Nice refreshing Episode....... - Page 3

Originally posted by: naadanmasakalli

+1 to all this

It is rather funny to me on one side they claim to love mishti so much give her equal love yada yada yada yet trying to uttaro her like a bhoj from their heads with all yhe glaring problems in this rishta trying to ignore it . For what? Why are they so hellbent ? And what security this instant shaadi will give her that the so called loving family cannot? Is their pyar so khota that they can'g even do anything for jer safety beyond trying to cut her off for her supposed safety?. Would they do the same of kuhu is under some threat. They were genuinly upset when she was rejected and even blamed mishti for all this happening. I guess it is true khoon khokn hi hota hai

And so much for mishti ki self respect she isn't even questioning at all why are they throwing her under the bus ainvayein and trying to sacrifice her to hide their own inability to give her security as a family

Originally posted by: Salutethearmy

The word courtship in my dictionary comes after a couple is engaged formally especially in an arranged marriage

For Maheshwaris and Rajvansh families it will be difficult if Mishti and Kunal go on dates without commitment, comeon like that no guy or girl is perfect for each other, this dating phase can go till as long as many months and in between some misunderstanding then Rishta ka the end.

This is how engagements and marriages are also called off.

i do not know how they are going to fit in Abir in between, for me Shaheer looks quiet hot and good to be ignored. Poor guy has to suppress his feelings and at the same time carry the guilt that he has something for his would be babhi.

Aiyoo.. I wish Meenakshi does something drastic and everything comes to a full stop. Then Abir can persue Mishti and Kunal goes to Kuhu

This is was in my mind from the time Meenkashi swapped the alliances.

Btw today's episode was sweet

Originally posted by: _charu_

Exactly . Courtship period begins after the formal roka or engagement , not before . Means mishti wants to date kunal and then decide for the marriage ? As i said in another thread , this idea is the next best to a live in relationship ..sounds very weird, not only the kunald side but no decent family will agree to it...demanding meeting with the boy twice or thrice is ok...but dont call it courtship ...

Also how will they correct all this ? That is, if abir and mishti are a future couple ? Suppose maheshwaris refuse mishti and kunals rishta..will meenakshi agree to kuhu kunal or abir mishti after all this? And the families ? Is this a joke ? Pehle they send kuhus rishta for kunal then kunals mom only asks for mishtis hand ..abhi under what pretext will they again say let kuhu marry kunal? very contrieved

Originally posted by: bs123

You're right about how awkward the cross-connection will be. I can only imagine that these courtship meetings aren't going to go as planned, which will make way for Mishbir and KuKu

However, I disagree with you and all others who have been stating that courtship can only happen after an engagement. What Mishti is suggesting is not actually blasphemous and was a very normal thing in the West once upon a time, maybe not in India. Think about all those Jane Austen novels and 20th century American literature novels and you'll understand what I am talking about. There may or may not be a romantic inclination involved at the beginning of a courtship but the intention is surely to make the person you are courting your life partner if things work out.

I know it sounds so ancient now as the arranged marriage concept is almost non-existent in the West with dating and live-in relationships at the forefront, but it did exist at one point and "Marital courtship" was the manner by which arranged marriage alliances were fixed. It is actually interesting how something that is considered extremely "old-fashioned" in the West is considered so forward in India that it is socially unacceptable.

Is what this show is depicting the actual scenario out there with arranged marriages or have they exaggerated?

Anyways, in short, I don't think the makers of YRHPK went wrong with the definition.

I also got this straight off the internet when I googled "marital courtship":

Courtship. Courtship is the traditional dating period before engagement and marriage (or long term commitment if marriage is not allowed). ... During a courtship, a couple or group gets to know each other and decides if there will be an engagement.

What makes it different from regular dating is the parental involvement on both sides, and that both sides are hoping for marriage to be the outcome of the courtship, where as in regular dating, the two people don't go into it immediately with the expectation that if all goes well, the two will get married. The dates in a marital courtship are probably planned and approved by the respective parents/families of the potential groom/bride, so the families know exactly what's going on. Basically, it's not really a private thing between two individuals anymore.

Originally posted by: _charu_

Sorry. I am not aware of the concept of courtship you are talking about . Never heard of it or seen it here..may be its prevalent in tbe society nowdays..m totally unaware..

Hypothetically speaking if ye rishte pyar ke is "promoting" it, its a sureshot heartbreak for many people involved if things dont work out..not just for the couple but the families too..those who have been through the process of arranged marriage would know..😊