Best friends as roomies/ Neighbours

Keep the best time with friends seperate but haivng someone close.... living 24/7 near yaa somehow creates a changes of disagreements and differences.

Would you prefer one's best friends to be shairng your room's or being next door? Or is there some distance required for long term friendship.

Its like being married...when u stay together u get to know a lot of things about each other which u may not necessarily like but if you value the person and friendship these things dont really matter in the long run and you slowly adjust to the good and bad habits of your roomie...

unless of course its something as serious as snoring...which is known to have been teh reason cited for many a divorce.. 😆


Last but not the least...Anshu ji...jai ho..for bringing up the most interesting topics consistently! 😃

Originally posted by: TallyHo

Its like being married..😆lol .when u stay together u get to know a lot of things about each other which u may not necessarily like but if you value the person and friendship these things dont really matter in the long run and you slowly adjust to the good and bad habits of your roomie...

A friend never Adjust.....he fight😆

unless of course its something as serious as snoring...which is known to have been teh reason cited for many a divorce.. 😆 -- 😆lol

snoorning is good at night.....no need to buy a dog...😉just fit a mic...thats enough😉😆

Last but not the least...Anshu ji...jai ho..for bringing up the most interesting topics consistently! 😃

I think best friends can be neighbour...but very difficult as roomies😉😆

Sharing a room with your best friend can either be the best thing you do for your friendship or the worst. Honestly, it could either way, and there's just no telling ahead of time how it's going to play out. When you live with someone and spend a whole lot of time with them in your personal space, you definitely learn a lot more about them than you normally wouldnt have had you remained casual buddies. So I guess whether you remain friends or throw the friendship out the window really depends on what it is that you learn about them, and how well you can take this new perspective of them. In some ways, it's the ultimate test of friendship...because if your friendship can survive this intense proximity, then it probably can survive everything else.

Rooming with friends is a very delicate matter. It is one thing to hang out, spend time etc work with a person for short periods of time. Sharing a living space is a completely different ball game.

When you share living space there are so many factors that affect the relationship. How clean and organized a person is or not. How late do they stay up, how early do they wake. Are they noisy, are they quiet. Are they reserved, or do they like having company over. How long do they occupy bathrooms and showers. So many other factors.

Chances are that if you are a neat freak a disorganized roomie could drive you up the wall, if you like curling up with a book to relax and your roomie likes to play video games and watch Tv aloud 24/7 then there will be a lot of conflicts. You would be better of sharing a room with someone you do not know that well but has a similar lifestyle and thought process as yours.

Other trivial things matter. I have seen once best friends argue about silliest things. One person may think that they are close enough friends to eat the other person food or share clothes, but there is a delicate line and some people end up crossing the lines of personal space. There are also arguments like cable bills where one person will argue that they never wanted cable so they wont pay for it and then another will say oh well then don't play X-Box, its mine and stuff like that. No matter how close you are as friends, it is always in best interest to write down how bills will be shared and set ground rules on privacy, food, clothes, sharing stuff etc.

However, sometimes people just click. Two friends may have a lot in common that rooming together feels natural. The relationship is almost family like, leading to minimum conflicts. When people are open minded even starkly opposite people manage to room together, tolerate differences and adapt from each other.

Then also sometimes roommates can end up being a lot more than friends. 😉 When that happens it is a whole new ball game and a whole set of issues to consider.

Bottom line rooming with friends is possible. Distance is ideal but not necessary. Just make sure you give it a lot of though, assess your personalities and are mature about the situation.

ok if you cant have your best friend as roomie. i think thats not a best friend... best friends are best friends... i would share a room, and even have them in my neighborhood.... man thats one big thing...distance makes relationships fonder doesnot apply here... 😊

there is one issue though.. best friends with spouses is a different issue altogether..

Originally posted by: TallyHo

Its like being married...when u stay together u get to know a lot of things about each other which u may not necessarily like but if you value the person and friendship these things dont really matter in the long run and you slowly adjust to the good and bad habits of your roomie...

unless of course its something as serious as snoring...which is known to have been teh reason cited for many a divorce.. 😆


Last but not the least...Anshu ji...jai ho..for bringing up the most interesting topics consistently! 😃

Ashuji..or Dr Saheb... Thank you... try my best to keep this place moving...many more deserve this encouragement..and 👏 to all topic openrs including you😳

Re: Topic 😆 great response...feel maaraige is something different otherwise avoid living with loved family or friends.

@return_to_hades

I think you've put down the point really well. But what' your opinion, is there a hard and fast rule if friendship can survive this?

Well, what i think, is that if you were roommates who became friends because of the fact that you were made to live together, and the fact that you did not choose this person, then adjusting things might be tough. Only time can tell.

However, if this person is a good friend of yours who you can talk to without feeling shy, or hurting his/her feelings, then chalking out limits and boundaries, who handles what, and things like that, shouldn't be too much of a hassle...

Speaking of which, leads me to the topic of "Different genders being roommates" but let's not get into that! 😳

Nice topic Raj!

-Sam

At the cost of opening a can of worms, anyone else notice how different genders answer this question different? 😛 Girls are all like, "Umm. I dont know. Rooming with your best friend. Yeeeah. Doesnt sound like the most brilliant thought." While guys are like, "Sure, you can crash with me. No problem. Aakhir dost hai mera."

I think men will sleep with anyone (no pun intended), while girls are much more selective about who invades their space.
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Originally posted by: ~globetrotter~

At the cost of opening a can of worms, anyone else notice how different genders answer this question different? 😛 Girls are all like, "Umm. I dont know. Rooming with your best friend. Yeeeah. Doesnt sound like the most brilliant thought." While guys are like, "Sure, you can crash with me. No problem. Aakhir dost hai mera."

I think men will sleep with anyone (no pun intended), while girls are much more selective about who invades their space.
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😆😆😆 very well said👏...and ..ummm...no pun noted😉😆😆