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Call me a cynic, but in a way this show is a true reflection of our society (and I don't just mean the Indian society but even here in the West though it is less prominent).
We have Kunal. Like most men he sees himself as the saviour, the manly being, the hero. He imagines himself as saving the damsel in distress (thank you Disney for all those princely stories that children grow up with). He wants traditional, abla naari in distress, but he also wants the independent, strong, financially sound woman. And in a way that's a reflection of our society. Think about it. As a child, a boy is told that tears are a sign of weakness and that he is strong. But he's also told to respect women and give them independence. When you're taught two basically opposite morals, you're going to grow up confused.
Then there is Mauli. She was probably raised with the belief system that she needs a man to survive and that she must always treat her man with respect and reverence. But she also grew up in a situation where she saw independent women and saw women in roles of "power" and authority. She grew up in a society where she was taught that women can be anything they want, but they must be married and keep a man. So, of course, she was trying to juggle house duties with keeping her husband happy and working as a doctor.
Nandini is the quintessential abla naari. She not only grew up in a society where she was taught pati bhagwan hota hai, but she probably saw that so much around her that she believed it. That's why she refused to believe Mauli originally about Rajdeep. That's why she stuck with Rajdeep for so long, believing that if this next thing happens then everything will be alright. That's why now that she's without Rajdeep, she went and stuck to the first man who "saved" her even if it meant destroying her own friend's house.
In some ways even Rajdeep is a reflection of our society. He grew up to a belief system and seeing that women are meant to serve men, they are men's servants. He probably saw himself as this strong, independent, hardworking man who deserves a woman's absolute subservience to him and whenever he felt that it wasn't there, he got angry. Now that Nandini has left him, he feels less manly because a woman is never supposed to leave her husband. So he needs to bring her back at any cost.
Don't get me wrong. I'm not justifying any of these characters. It's just that, for the first time since I started watching, I took a step back and tried to understand what the CVs are showing and why and I realized that they are showing reality.
EMAs have become rather too common nowadays and their repercussions are pretty much as seen in the show. Society raises its fingers on the women. Both Mauli and Nandini are getting blamed for it. Mauli because she wasn't a good enough wife and Nandini because she is the one who broke Mauli's house. Kunal will just get a clean chit. And that's how it has always been. Aurat hi aurat ki sabse badi dushman hoti hai. That's exactly what is being shown here. Mauli's mother blamed Mauli for the EMA saying she couldn't keep Kunal happy. These society women are blaming Nandini for being a homewrecker saying that she must have enticed Kunal somehow.
Yes the CVs are going overboard with certain scenes and situations, but in a way, this whole thing has been handled like our society would handle it. And you know what? They want us to get angry about it. Just look at the anger here and on social media. People are bashing Kunal and Nandini for what they did. People are questioning why the society women even interfered. There are discussions on what should happen next. We all have our opinions and many of these opinions are breaking the societal norms.
So yes, I feel that this show is a true reflection of society, but I also believe that we can take those first steps to break these societal norms.
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