that Pari is dealing with. It's sense of belonging.
An adult just doesn't fall from tree. His childhood plays an important role in shaping him up. As I have said in my post too, why do we now put so much emphasize on childhood technique. We could just open clinics with professional psychiatrists to help people. That would actually help lots of working parents.
As I said in my post, I never called Mishti or Dadi innocent. I clearly said they have a part in this as do Pari. I agree that I have no proof of their innocence but I am not the one going around saying that Mishti and Dadi are responsible and are not allowing Pari to hang her mother's photo in her own house. Pari fans are. You yourself liked such an incriminating post. 😊 So why are people accusing them without any proof? I said that there's a higher likelihood that they chose to do it to avoid their bad past. This presumption was on the basis if Pari had brought this topic up and they had rejected without listening to her pleas, Pari might have held at least a slight resentment against them. Pari isn't a Mahan TV lead and putting myself in her place, I would feel resentment as well. Till date, Pari has shown no such resentment.
If you could point out which comment then I might be able to defend myself. Not everyone show their resentment in the same way. Besides, thanks to Sweety and Sandhya she got to know about KuNan's KAARNAME. As you have said, human psych is complex. It's not completely impossible that she does resent them unconsciously but her conscious mind knows her parents were wrong from ethical ground so she herself puts up with it. You could only see her outburst if someday she actually alleges Mishti of the cheating once MishAan truth comes out. Completely depends on writer how they show it or if they even address the issue.
And who said that Mishti couldn't stand her sister (I choose not to use half-sister) staring at her mother's locket? If I recall correctly, Pari's locket got stuck with Mishti's necklace in the early episodes. She was visibly uncomfortable, but she said nothing and only shut the locket close. If she really didn't want her sister to gaze at the locket, she could have told Pari to discard or not wear the locket directly or could have thrown it away without Pari's knowledge. Neither of which she did. So on what basis are you claiming that she doesn't have a heart to accept?
I am saying on the basis of my understanding and experience. No one is perfect and you have to accept someone with their past baggage. If I had truly loved someone, I would even put up with some craps that make me uncomfortable. Don't think I am preaching here. I have honestly done that. During my teenage days hated someone with all might and still dislike him a lot. But the guy is very important to someone very close to me. So these days I do behave cordially with him. I wasn't MAHAAN in your words. But with time I have learned to sacrifice for my loved ones. Even when it means accepting someone else. So, I don't see how Mishti's love for Pari is greater than her hatred for Nandini.
Till date, we have never seen a sequence of her saying that she won't accept Nandini even for Pari.
We haven't seen the other way too. So it still remains a debate. 😊
In fact, she cared for Pari's feelings so much that when she burst out about Kunal and Nandini during the charades, it was Pari's face she first saw and stopped seeing she was hurt. So what guarantee is there that she won't even consider the possibility of hanging Nandini's photo up for Pari's happiness? If she knew it was bothering Pari and she wanted that and chose not to do it, then yes we can claim that she doesn't have a big heart to do that for her sister.
Moreover, Mishti is not overall a selfish person. She has a moments of selfishness, just like Pari. She also does have her moments of selflessness. Yes, Mishti was the decision maker of the family, which made her more dominant in terms of handling the family affairs and she worries about her family members. And when has Mishti not trusted Pari on her own?
She was angry in the initial episodes as she felt Pari was behaving irresponsibly. She was slightly upset with Pari with the way she handled the client and only advised her. But to be honest, in the real world, no client would have accepted to give the contract with the way Pari behaved. But it worked out for the best. Ever since then, she has said nothing to Pari about the way she was handling her job nor controlled her. It was Pari's decision to model for Ruhaan. Mishti was upset Pari didn't inform her, in the context of an older sister who wanted to know about her sister's accomplishment. She was happy instead to see Pari's happiness. If Mishti didn't trust Pari on her own, she could have refused and grilled Ruhaan about his intentions especially since it was in the phase she didn't trust Ruhaan completely. She trusted Pari's decision. When Veer told her to hand over her job duties to Pari, did she ever argue that she didn't want to do that cos she didn't trust Pari or her capabilities? She trusted Pari with the responsibilities. Her reluctance stemmed from the fact she didn't want to give up her job now. Even now, when she found out that Pari's in love, if she really didn't trust Pari, she could have really probed her. She does trust in Pari's decisions.
You are forgetting that even Pari fans pointed that out. I am the youngest one too and believe me, have been disciplined by my elder brother even more than my parents. Each decision so far I have taken, he showed faith in me. I didn't need his girlfriend's permission. It was Veer who said Pari would handle it well with Ruhaan and at that phase Mishti was agreeing to everything Veer said to her. Otherwise a wise businesswoman would never hand over her entire projects to her sister specially when she is in learning phase. It's as dumb and unrealistic as Pari cracking the deal. It didn't show her complete trust. Plus, Ruhaan had already got character certificate from Radhika and Ansh. She herself knew she was the one who kissed him. She didn't possibly have any proof to question Pari's relation with him at that point.
Mishti took on the role of playing parent. Playing parent does not mean she does not trust or respect Pari. If she really was that untrusting, she'll constantly be questioning Pari about her decisions, both personal and professional. And we haven't seen Mishti doing that in the show.
Please, be completely honest, ever since Ruhaan came into the picture, have we seen her doing anything other than doubting her decisions??? It has basically revolved around MishVeer and MishAan. She didn't even consider how it would affect the others. So how on earth could she actually poke her nose in Pari's matter when lately she was handling everything???