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Arziya

@Arziya

Moderator

+ 12

Posted: 7 years ago

Would you be as Zoya or would you shout your heart out in the situation Zoya is on her wedding day???

if Adi loved you and goes through the same thing Zoya is right now, would be quiet and cryful or would you have guts to talk to your Dad..that ENOUGH IS ENOUGH...😆😆

Just a weekend topic to chat on😉

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Isha

@tereliyex

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+ 3

Posted: 7 years ago

Honestly, I would've never let the situation escalated to a point where I would have to embarrass my family, Arshad & his family, & Aditya that publicly in front of everyone.

If I was Zoya, I would've called off the wedding beforehand. I would've apologized to Arshad and spoken to Waseem that I am not in the right state of mind to go ahead with this marriage, and if he yelled at me (which he probably would) I would probably try my best to go away from everyone for a few days to clear my mind.

If I am convinced that I love Aditya, I would've made him come with me too, because we deserve it 😆

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anjaanichudi

@anjaanichudi

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 7 years ago

I don't think i wud hv had d guts to run away at d end moment putting my family's reputation at stake, but at d same time i don't think my father wud be so oblivious to my pain.

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Mystique

@mystique_4008

Rocker

Posted: 7 years ago

I would not have agreed to the marriage at all and if the guy takes no for an answer which arshad indirectly did would have told him to f**k off 😆 but if I was forced at gunpoint for the rishta, I would have ran away from home the night before the wedding 😆

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Hend Refai

@Hend_Refai

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 7 years ago

As a Muslim

acceptance is a condition in marriage in Islam. So if I was in Zoya's shoes I would never ever accept to marry someone I can't live my life with him. No one can force me to accept a husband I don't want. and that is not just for me as Hend it is for all the Muslim women or men

But if I was Zoya I would never ever say yes to the engagement.. and if for any reason I made that mistake and said yes till the wedding day. I will speak up and tell everyone I can't marry this man. I will do it respectively talk with my family first respectively and if they didn't accept my opinion I would talk to the man and tell him I don't want to marry him. Even if he doesn't accept No for answer I will tell the Ma'zoon or like you call him Imam that I don't accept this marriage. in this case he can't marry me forcefully.

About Aditya and all the humiliation he got from my family. I would never ever accept that. I would stand for him and defend him because he is right not because I love him.

But if you ask about Muslim girl POV. I would never ever love any non Muslim man because it is forbidden for us to marry a non Muslim man

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Karia

@Kaaria

Inactive

Posted: 7 years ago

I would NEVER put Them (Parents, Arshad's, Adi) at the spot of the moment. It would be the most cringe worthy moment... get them go through all this humiliation.

If I were in doubt about the whole feelings towards my best friend I would never agree to say 'I Do' in the first place. This is where a proper communication comes into picture, I would have informed them of what Im going through so they know how to adapt.

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Hads

@Hadz

Dazzler

Posted: 7 years ago

Ooh very nice topic!

I would never allow myself to be in a situation where I married for the sake of it. And if I was, i'd be sure why I did it. Not for family reputation but my own reasons.

However, if there was a man like Aditya so madly in love with me, I would take that to my parents from the start. Make sure its done properly and not against any family or friends, make it accepted before reputation becomes an issue.

And I agree with @Hend I wouldn't marry a non muslim.

Luckily I already have my man phew!

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Tyshal

@Tyshal

Navigator

Posted: 7 years ago

If I were zoya ND had been gone through the same she had been...If I would have loved someone madly, eloped nd married to him against my parents wish...Nd then if that person wd hv cheated on him...honestly...I can understand zoya's state of mind...Mujme itni himmat bachti hi nhi ki Mai kisi aur ko pyaar kru...Ya usse Shadi kr lu...Even in case of Aditya...

But it doesn't mean that if someone has proposed me...To Mai usse khu ki tumne mujhe dhoka dia Hai...Aur kisi aur ko Jake Shadi ke liye Haan bol du... This is wrong...By each n every means...I m being selfish to everyone...To the man who loves me...To the man who is going to marry me... Infact I m being selfish to myself...

So I simply say no to both of them... WD try to make understand about my POV...Nd then I will fully concentrate on my career...

Wo kehte Hai naa..." Aur bhi ghum Hai zamane me...Mohobbat ke Siva..."

And then to distract my self from all this mess...Nd to give some time to myself...To live alone...I would like to go to Paris...Well...As zoya...I'm a business woman and can do whatever I want to do...I WD let myself chill...Yes it is difficult...But is very essential...

I wanted that zoya should have done the same...Nd adi ...Of course...He wd respect her decision...Nd WD wait for her...

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Shahnaz

@ShenzK

Stunner

+ 4

Posted: 7 years ago

I personally wouldn't embarrass my family, Aditya, Arshad and their families. But being the person that I am, I wouldn't decide to marry someone when I am consumed with rage. I would rather clear my head.

The feeling is completely disastrous. Losing a friend, the only friend is hard.. it drains all the emotions. I would rather straighten my thoughts, clear my head.. talk to my azeez dost, clarify things.. and then I might decide of something .

But in no way, would have I gone ahead with the marriage when I am not certain of anything.. and if my parents would try to pressurise me, I would have taken a holiday. Some good resort, beach side.. nice view.. would help 😆

And if Aditya loved, he would join the holiday too ;)