Manhandling by the Gentleman

Manhandling by the Gentleman

The gentleman in question is none other than Anurag Basu .

Calm and simple , he is force to be reckoned with .

My eyes , are unapologetically drawn to him , when he is on screen .

Coming , to the recent change that I see him .

The "abuse , as said by some .
It was said , how can someone be okay with it , it's NOT okay , never was , never will be .
However , abuse is very strong word , with lots of emotion , pain , angst and struggle behind it . Referring to that word for his actions , is actually a shame for all those who have ever faced any form of abuse .
I don't mean to offend anybody .
What is being done might not be acceptable , but please don't label it as abuse .

According to me , when I see Anurag , I see a character that has evolved in 34 episodes .

And what an evolvement it was.

He is going through a lot of changes , mentally and emotionally .

He is this Great Wall , the protector , the ideal "man .

He respects you and stands by you .
More over he trusts you .

Now , regarding the way Anurag has behaved with Prerna .

I don't feel pretty negatively about the scene where he does to her house .
Sorry ; not sorry .

You are desperate bud , and guess what . You aren't going to care about propriety when someone who really matters to you is ruining their life .
And if you do , then you don't care about them .
Period .

Now , I do not like one scene per say.
When she says " you are hurting me "
His reaction wasn't per say Anurag like .
He should have been worried , apologised , make a fuss about it like the mother hen that he is .

I strongly disagree with what he said , " you are hurting yourself "
I mean , yes dear shrink - protector - friend - future husband- all in one - Anurag is right on the emotional aspect .
But is he so emotionally involved that he forgets this ?

Regarding the pinning to the walls .
I don't know if it makes sense , but Anurag is very expressive .
The way he held Dadi's face . Hugs everyone whom he respects and likes .
The pinning to the walls , suddenly , might not be according to the character .

But I am not complying , AnuPre is fire .

He is not a chauvinist .
He is not a typical mamas boy ( case in point :- Mohini explicitly told him to stop haggering Naveen babu , did it stop him ? Nada . He stands for what he believes in truly )

I am fine with his promises , but he needs to keep them . And this is probably the only issue .

much needed post

Originally posted by: moniloveasya

much needed post

u expressed so beautifully anu is not manhandling pre he just trying to make her confess which she did .

yes he is very expressive

Also. , what people don't understand is that when all your efforts fail , you are grasping to the edges .
Time is slipping by and he needs to save Prerna . He is not understanding what's going on and that's why he is acting out . He doesn't need to be bashed because of that .

I do not agree with this post. It's easier to excuse his actions because what he's doing is going to benefit Prerna in the long run. Everyone understands that and we like that he's the only one that can see Prerna's discomfort. However, Prerna has told Anurag EVERY SINGLE TIME to leave the situation alone. Not just one or twice, every single time that he has brought it up. I understand Anu's frustration, I really really do but the approach is nearing rude and entitled. He is Prerna's friend, but that doesn't make it so that he can shove her against a wall, yell and scream at her (because essentially that has happened), and tell her that she doesn't know what's good for her or he knows what's good for her better than herself. When Prerna has listened to Anurag about Naveen, it has been proved wrong time and again. So from Prerna's perspective, Anurag doesn't have any evidence to back up his claims. So when Prerna says to let it go, he should. Or if he doesn't, he shouldn't involve her until he can prove for 100% that what he's saying is correct. Because involving her and have it proved wrong only adds to Prerna's frustration and annoyance.

Pinning against the walls is something I am totally against. And you can see Prerna is not comfortable with what is being done to her. Everything else is okay. I just think Anu needs to calm down and not get hyper each time Naveen is around Prerna. Dragging her, pinning her to walls isn't cool. She is adamant. But so are you. From her POV you got nothing to prove against Naveen but you still keep saying he isn't right. From your POV he sucks and Prerna is just being too stubborn. When you are right from your stand point so is she. He needs to calm down. That's all.

Originally posted by: AdyaXoxo

Also. , what people don't understand is that when all your efforts fail , you are grasping to the edges .
Time is slipping by and he needs to save Prerna . He is not understanding what's going on and that's why he is acting out . He doesn't need to be bashed because of that .

Rough handling of a person's body or manhandling is a form of abuse. It is, I agree, too early to paint Anurag all shades of black, poor bloke has good intentions.

The title sounds like the name of a Georgette Heyer novel! The biggest abusers are total gentlemen when they are not abusing.

Again I am not saying Anurag is in that category yet... but he is going down a slippery slope that he writers need to stop.

You can actually make heros that don't need to do that. Don't look at the hero of KRPKAB who make the heroine lose her job, broke off with her, broke her engagement all in the name of his stubbornness. Look at the hero of Naamkaran.

What if this was Prerna. Would we be justifying her behaviour? Why is it only men who get to do all this and get away with it? And women and our female leads get criticised for be smallest infraction?

I dont see how one can get the truth out standing at a feet's distance..I am totally aligned with Anurag and his actions..Its not manhandling, its rather pushing her to answer him, which he feels is right, as he is her friend..

Originally posted by: music_l0ver036

I do not agree with this post. It's easier to excuse his actions because what he's doing is going to benefit Prerna in the long run. Everyone understands that and we like that he's the only one that can see Prerna's discomfort. However, Prerna has told Anurag EVERY SINGLE TIME to leave the situation alone. Not just one or twice, every single time that he has brought it up. I understand Anu's frustration, I really really do but the approach is nearing rude and entitled. He is Prerna's friend, but that doesn't make it so that he can shove her against a wall, yell and scream at her (because essentially that has happened), and tell her that she doesn't know what's good for her or he knows what's good for her better than herself. When Prerna has listened to Anurag about Naveen, it has been proved wrong time and again. So from Prerna's perspective, Anurag doesn't have any evidence to back up his claims. So when Prerna says to let it go, he should. Or if he doesn't, he shouldn't involve her until he can prove for 100% that what he's saying is correct. Because involving her and have it proved wrong only adds to Prerna's frustration and annoyance.

All this back and forth is just making Prerna seem dumb for not listening to Anurag because the audience knows that Anurag is clearly telling the truth. I wish Prerna had a bigger role in trying to get out of this marriage deal. Namely, telling people who can get her out of this mess, like Moloy. Or the loan deal she's been trying to get should have a bigger presence.

Yes,Prerna does not have any reasons to believe Anurag,but so does her reasons for marrying Naveen is equally stupid.The track is not well built.It has been so many days since Prerna agreed to get married,she had plenty of voluntary saviours,still she is choosing to marry a lecher ,who does his lecuergiri openly,she is stupid,big time,or her track is making her seem so.So Anurags actions are justified,but I'm not condoing violence,they need to sure the it stays with assertion and does not cross over to aggression.