Question regarding Sonakshi

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Shaavi

@Shaavi

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Posted: 7 years ago

Hello everyone, Since the DT mentioned that we should open a new thread from that last one, I am creating this new post. 😊

Today, I was reading a FF and suddenly got this question. In the series, Dev is shown over and over again to say that he loves Sonakshi and that he cannot live without her. He is shown to breakdown without her, act crazy and do all sorts of things because of that. He is shown to breakdown during the initial breakup phase, take to drinking, become stalker etc. Because of all this, Ishwari then goes and begs Sonakshi to accept Dev's marriage proposal. Even during that time, he is shown to bend over backwards to keep her happy. Post leap, once the truth of Suhana and everything starts to come out, he is once again shown to tell her how much he loves her and how he cannot live without her(the truth juice episode). Then during Nisha's marriage track, he is shown to publicly, in front of everyone accept that he still loves Sonakshi. After Sonakshi comes to IN, he is shown to say it over and over again of how important she is to his life. During the over protective track, he is shown to go overboard in his trying to protect her. Where he once again says that she is the most precious person in his life and that he cannot live without her. Ishwari is also shown to reiterate this to Sonakshi over and over again. During the second pregnancy track, he once again choses her over the unborn baby saying you are more important to me. He even protests and fights with Ishwari for that.

Even after all this, during the later episodes of pregnancy, where she is shown to have mood swings, she is shown to "fear" losing his love. She tells Asha, that if Dev or Ishwari sees her mood swings, they will stop loving her.

Question: Why does Sonakshi feel like she will lose Dev's love, if she shows her human side, the weaknesses, the flaws and faults. Why does she have the fear that Dev will stop loving her for any reason. I mean what else can he do to show that he loves her no matter what. Where is her need for projecting that "perfect person" for Dev to love coming from.

Somehow I don't think it is Dev who has caused that fear. He has never really given any indication that he would reject or leave her if she is not perfect all the time. So why exactly she has that fear and where is it coming from.

Please help. 😃

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Jennifer

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Posted: 7 years ago

Hi Shaavi!

Hope you are hale and hearty :)

Interesting question and I would love replying to this as soon as I get some free time.

Would be an interesting discussion...

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Suchi_Ejf_fan

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Posted: 7 years ago

Shaavi

I always felt that sonakshi was insecure about herself. She always used to think she's not capable for Dev and his family. No matter how much Dev express her that he loves her.

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Mahi

@Mannmohanaa

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Posted: 7 years ago

Hey!

I feel Sonakshi's thought about Dev & Ishwari not loving her since she'll turn fat, itself is a mood swing. There was a bit of justification from her side, she didn't want to throw tantrums, crave for non veg and do other weird things in front of them, causing them inconvenience. That shows her innocent love and not much. I think it was a light hearted thought there, she didn't want to annoy her loved ones 😆

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Uttara1112

@Uttara1112

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Posted: 7 years ago

Adding to that question, let me also ask how Dev felt that she was just much in love with him as he was with her even after she refused to accept that she did love him after the Nisha engagement stopped? She WAS willing to let him get married to someone (tho he wud have been in for bigamy). It was NISHA who stopped that farce not either of them. So if Nisha had kept quiet, Dev might have stopped it at some point bcos that was his plan all along. But Sona clearly had no plans of stopping it right? So was she okay with him getting married?

Edited by JALK2000 - 7 years ago

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Shaavi

@Shaavi

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: ..AjabdeBaisa..
Hey!
I feel Sonakshi's thought about Dev & Ishwari not loving her since she'll turn fat, itself is a mood swing. There was a bit of justification from her side, she didn't want to throw tantrums, crave for non veg and do other weird things in front of them, causing them inconvenience. That shows her innocent love and not much. I think it was a light hearted thought there, she didn't want to annoy her loved ones 😆

So was it ok for her to show that "tantrums" in front of a relative stranger RONITA and Bijoy and Asha. Why didn't she think that Bijoy, Asha, Ronita, or Sarah would love her less seeing her tantrums. Was she not afraid of losing their love. Wasn't Dev talking about her not showing any mood swings a few minutes before she starts that wanting to go to Bose house. Doesn't she tell all her cravings of non veg in front of Dev when he gets that halwa. Doesn't she see Dev's face light up when she says she has a craving. Doesn't Ishwari become happy when Dev comes and tells of Sonakshi's craving. hadn't Dev told her over and over again that he loves her no matter what. Still she says that she is scared of losing his love. Somehow this scene did not come off as a light hearted thought for me. It came out more as her not trusting Dev or Ishwari's love and assuming that their love was conditional towards her. It came out as Sonakshi having a "guilty" heart of having caused Dev and Ishwari a lot of harm already and not wanting to add any more pain because of her. Like she didn't consider Dev and Ishwari as "her family", but outsiders.

Edited by Shaavi - 7 years ago

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Jennifer

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: JALK2000
Adding to that question, let me also ask how Dev felt that she was just much in love with him as he was with her even after she refused to accept that she did love him after the Nisha engagement stopped? She WAS willing to let him get married to someone (tho he wud have been in for bigamy). It was NISHA who stopped that farce not either of them. So if Nisha had kept quiet, Dev might have stopped it at some point bcos that was his plan all along. But Sona clearly had no plans of stopping it right? So was she okay with him getting married?

Hi Jalk :)

Fair point this from you.But then it was the same parallel in case of Sona's engagement with Rithwik,isn't it ? Even back then,Dev hadn't arrived to stop the engagement.His only aim was to see her one last time before she got engaged with Rithwik.It was a matter of chance that he collapsed and the rest is history...

These two had always been weak in asserting the importance of their relationship in front of their families(read : Ishwari and Bijoy).

Want to add more but need a bit of time for that.

Will get back on this soon..

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Shaavi

@Shaavi

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: --Jenny2017--

Hi Jalk :)

Fair point this from you.But then it was the same parallel in case of Sona's engagement with Rithwik,isn't it ? Even back then,Dev hadn't arrived to stop the engagement.His only aim was to see her one last time before she got engaged with Rithwik.It was a matter of chance that he collapsed and the rest is history...

These two had always been weak in asserting the importance of their relationship in front of their families(read : Ishwari and Bijoy).

Want to add more but need a bit of time for that.

Will get back on this soon..

@bold. I am sorry that I have to disagree with this. Dev did come to Sona -- Ritwick's engagement with wanting to let her go. But he couldn't. Sonakshi comes to Dev Nisha's engagement with wanting to BREAK it. Sitting in Bose house, in front of Bijoy after he has taken back his promise, that is what she asks -- Now you realized that my happiness lies with Dev. But what am I supposed to do. Go and read his engagement. What is Nisha's fault in all this. That is when Ronita and Saurabh reply that she should go and stop the engagement because Dev loves her and not Nisha. And that if Dev marries Nisha, then no one would be happy. Even Bijoy says go, Dev will be waiting for you. But once she comes to IN, she is unable to commit the "act" of breaking up. Because that would mean, putting the self respect of a girl and her family on the line. Here she felt completely responsible for the situation they were in. And the whole responsibility of the negative consequences was on her shoulder. She had done a blunder and was worried that if Dev would still accept her after all these, the person who sullied his family honor, insulted his family in front of their guests, hurt another girl's and their family's honor. If Dev and his family would still love and respect her when she has committed such a big slip up.

For me Dev - Nisha's engagement was a parallel to Dev -- Natasha's engagement. There too she kept quiet and didn't reveal that she loves Dev. There too she advices him about what he should talk with Natasha. Till the Natasha track, she had been a person who constantly accused him of having become the reason for her family getting insulted, like the Kushal Roy track. Natasha was a girl like her and her family was also like hers. She felt she couldn't hurt another girl to get something for herself. The way Bijoy had taught her was this was "selfishness". And she couldn't bring herself to become the daughter who didn't follow the morals and principles as set by her father. From her perspective, it was bringing shame to the family.

During Nisha's engagement, everyone including Asha and Nisha, tell Sonakshi that she cannot keep that moral pedestal which is hurting the people around her. And that she has to leave her moral high ground to be with the people she loves and the people who love her. That is the question that Nisha asks, how long will you keep your love hidden, how many more girls are you going to hurt because of that. And when Ishwari says that Sonakshi is not a girl who takes pleasure in hurting others and that she cannot do anything like that. Nisha say, yes aunty, one who cannot take a stand for her love, CANNOT DO ANYTHING.

Dev had always OWNED what she was to him, but she is the one who never did that. She is the one who didn't assert Dev's importance in front of anyone. He was the one who was doing that all the time. But after a while he started to doubt if he was FORCING her. He started wondering if she really wanted to be with him or if she was being with him because of pity, of him forcing her(by getting drunk and falling down in her engagement thereby leaving her no choice), because of his mom's begging, etc. In the end, she had to come out of her father's shadow(where she leaves when Bijoy goes to get umbrella) and let go of those absolute morals, his dreams for her and accept her own dreams and desires as RIGHT.

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Uttara1112

@Uttara1112

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: --Jenny2017--

Hi Jalk :)

Fair point this from you.But then it was the same parallel in case of Sona's engagement with Rithwik,isn't it ? Even back then,Dev hadn't arrived to stop the engagement.His only aim was to see her one last time before she got engaged with Rithwik.It was a matter of chance that he collapsed and the rest is history...

These two had always been weak in asserting the importance of their relationship in front of their families(read : Ishwari and Bijoy).

Want to add more but need a bit of time for that.

Will get back on this soon..

HI Jenny

Lovely to 'see' you after such a long time.

Abt this, I think Dev was an idiot (and a dangerous one actually) during the Ritvik engagement time too. In fact, if I were Sonakshi I wud not go back to a man who stalked me at all. So, that kind of skews my POV on that.

However, I do think, Dev WOULD have stopped the engagement if SOna had not come to him the previous day and told him to STOP all the crap he was pulling. He would have tried to buy off the hall and cancel the event or done somthgn equally drastic and unpalatable. (Again, I wud not recommend that any girl marry someone who does that) NO matter how much I adore Dev, well, I just cannot blindly say that I actually thought he was just being a passionate lover, stalking her like that or worse, trying to ruin that Ritvik guy's career. That IS what they were showing too- that he stooped down to a level that he himself did not respect himself for, so I guess, they did great job there.

"These two had always been weak in asserting the importance of their relationship in front of their families(read : Ishwari and Bijoy)"- Now this point, I totally agree. Yes, they both needed tutorials on that, esp preleap when neither of them took the initiative to tell their families abt their love- Dev bcos somewhere deep inside he knew Ish wud be a tough nut to crack, Sona- I swear I do not know why (Boys tell first is a reason I do not agree with, sorry:)).

But post Nisha engagement fiasco, I am wondering what on earth gave Dev the impression that SOna still loved him like before. Wasnt that his plan- to force her to confess that she cannot see him wed anyone else by forcing her to take part in his 'wedding' prep?? Well, she did not confess even during his engagement and then even AFTER he had confessed that he loved her in public. Phir what was his confidence based on?? Ki they could still make it work? The proposal at the coffee shop was rather inadequate, I felt and the biggest thing- they just jumped back into playing 'shaadi- shaadi' without ever trying to sit down and air out grievances or figuring out what was stopping them from admitting their love earlier.

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