If Zoya was in Pooja's place

As Pooja justified herself in diary & portrait a person who was dint got junoon wala luv so she opt 4 EMA . I was thinking as Zoya 2 is a poetic person definitely she not a football or game liver person , even she 2 luvs rain. I was thinking at one point of time Zoya will be ado's wife , supposely ADI don't go with Zoya in poetic nights , don't drench him with her in rain causing both of them falling ill , whenever they fight as Zoya will fight in Urdu , make fun of Zoya . So Zoya 2 will opt 4 EMA with reason ADI se Hume nafrat aur pyar ka junoon to Mila par Dosti nhi Mili.

I don't think it's about doing to poetry night or getting drenched in rain, sure, those are some common things that bring a couple together. In this case they have been symbolically used to show how Pooja was craving for something which she was not getting from Adi. Most people think that if only she had communicated with Adi, their problem would be solved. I don't think so. I think they were just not the couple who experienced that all-encompassing,blinding passion for each other. They were the confortsble kind of couple, who were dependent on each other, were comfortable with each other and years of close association made them love each other. Had both of them been happy with arrangement, this marriage would have worked fine. But Pooja was not looking for this kind of love, she wasn't a settler. She was looking for the all-consuming love which made her feel empty from inside. She probably believed that if Adi did the things she enjoyed and she did the things Adi enjoyed, she would find the kind of love she was looking for and when she didn't even get that from Adi, depression set in for her. It is important to remember that Adi being a pilot and staying away from home often didn't help things either. Problems in any relationship occur when two people expect different things from the relationship, this is what happened in this case. As Adi didn't crave for the kind of love Pooja did, he never felt that vacuum in him and his taking Pooja for granted never made him realize that Pooja was withdrawing from him which in only one scene on the very first episode, viewers noticed. As he had known her since childhood, his lack of identification of her withdrawal from him speaks of how less he actually tried to read her probably because he thought there was nothing to read, he knew her well enough, loved her with his whole being and that was that. I think with Zoya, Adi will find that passionate, all-consuming love for the first time and that is when he will find it in him to forgive Pooja because he will finally inderstand what she had been hoping for and move on.

Many people stay in passionless marriages in real life, many people get involved in more fulfilling relationships outside marriage but very few people walk out on their marriage because it is emotionally unfulfilling in real life. Unless the spouse is abusive or addicted or has himself cheated or has done something that society acknowledges as problematic, people usually do not call for an end to their marriage. Emotional fulfillment which I feel is the most important component of any relationship usually takes a backseat because society prepares a checklist and tells you if your spouse fulfills the requirements of that checklist, you are to be happy, if not, you can cry foul. In that checklist, your personality and the kind of love you expect from your spouse or the kind of relationship you have dreamt of are never enlisted.

Athai +1 to your post... I so agree with everything you've written... I will just add one thing . "it all boils down to one thing --expectations vs acceptance "...

Originally posted by: athai

I don't think it's about doing to poetry night or getting drenched in rain, sure, those are some common things that bring a couple together. In this case they have been symbolically used to show how Pooja was craving for something which she was not getting from Adi. Most people think that if only she had communicated with Adi, their problem would be solved. I don't think so. I think they were just not the couple who experienced that all-encompassing,blinding passion for each other. They were the confortsble kind of couple, who were dependent on each other, were comfortable with each other and years of close association made them love each other. Had both of them been happy with arrangement, this marriage would have worked fine. But Pooja was not looking for this kind of love, she wasn't a settler. She was looking for the all-consuming love which made her feel empty from inside. She probably believed that if Adi did the things she enjoyed and she did the things Adi enjoyed, she would find the kind of love she was looking for and when she didn't even get that from Adi, depression set in for her. It is important to remember that Adi being a pilot and staying away from home often didn't help things either. Problems in any relationship occur when two people expect different things from the relationship, this is what happened in this case. As Adi didn't crave for the kind of love Pooja did, he never felt that vacuum in him and his taking Pooja for granted never made him realize that Pooja was withdrawing from him which in only one scene on the very first episode, viewers noticed. As he had known her since childhood, his lack of identification of her withdrawal from him speaks of how less he actually tried to read her probably because he thought there was nothing to read, he knew her well enough, loved her with his whole being and that was that. I think with Zoya, Adi will find that passionate, all-consuming love for the first time and that is when he will find it in him to forgive Pooja because he will finally inderstand what she had been hoping for and move on.

Many people stay in passionless marriages in real life, many people get involved in more fulfilling relationships outside marriage but very few people walk out on their marriage because it is emotionally unfulfilling in real life. Unless the spouse is abusive or addicted or has himself cheated or has done something that society acknowledges as problematic, people usually do not call for an end to their marriage. Emotional fulfillment which I feel is the most important component of any relationship usually takes a backseat because society prepares a checklist and tells you if your spouse fulfills the requirements of that checklist, you are to be happy, if not, you can cry foul. In that checklist, your personality and the kind of love you expect from your spouse or the kind of relationship you have dreamt of are never enlisted.

not a changed adi ,k zoya in pooja's place . i bet zoya would had put all her efforts 4 her marriage , never thought went 4 EMA , never would had justified herself bu writing a diary.