Realigning friendships post marriage - Page 2

Originally posted by: USwamy

Hi! You can call me Uma😊 great to read your post too. Ditto my experience. Went to an all girls convent school and girls college also if you please. Yes my girl friends are pretty much my sisters and my own sister is my best friend and soulmate , so very lucky and blessed that way. Have seen, that every time one goes through a major change such as marriage or children, you readjust your friendships. But the friends who weather this are the ones who remain for life. And I feel you need your friends all the more post marriage and have found great value discussing children. Here I also wanted to add, which is actually a later life realisation that married friends need to pay particular attention to their unmarried single friends, coz their time and life also gets affected by your marriage. One needs to be more sensitive there but I think that comes with age😊

Originally posted by: Sakhile

As Ross11 says it would seem that YUDKBH shows that male friendships are sustainable whilst female friendships are expendable. The way in which the friendship of Naina-Shefali, Naina-Meghabhen and the girls-Swati and the girls-Hema has been dealt with lends credence that girl friendships are less important and more expendable. This has certainly hit the wrong cord with me. Female friendships are as everlasting as male friendships.

Originally posted by: Sakhile

Friends are the family we choose for ourselves. Siblings are the friends God chooses for us. Friends, regardless of whether they are your choice or God's choice, are vital in the formation of one's character and as support during all phases of our lives.

Originally posted by: rituriyaakhil

I particularly have heart for Swati-Naina friendship because it is more relatable in my life as I am still friends with my friends from Kindergarten. The way this friendship was given the closure is nothing but dissatisfactory in my eyes. When you have been friends with someone for a long time, I think it is very natural for the friendship to have ups/downs and highs/lows. Sometimes it is one party's fault and at the other time it is the other sides' fault. In PKVM, this was really well addressed. Naina made a mistake of withholding the fact from Swati that she was in love with Sameer even when she knew Swati also had a crush on him. When Swati came to know about it and was angry at Naina, Naina admitted her mistake and told herself that she will not go to Mount Abu if it meant losing her bestfriend. Then we saw how Swati also realizing it was not worth fighting over the years of friendship for a guy and made Mount Abu happen for Naina for the sakes of their friendship. That was the kind of friendship that has my heart - both parties making mistake but also making amends for the sakes of friendship.

Originally posted by: TonsOfWishes

Loved reading the post!

I was hoping that the cvs show samaina hanging out individually and giving each other some space. ur post very beautifully wrote that thing

Originally posted by: rituriyaakhil

I particularly have heart for Swati-Naina friendship because it is more relatable in my life as I am still friends with my friends from Kindergarten. The way this friendship was given the closure is nothing but dissatisfactory in my eyes. When you have been friends with someone for a long time, I think it is very natural for the friendship to have ups/downs and highs/lows. Sometimes it is one party's fault and at the other time it is the other sides' fault. In PKVM, this was really well addressed. Naina made a mistake of withholding the fact from Swati that she was in love with Sameer even when she knew Swati also had a crush on him. When Swati came to know about it and was angry at Naina, Naina admitted her mistake and told herself that she will not go to Mount Abu if it meant losing her bestfriend. Then we saw how Swati also realizing it was not worth fighting over the years of friendship for a guy and made Mount Abu happen for Naina for the sakes of their friendship. That was the kind of friendship that has my heart - both parties making mistake but also making amends for the sakes of friendship.

However, that kind of closure does not happen anymore in YUDKBH. Before all relationships including friendship was handled with care. However, now it is only about leads holding the fort and the sides are out to foil their happiness. This kind of mundane and cliched storyline is one of the reasons the show is not as gripping as it was earlier.