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Hi forum wasis, got some free time now. Sunday night. So, thought about writing down some points. Any way I am just tired writing for journals whole day. They are so boring. But writing on human emotions of love, hate and friendship always tugs the right strings to make you active and awake.
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There seems to be a lot of theories floating around on the probable resolution to the ongoing track of forced separation. (I say forced as I feel its indeed forced to certain extent).
Anyways, here are some of the floaters I read in the forum: (I have no idea if those are true spoilers or imaginary shooters)
- Chachaji somehow saves Naina from immediate marriage predicament. Naina is again in-debt to him. Delves further in to study. Sameer decides to get her back and the best approach is that he tries to start "JUST FRIENDSHIP" with Naina and eventually Naina again Falls for him.
- Naina meets the prospective groom at a coffee shop. Incidentally Sameer is also there with his family to celebrate his Mamiji's B day. Naina sees Sameer.
- May be then either Sameer gets the shock to come out of Beard Mode to again get his Naina. Or,
- Seeing Sameer and his condition Naina finally realizes that she can be with no other man sharing the same room and life.
I do not know whats going to be the approach of the writers (considering the TRPs and the channel).
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However, here are some of my modest observations:
Scenario 1 - Sameer & Naina as Friends - Again!
(Whats the difference between friendship & love)
A friend is some one:
1. With whom you can spend hours and days but when you sleep or are alone you do not crave for him/her. Its like breathing, you keep doing it 24x7 but you do not feel it always consciously.
2. The moment you are alone or sleep, you just go to your peace land, without any conscious thoughts of any one. You have no cravings for any particular friend.
3. You do not feel warm thinking of any one of your friend. You do not crave for him or her. If you feel the need of hormone induced hunger, you remember some distant unknown crush like a movie star, actor or actress. Even if you feel attracted to any one friend physically, you do not feel the Warmth of protection along side attraction for him/her.
4. You do not wake up with the hunger to meet any one friend in particular, or to do some thing special to make any one particular person happy.
5. You feel happy for your friend, but you do not feel like you have achieved everything in life seeing any particular one smiling.
6. You do not feel pangs and hurts of jealousy seeing any one particular talking or interacting with any other boy or girl.
And Love ...
When you feel you are going contrary to all the points mentioned above for any one particular friend, then you can be sure that you have crossed the level of friendship with that friend.
Your mind, body and being will revolve around that friend. You feel protection, passion, attraction and longing for him/her to accept you something more than a friend. Your decisions will revolve around that friend.
You feel jealousy, hurt & anger running though you when you see that one particular friend talking and interacting with another boy or girl - a bit more longer than you can withstand.
And when that friend, also reciprocates to you with the same feelings and intensity, then friendship is long over. Its Love!. Deep and Passionate Love!
It is never possible to get back to that friendship zone when your mind, body and soul craves for that friend with emotional and physical intimacy. You sole purpose is to shower love and get love. (in all its forms)
Considering the entire current scenario, Sameer deciding to just be friends with Naina and Naina accepting to be that ... Its not possible and very un 90's.
And Sameer has to be Naina's friend for what ? To dance at her marriage ceremony with some other guy 😆 or Naina clicking photo with Sameer and His Wife in Sameer's marriage reception.
That is not 90s story. That becomes the 21st century love story.
After all that has happened, if Sameer and Naina has to be friends again to do what ? Realize each other importance in life? To again falling in love, once more? Feeling strong emotions for each other ? They have and already done all these aspects. They are already united at multiple levels.
So, showing a friendship phase again will be stale. With some slo mo rehashed romantic scenes (No doubt we all will love the romance scenes) that really serves no purpose. Friendship is required to build till the point of love.
However, at this stage, use of friendship so that Naina again falls in love or realizes Sameer's importance in regards to marriage and future - is pointless.
If she still has to realize "Sameer's Shadi Wala Pyar" then friendship track is not real enough. Its very Soapy.
If Naina still needs to realize the value of Sameer (as the steady rock to her future with whom she should put efforts to make a future), if Naina still needs to realize that he is worth the effort, If Naina still needs to relize that she needs to gather courage to fight along side Sameer for their future, then,
it is time for Sameer Baba to change his track towards Su-Naina😆. She definitely seems to carry "Shadi Wala Attraction" for Sameer.
Scenario 2 - Naina with another guy at restaurant and her feelings seeing Sameer or Sameer's reaction seeing her
Naina Feels Pity
I hope we do not get it that way. I guess none of us would like to see Sameer getting back Naina in his life because She felt pity seeing the condition of Sameer. The dignity and pride of Sameer's character needs to be restored.
Naina realizes that she cannot be close to any second man ditching Sameer from her side
Though I personally do not prefer, yet it can be the most preferable and viable solution.
Naina's mind and body won't allow her to think of any other man. She will cringe at the thought of any other man touching her and getting close to her.
And then she sees Sameer at the restaurant and sees him trying to get along with the day with the help of his family.
When the prospective groom tries to initiate a hand hold, she relizes that the mess she has created and the pain she has given to him and herself.
The perceived pain she was trying to save Sameer from, she has given him that much amount of pain and more. She also relizes that she can never be emotionally and physically intimate with any other man but Sameer.
She refuses the marriage. She decides to get back the love she has let go.
But it should not be made easy for her.
Due to her knee jerk, unilateral and unfair decision, Sameer has changed.
She realizes that due to her decision Sameer is extremely hurt which has changed him. He might love her but he is now indifferent to her and back to being the hard shell he was. He is like a stone like before trying to move away from anymore betrayal to his emotions.
Naina should now feel the real desperation of losing Sameer and his "Shadi Wala Pyaar" (not the sacrificing proud sadness she felt when she left Sameer for his good - to retain the family name).
Hence, it should be Naina's redemption track where she not only has to put efforts to gain Sameer's trust again but she also gets strong enough to Face her family and Sameer's family to be with Sameer.
That for me will make a justified viewing.
Rest, you all dedicated fandom will know the best.
CID
Anupamaa
