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Posted: 6 years ago

#21

Originally posted by: Three.Broomstic
Manhandling is abuse no matter whether it's done by a gentleman or otherwise.
Abuse should never be justified by romanticizing it

That's why I made that the title .
It's not a justification about the action , more like what lead to the action .

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Posted: 6 years ago

#22

Originally posted by: music_l0ver036
I do not agree with this post. It's easier to excuse his actions because what he's doing is going to benefit Prerna in the long run. Everyone understands that and we like that he's the only one that can see Prerna's discomfort. However, Prerna has told Anurag EVERY SINGLE TIME to leave the situation alone. Not just one or twice, every single time that he has brought it up. I understand Anu's frustration, I really really do but the approach is nearing rude and entitled. He is Prerna's friend, but that doesn't make it so that he can shove her against a wall, yell and scream at her (because essentially that has happened), and tell her that she doesn't know what's good for her or he knows what's good for her better than herself. When Prerna has listened to Anurag about Naveen, it has been proved wrong time and again. So from Prerna's perspective, Anurag doesn't have any evidence to back up his claims. So when Prerna says to let it go, he should. Or if he doesn't, he shouldn't involve her until he can prove for 100% that what he's saying is correct. Because involving her and have it proved wrong only adds to Prerna's frustration and annoyance.
All this back and forth is just making Prerna seem dumb for not listening to Anurag because the audience knows that Anurag is clearly telling the truth. I wish Prerna had a bigger role in trying to get out of this marriage deal. Namely, telling people who can get her out of this mess, like Moloy. Or the loan deal she's been trying to get should have a bigger presence.

I think at the end , I am seeing only anurags character develop and not prernas .

I would love to see her take reign of her life and manage to get loan on herself .

I want her to be independent in the true sense of the word , without anyone's support .

Then she will truly be respected .

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adyaa

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Posted: 6 years ago

#23

Originally posted by: jswati200988

Dats not bad actully coz he is not doing it purposely..
He is just doing in frustration so dat somehow she can understand...
Rather for me it is lyk he is so much concerned n lost into her dat he even forgot when he hurted her unknowingly..

I know , but to be fair , this view might seem biased to some .

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adyaa

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Posted: 6 years ago

#24

Originally posted by: Zaya.hp
Pinning against the walls is something I am totally against. And you can see Prerna is not comfortable with what is being done to her. Everything else is okay. I just think Anu needs to calm down and not get hyper each time Naveen is around Prerna. Dragging her, pinning her to walls isn't cool. She is adamant. But so are you. From her POV you got nothing to prove against Naveen but you still keep saying he isn't right. From your POV he sucks and Prerna is just being too stubborn. When you are right from your stand point so is she. He needs to calm down. That's all.

Yes , at the end of the day , my post isn't a justification of the actions .

I am just stating you don't need to downright bash the guy , that's it

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adyaa

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Posted: 6 years ago

#25

Originally posted by: Legilimens
Rough handling of a person's body or manhandling is a form of abuse. It is, I agree, too early to paint Anurag all shades of black, poor bloke has good intentions.
What we want from the makers is to nip it in the bud.
Calling him expressive is justifying it. Oh he mandhandled her because he is frustrated at her for not listening. Justification is constantly shifting focus from actions onto reasons or intentions. Everyone is able to provide 'good' reasons for what they do. At the very least, evaluating and debating keeps the behaviour out of focus or even forgotten. It is been happening for ages in ITV. We just don't want that anymore.

I am. Really sorry , if by any means it seems I am justifying his actions , the only reason for this post is to show what lead his actions , I just don't support downright bashing of the guy. Otherwise , I get where you are coming from

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adyaa

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Posted: 6 years ago

#26

Originally posted by: UKGirl22
The title sounds like the name of a Georgette Heyer novel! The biggest abusers are total gentlemen when they are not abusing.

Again I am not saying Anurag is in that category yet... but he is going down a slippery slope that he writers need to stop.

You can actually make heros that don't need to do that. Don't look at the hero of KRPKAB who make the heroine lose her job, broke off with her, broke her engagement all in the name of his stubbornness. Look at the hero of Naamkaran.

What if this was Prerna. Would we be justifying her behaviour? Why is it only men who get to do all this and get away with it? And women and our female leads get criticised for be smallest infraction?

When it comes down to it , I'll definitely put forward Prernas pov as well .

I am not justifying his actions , just providing the backdrop to his actions as I don't think he can be painted as an angry young man hero yet , that's about it .

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adyaa

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Posted: 6 years ago

#27

Originally posted by: BlueJayFire
I dont see how one can get the truth out standing at a feet's distance..I am totally aligned with Anurag and his actions..Its not manhandling, its rather pushing her to answer him, which he feels is right, as he is her friend..

Even if some people see it as abuse , the reason why I wrote this post , is to show that you can't paint him as the villain Abhi

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adyaa

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Posted: 6 years ago

#28

Originally posted by: reeyacute
Manhandling ...kahan we aaya...pre enjoying every bit if attention she gets from anu...n she is so comfortable with him.
She understands his care for her n allows him to come close to her. With naveen Buddha it is other way round.

The reason for my post is simply to stop people,from painting Anurag as the villain

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adyaa

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Posted: 6 years ago

#29

Originally posted by: memad
nice post...agree it was out of care for PRE..Abuse is a very strong word n can't associate it with Onu now

Exactly ,his actions might not seem appropriate , but you can't bash him for this .

It's wrong call it out ,but it's not like it's the end .

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adyaa

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Posted: 6 years ago

#30

Originally posted by: White..Magic
You should read posts from IPK1 forum and get more ideas to glorify manhandling 😆 or kuch rang forum to defend spineless male lead... Anu is not spineless, but future looks bright...

why do they need villians ki fauj when hero himself can manhandle, bang her with wall, break bangles, twist arms and many more?

I am really sorry, but can you quote one instance where I have stated , " Anurag is totally right in his actions " .

If you are quoting me for glorifying man handling , I have pretty much stated the fact that he didn't leave her hand when she said you are hurting me and sia don you are hurting yourself is wrong .

The only reason for my post , if it was t clear enough , is to let the characters breathe and grow .

If you have got IPK1 in the question , I totally see the leads hands bleeding because guess what the chauvinist temperamental lead broke her bangles ?

Or wait , did the season start with the lead being dragged around by the male lead ?

Also , how did a spineless lead even come in question to this matter ?

Now , regarding the villains ki fauj , those instances are from another show .