Who is at fault ??? - Page 3

Originally posted by: USwamy

Agreed both were at fault but in yesterday's epi, I felt Naina was more at fault. Sameers fault, yes yelling at her infront of both their families. Letting Poonam Bhabhi do the dishes, not noticing or questioning Naina as to where did the dirty dishes disappear? But if everyone noticed, he didn't speak up for a while, but then lost it.

I Did not like Sameer constantly taunting Naina during the HM phase, but ever since they have been back, he is trying to make the household work. Recent examples, sweeping in the kitchen, cooking from a cookbook, taking care of Naina during her periods, making tea. These are things we won't expect from Sameer because he has never had to do household chores but he is still trying, attempting.

But Naina, where do I begin. It seems as if she is from a royal household and Sameer from middle class. We are talking about the 90s here, where while women were educated, working but still they were definitely expected to take care of the household. Infact, once the girls became of marriageable age, girls were trained by their mothers. I remember a colleague, whose mom post her engagement used to ensure that she cooked for the household, morning and evening along with her job to ensure smooth transition post marriage.

Aggarwals are fairly conservative. Naina has the luxury of only being with Sam and not a joint family. Would she have behaved the same if she had gotten married to Sharad. Ever since her wedding, there have been only fleeting instances of her showing her love for Sameer. She shoos him away like a bug when he attempts to kiss her barring few times.

Mama is trying to prove that Naina is a wrong choice and succeeding because Sameer could not defend her yesterday. He had just before the fiasco said that Naina keeps the house in tip top shape, only to fall flat on his face sometime later. Yes both are responsible for their house but Naina sent him out to arrange for snacks while she dealt with the house cleaning and cooking.

I understand makers are trying to show their immaturity and all is not lovey dovey post marriage but the way they are going about is beyond me. Also, we are all feeling more disappointed because they have shown us two 16 year olds who were way more mature and supportive of each other and have sailed through so many hardships. These days they are constantly at short fuse after 4 years of deep love and understanding.

Sameer was more wrong in shouting at her in front of everyone. I personally don't believe in keeping cleaning standards of your house as per guests. It's your house and your cupboard you can keep however u want. Those utensils were outside house and not in front of guests. Mama made mountain out of mole.
Naina did not ask poonan bhabhi to clean utensils. She was clearly upset by seeing it but by then mamaji had already made damage.


Cleaning house is both of their responsibility. N naina had very little time to prepare everything. Even expert cooks make mistakes, batis do get hard even if you know how to cook. It wasn't a big deal. Relatives are supposed to be considerate about new daughter in law who might be nervous in doing all. If naina wasn't perfect host, mamaji wasn't perfect guest. Mamji clearly took opportunity as it was sameers weak point.

Every relationship is differnt and only those two people decide the terms and conditions. Here sameer clearly made his point that he doesn't want naina for cooking n cleaning. It was not his expectation. Then if naina doesn't do it he has no right to shout at her. He flipped as he couldn't take his insult and pleasing guests is very important to him.

@ uswamy

Ya so true they were more mature when they were 16 years old and had come long way fighting for it. Now they are fighting with each other for each and everything.

Definitely if it was today's generation both would have been more responsible equally even if it was kitchen work. It's 90s and people will point at naina coz men rarely cooked. In that case sameer is more liberal and helping her and giving her so much freedom.