Re: Babita/Ashok - Page 2

@guddi. Want to applaud for your courage. Also was happy to know your mom supported you.

I have learned one thing for sure in this life and have taught my Daughters as well, to survive in this World you have to be strong and independent. Get a Education and a good job, save Money etc and always support your self. Do not be dependent on anyone. If and when they do decide to get Married its up to the two of them to make it work or not.

Its so easy to blame Society and what is expected etc. but it's up to the people in the Marriage to make it work and don't sit back and say this is expected from me etc..

So maybe I am the only one this Forum who says that Babita is to blame for her doomed marriage and She had the signs but choose to ignore them. As the saying goes no point in crying over split Milk.

Again we are talking about Patiala Babes and if Babita had asked than I am sure the Inlaws would have allowed it for sure. As they are pretty Liberal in there views and allow the son in law to stay with them. And they are not portrayed as the typical Saas. Its amazing what can be covered up by the disguise of what will society say.

@guddi01 dear no offence at you all & i truly applaud for your courage.i partially agree from you that yes babita's mistake for failed marraige is totally justified but i am not agree that meeta's mistake is not for a broken marraige of babita.do you think meeta's ema was totally justified.it was unethical.

& why we should not blame society?we all are a part of society it is easy to say

chodo logon ko bolne do logo ka kaam hi kehna

but in some place of heart we all are affected what will society say.its a human tendency.& dear babita's was not so much educated & independent at that time.& nor a supporting friend or family member was present at that time for babita.i don't think her parents or her brother stand for her in her difficult time at that time.so if she leave ashok then where she go?

it was a fear was present in her subconscious mind if she will raise her voice may be her inlaws or ,her husband family member will leave her.

at that time mini was just a little kid.not necessary financally but everyone needs a emotional support whether from her family members or friends.& for babita no one was for her.

atleast in your life your mom supported you.& i truly respect & applaud for your mom's advice.but for babita no one was with her who can tell her what is right & what is wrong.who can tell her right direction?

i am too indian & i very well know about india's people mind set.so i am thinking from babita's pov as well.

& it is nothing personally against you.i am just trying to show babita's pov as well.

Ashoks mom would have never supported babita. She made her do pooja paath initially to bring ashok to his senses. Her liberal attitude is reserved for her khoon only. If in case in future meeta leaves ashok, beeji will be the first person who will try to woo back babita in ashoks life. This is what i feel. I hope she dosent do so. Even if she tries i want babita to not keep quiet out of respect.

Walking out is not an option for many indians. I have personally seen it in case of my aunt. So I truly applaud your courage and wish you all the very best in life.

But please understand that path is not available for many. It is the cold fact of life. Not everyone has a supportive family to take that tough decision. I truly respect babita and her choices. It is my POV. No offense intended though. Nothing personal either.

Originally posted by: divyadaya13

Ashoks mom would have never supported babita. She made her do pooja paath initially to bring ashok to his senses. Her liberal attitude is reserved for her khoon only. If in case in future meeta leaves ashok, beeji will be the first person who will try to woo back babita in ashoks life. This is what i feel. I hope she dosent do so. Even if she tries i want babita to not keep quiet out of respect.

Babita should've realized Beeji's true colours when she supported her khoon over her bahu. Or at least when she threw the jewellery at her when Babita demanded alimony. Fine, she was still naive and had the free maid attitude for the Khuranas.

But why can't she realize now? She has comparatively become more mature and confident in dealing with people. She should restrict the Khuranas' involvement only to Minnie. Still making cake for their birthday and wishing them and all that. They don't deserve such gestures from her anymore for supporting their p*g of a son...

She should also see that Minnie is not too exposed to their diseases and she too join the Khurana bandwagon.

I agree with you but Babita is too caring . ek jhatke mein rishta nahi tor sakti. But I am hoping eventually she stop doing this things. Move on with her life.

i dont blame babita for the failed marriage and i dont even blame babita because both were right in the situation and pov

only man to blame for broken marriage and ema is ashok

sorry everyone is saying meeta should have left

meeta was a london woman she was not in india ashok lied to her for 3 years and she had seen him that he not was attached to babita he used to babysit her who will want to leave such type of love after three years if it was that easy for her i am damn sure even after marriage truth was known to her he would have told lie about babita as a person meeta got to know real babita when she came to india and after that she actually had shown most humanity in whole selfish khuranna household

i blame babita for what she does now she wtill blame meeta okay i can understand her blaming meeta but still thinking beeji lovely and dadaji as some innocent even she has soft corner for ashok even now sorry i will be totally on side babita the day she actually understand that it was whole knurrana who responsible for her bad marriage not meeta the day she will come in term with this fact

i dont know why here some people say beeji is liberal this that seriously

if u remember when ashok even came to india whole family wanted to babysit him they not let babita and ashok spend time when babita dressed lovely taunted her so actually they never liked babita with ashok they wanted bahu and son for themselves not wanted husband and wife togetherness

now i am sure mita will make exit very soon and beeji will how stand against babita when custody case will be fought or would want babita to again come if she will marry hanuman they will give alot baddu to her

how dadaji only on surname removing created tamasha and still not like her keeping babita surname

i hate babita mini for now the way they respect beeji dadu and lovely because they are the most to blame for failed marriage

i dont know why everyone blame mita actually mita i feel is most ok character behave with people accordong to the sutuation

i am sure ashok was not like this with her in london i am sure she wil leave ashok after sometime right now she is still in lure of that london wala ashok when she will totally loose hope she will leave

it will not take her 17 years to standor talk about her right

babita still want recognition from shok like person that he left a nice person like her seriously

Khuranas are in no way liberal. In Indian society, SIL and DIL are treated in different ways. SIL will always be superior to DIL. And no matter what, DIL rarely become daughters. It is easy to talk. But in marriages and divorces, one size does not fit all.

Babita has been shown as meek, wired from a very young age to be docile, not ask questions and lead a life of servitude. It is not easy for such a woman to break ties as soon as she sees her husband is neglecting her and her child. There are women who can fight this and come out of this on their own. But every individual is unique. So why compare and put all women in the same category?

As a viewer, I can be irritated to see Babita still being so kind to her in-laws. But I am not Babita. My thinking is different. So it is obvious my actions will not match Babita's. But I have to accept that there are many women in society like Babita and even worse. A good support system plays a very significant role.

Not all parents are supportive. I never had supportive parents. In the show, we have seem how Babita's brother threw her out. If HS had not given her shelter where would have Babita gone? A woman standing on the street with a young daughter and no money and no support, we all know where that road leads.

Beeji and Dadu are too selfish. They do what suits them.

I hate seeing the Khuranas on screen everyday.

Just my POV.

@guddi. Want to applaud for your courage. U were lucky coz u mother supported u

I took bc pills in secret when my 1st marriage started failing since i did nit want to bring a child into an abusive marriage. He had all my papers my edu doc my passport my cards my pan card. I really had to plan and manged to get my edu documents and passport out.

Unlike u in the beginning due to so called social pressure except my siblings especially my brother no one supported me

Luckily i found good lawyers and had lot of proofs and got a divorce through arbitration

It was tough to hold on to a job and manage everything.

It took me 3 years to put everything behind Nd find courage to marry again.

But i was always a rebel and without bro probably would have never found courage to stand up again