Originally posted by: Nature-Happiness
Your viewpoint is totally acceptable ??. Sometimes even I feel what is the need of showing Hanita, can't the serial just progress without someone entering their life. But time and again, I realized the fact that, it is important to have someone in your life who supports you, understands you and respects you. From Babita's pov, she would never want to be in a relationship again. But, having someone in your life like Hanuman Singh is bound to lead to a relationship. If you like this statement or not, it happens. And like that psychologist said, no one understands the behaviour of the human brain,which is highly unpredictable....
Well said. There are some things I want to add.
First of all, they are trying to show that being an independent woman means feeling free to love another man and having the right to be happy again after wasting 17 years on that useless Ashok. If men can move on and remarry, why can't women have the right and choice to do so without feeling guilty or ashamed?
I think this is the CVs' point of view, that being independent doesn't mean you have to be lonely. In this case she will be with HS because she wants him and loves him, not because she is financially or socially dependent on him like she (thinks) she used to be with Ashok and his family. It's not just about being a self-sufficient woman but also a happy woman who enjoys all the colors of her life without feeling any guilt or shame or needing to justify anything to the stupid society around her when she wants to move on in life. If Ashok the culprit can have a second innings and enjoy his life, she deserves way more.
Secondly, they are trying to show that it's not enough to raise women to be independent or to empower them. It is important to raise men to respect and help empower women too, i.e. we need more male "feminists". Girls like Minnie need to see not only a strong, independent mother who can be tough and fight for herself, but they also need to see a father (figure) like Hanuman Singh who can be a tough cop but still a sensitive, loving, and respectful man who challenges silly stereotypes and encourages women to stand up for themselves. They need to see what a respectful relationship between a husband and wife should be (once HS and Babita marry!) and what supportive fathers should be like.
Men need to stand up for women in society too and give them moral support, give them assurances that they are doing the right thing, and help build their confidence. It doesn't mean that women who are helped by men are weak. In this case the CVs are showing that men like HS need to be role models to other men, instead of being chauvinistic jerks.
HS, being a cop, could have been this typical macho, violent, MCP but he knows how to separate work from private life. All his toughness is with criminals. At home he is a loving son, brother, friend, father, and (to-be) husband. When he cries along with Minnie and feels her pain he doesn't become any less of a man or weak in any sense. His emotions and his ability to act well upon them make him a strong person.
If you remember, in the earlier episodes, HS talked about how he used to be an MCP and an abusive husband because that's what he saw his father doing and that's what he thought being a man was about. Imarti changed him because she challenged not his physical strength but his mentality. She showed him a different side to life that he had never known and he slowly realized that there was so much he had to learn and could benefit from if he put his ego aside. So he did, and over time he became the HS we know and love. She educated him on how to be a real man.
Even Lala, being less educated or lower-ranked than HS, has a basic sense of respect for women that Babita never saw at her in-laws'. Her so-called Papaji is also hypocritical - when things were no longer in his favor, he went against Babita instead of supporting her or understanding her. He's not a good role model at all, and Minnie and Babita realized this soon enough. It also shows how the partiality towards Ashok since childhood for being a male turned him into the mean machine that he is. He got away with everything just because he was a boy and that sense of entitlement never left him, whereas Lovely grew up bitter because she probably didn't get the same privileges her brother did (and still thinks she doesn't).
I think more men should take HS as an example on how to respect women, how to find the right balance between guiding women who are trying to be independent, and also giving these women enough space to make their own mistakes and learn from them. You don't lose your masculinity if you are kind towards women and respect their wishes.
I want Babita to be the one to make the moves in this relationship and be in control. That doesn't mean she has to run after him without any dignity, not at all. Just like she decided she would sit on his bike, I want her to open up slowly and let herself enjoy his company at her own pace. HS does not have to woo her or convince her like typical ITV male leads. I have said this before and I'll say it again. If HS and Babita marry, it should be because she wants it, and preferably something she actively seeks and looks forward too, not because of society or Minnie or any other external pressure.
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